Changes in Life !
By SangsTurks
@SangsTurks (1444)
India
May 22, 2008 1:36pm CST
We women have so many roles to play,daughter,sister,mother,mother-in-law,grandmother etc. And through all these phases in life we have to learn and change so many thing in our life. At each stage you will see that you expect something diffrent from life. Many people say that nothing much changes after marriage, I say your whole world changes. Your life starts to revolve around your child and husband and your own needs become secondary. When i was younger i liked to buy a lot of things for myself,it just made me feel good, but after i had a kid, i think about buying things for him first and then think of myself.
Is it the same with everyone? I left my job to be with my child although i have somebody to take care of my baby.
Are all mother's like this?
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@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
22 May 08
I think once you have a child your instinct to help and take care of others becomes stronger I know mine has. I dont worry about helping myself as much as I do my family. I think most people are like this, but their are those people that just dont get those feelings and dont know how to even show it.
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@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
22 May 08
You are very right,i was not at all the person that i am now,i was very differnt.But after i got a kid ,things changed,i have become very caring and loving person. I think God has put such qualities in women to balance any kind of situation!
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@cukal6 (146)
• United States
22 May 08
I definitely put others ahead of myself since having children. Not only my husband and children, but everyone. I volunteer a lot more, and I'm more courteous to others when I'm out and about. I think I do it to try and make a better world for my children and to show them that it's nice to do things for others before thinking of yourself. I don't have a problem doing it. In fact, I enjoy putting others needs ahead of my own. Don't get me wrong, I still like my vacations and yearly trip to the spa. However, these are my guilty pleasures and I feel like I deserve them once in a while.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
23 May 08
Tell me one thing, Why is it that women feel guilty for things that they enjoy,for things that gives them pleasure. Isn't it your right to enjoy your vacation, and to relax by going to the spa ??? You must be doing so many things for your children, husband, other family menmers and non family members too, So yes you do deserve to be happy.
You seem like selfless to me, that would be difficult for me to be even a bit like you. I can only be selfless for my family and friends and people who are helpless.
You must actually be great,being the way you are in the world today is a tough job!!!! Hats off to you.
@cukal6 (146)
• United States
24 May 08
I don't know why women feel guilty doing things for themselves. I guess for me personally, I feel like I could be using that time helping someone else. My husband says I need to take more time for myself but it never works out that way. Just the other night I volunteered to be the secretary for the PTO at my son's school next year. No idea how I'm going to fit it in, but I'm excited to do it. I already volunteer at our local high school (dance coach) and I don't even have kids that old yet. That takes me away from my family at least twice a week from July - February. It's only right that now I volunteer for something at the school where one of my children actually attends. Any way, I think most women feel guilty if they put their needs ahead of others. It's just in our nature.
