What would you do if you found out your siblings stole your money?

Philippines
May 23, 2008 1:29am CST
My little brother who is already 12 years old has been stealing money from my dad, my sister and myself. He has been doing it for years. The reason why he does this is because my dad only gives him a small amount of money. According to my dad he does this because he wants my brother to learn how to budget his own money not buy spending it all at once. My brother kepts saying that he wouldn't do it again. But recently we found out that he did it again. We are so tired getting mad at him because he kepts doing it several times. What do you think is the best advice we could give him so he wouldn't steal money?
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19 responses
• United States
24 May 08
Your brother needs to know that nothing is lower in society than a common thief! You can take him aside and reassure himn there are better ways to get what he wants! (And you can be a good role model for him!) Your dad may be giving him little cash to keep him from trouble? But if there's a special item/thing he wants, he can either mow lawns and save, or work extra chores for your parents and save that way for what he'd like to earn. Learning to budget money is a very valuable thing. But it sounds like dad cares there? Tell your brother, ask dad for some chores and let him pay him for those..that's also a valuable lesson. Or baby sit (some parents want their little boys to have boy baby sitters to be role models and this may boost your brother's ego a bit in a good, positive way!) and ask the neighbors if they want their cars washed or their windows cleaned for a fee, or at 12..even if they want the garage cleaned up! Your brother SHOULD learn to budget. But if he does not have something he wants, take him aside and give him positive ways to earn his money! I am sure even "dad: would approve and your brother will learn to be responsible! (And if he does ..he will feel beter about himself than what he feels right now stealing!)
• Philippines
26 May 08
Hello gargoyle0134. Thank you for the advice. You're right, by learning to save his own money by doing chores in the house. Im pretty sure he can do that. Thanks so much.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
24 May 08
hide your money better. Punish him more. The more you let him steal from you guys and get away with it the more hes going to try and steal and maybe next time it won't be from you. It may be a store or something. If he sees he can get away with it then hes going to keep doing it. Take him on a tour of a juvy hall and let him see what happens when people steal. It scared my brother from doing crazy stuff. My sister use to steal money from my mom and I ratted her out and she hated me for it ever since. She is older then I am but she is still trying to get back at me for it. Something is wrong with that girl. Good luck I hope everything works out for you guys.
• Philippines
26 May 08
Hello mflower2053. Thanks for responding and for the advice. I hope my brother will learn his lesson.
• Philippines
24 May 08
Well,I think it is best that you tell him to ask for money rather than stealing from you which would make all of you angry.That way,the boy would be less reprimanded and all of you would be at ease knowing that there's nothing missing in your pocket.
• Philippines
26 May 08
Hello kat_princess. Yes, indeed. Stealing is definitely wrong. He should learn to ask rather than steal. Thanks so much for the response.
• Philippines
24 May 08
now that is not a good behavior..i'm afraid it it will not be prevented in sooner time your brother might find it as a habit and worst scenario he might get used of it and steal from someone else's outside the family member( i'm praying not ) coz it if will it will be a big dilemma..you have to fix it right away before it get worst..i find it a natural thing as a child to so such mistake during younger years simply because they want something the easy way..i myself when i was a kid i stole money from a family member..they ask why i did it and i just said its because i wanted to have what i don't have and its understandable..my dad just told me never to do it again and i want to have something precious i have to work hard on it..and i never did the same mistake again..but if this is happening several times and was going on and on then a punishment that could learn his lesson is a must..your dad can have him grounded on his favorite things he loves to do..or he can give him a deserving spank..or he could hit him one time with a stick with both hands when he does it again..it works..don't wait till it becomes a serious problem..
• Philippines
26 May 08
My parents, my sister and I punished him whenever he steals money. We didn't allow him to play outside and use the computer. He got mad at us because we didn't allow him to do the things he likes to do. He really deserves that.
@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
23 May 08
when i was a kid my parents did to me when i stole a penny to them was they just ask me why i did it...then they told me that i can ask a money from them anytime i want...just not to do such stealing coz its bad....so i stopped stealing money but i keep on asking money from them....hehehehe
@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
23 May 08
hmm..i guess my siblings did stole some penny from me...but they still admit that they steal something from me....but its ok....i always say what my parents had told me...don't steal just ask....
@dragxgt (119)
• Philippines
24 May 08
Punishment a ill hit him/her in her butt.. many on how old is she... sample ill say "how old are you" if she responded 12 then shell get 12 hit from her butt... (i remember when my mom hit my butt when i was young because i stole 5 pesos from her cabinet) hahaha
@ml2blog (414)
• United States
24 May 08
In my family culture, if some relative steals money from some family member, the one who does it will get punished by his/her parents. The popupar punishment is hitting him/her with a bamboo. The reason why he/she must get punished is to let this memory remembered for life.
@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
24 May 08
Maybe you dad needs to check is the money he is giving is enough to what he needs, like there should be a little extra. Plus, you have to keep your purses also in a place where you are sure he will not find it, it attracts him to do so when he can just see it, Another is, there should be a consequence for the wrongdoing, though,he is still a kid but once he keeps on doing this, he should be given some task not really a punishment and constant valuing is necessary, he might be bringing that habit when he grew up which of course, we do not want to happen!
@Hatley (164081)
• Garden Grove, California
23 May 08
tell him to earn some money by helping out around the neighborhood. most people will pay kids that age 'to do odd chores for them and the money would be his to do with at he saw fit. He could rake leaves, mow lawns, do chores around people's homes and make some pocket money too.
@ratburn (939)
• Philippines
23 May 08
question is.. where does he use the money for? maybe there is an underlying problem or a vice? if it is only for food.. then maybe just maybe you can ask him to bring his own lunch or something. but if it's for something else, then it's a different story. you should talk to him. you might learn a lot.
@Elixiress (3882)
23 May 08
You could bargain with him, tell him that this is wrong, but if he wanting more money then he can get it. If he does jobs around the house maybe his dad could give him a certain amount of each task etc. This would teach him the message that you have to work for what you get in life. I don't think that punishing him will work, you need to compromise so that he doesn't feel the need to steal.
• Pakistan
23 May 08
this is very big problem but u hav to b very patient because u have to deal it psychologically first u should motivate him to trust on family after that give him extra time and also complete his wishes.when he will start to believe on u then make him explain about this bad habit .must say ur father to talk to him very politely.Im sure he will leave this bad habit.
@lingli_78 (12833)
• Australia
23 May 08
well, i will be very upset and i will tell him/her not to do it again... i think your parents have to discipline your little brother more sternly... if he already learns how to steal since he is so young, what will he become when he grows up??? i hope your parents will be able to find a way to stop your brother from stealing again in the future... take care and have a nice day...
• Philippines
23 May 08
Talk to him about what will be the consequences of his action when he grows older. Stealing and lying are brothers in crime, you must get him rid off it. Many disciplinary modes that can help you. First you can all give him the silent treatment. No one will talk to him 2nd no privileges such as TV and the likes and last don't feed him or feed him food that he generally don't want to eat.
23 May 08
stealing money from family members is the first sign of bigger offenses. if that would happen to me, i would suggest that my parents would take my sibling to a theapist. no offense, of course, but i think your brother needs help so he'd outgrow that habit.
@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
23 May 08
I suggest that you ground your little brother and really make him reflect on what he did. Take away from him all his heart desires like video games, television priviledges, saturday night outs and the like. It's important that he realizes his mistakes because if he won't stop now, he might be in bigger trouble in the future.
@Jemina (5773)
23 May 08
I'm gonna smash his fingers till they bleed so he will learn his lesson. JK! I don't think I can do that. I know it's really a pain and it robs you of your best when your sibling does this thing. As long as he won't do it in another's house, I think it's still controllable. If he has done it for years then it probably would take long for him to break it. I would probably ask him to do some chores and pay him so he won't have to steal my money. But if he doesn't wanna do any work then it's best to keep your money in a safe box. I mean the one with a lock and hide the lock somewhere.
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
23 May 08
I have to say it's not a good behave. Your parents and you have to educate him not to do this again. But one thing i have to mention is that be cautious to add the amonut you give him. Some people may think that he doesn't have enough money, if i raise the amont, he'd quit stealing. Maybe things will not go like that. One of my relative's child do the same thing, when they raised the amount, he stopped stealing for a couple of days. After that,he steal again, he came to realize that once he stoles his parents would raise the amount. That's really bad. You'd better check, if the money's really too little, raise. Otherwise, try to tell him the bad influence of stealing. Hope you will solve this problem soon Enjoy life~~
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 May 08
Stealing is a grievous offense and needs a corresponding punishment for the act. Maybe your father needs to be more consistent in reprimanding your brother about his wrong doing so that he will really mind never to do it again. It would be very crucial if your brother keeps on doing this because he might be tempted to do it to other people, God-forbids.