My Son Does Not Share his Things......Is it Normal!!!

@nupats (3564)
India
May 23, 2008 3:02am CST
hi guys as my son (3 yrs)is growing he has stopped sharing his toys when other children come home.. when he is alone he keeps running and playing and jumping all over the house never touches his toys...the moment some friends come over with their children and they touch any of the toy he goes and takes it away saying its mine and if the other child does not give then he howls....i always tell him u shud share...u also play with their toys ...but he does not budge...finally i have either scold him or the other mother takes the toy frm her kid and gives him (which i normally dont allow) and then the other kid is crying.... the situation is so bad tht we end up just sorting the kids issues and i dont get to talk to my friend...it becomes very unpleasent...is this normal? do u face similar situation? what is the solutions...pls suggest wt do i do to keep peace in this codition..
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@p_vadla (1685)
• India
23 May 08
Not sharing toys when friends come home is never an abnormal thing. Its natural.At that age they are sharing or not sharing means either we have not told them to do or its natural.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
24 May 08
Why wud i tell him not to share...there are so many toys that if 20 children come there will still b many toys left...i keep telling him take ur friends play together...but there they come running fighting for the same toy..can i do anything abt this..pls advise
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@p_vadla (1685)
• India
24 May 08
Still the funniest thing is children fighting for the same toy.Even we offer better and better toys in the situation, they do fight for the same thing till they get distracted by some other totally different activity.
• Australia
24 May 08
This is very normal behaviour, all kids do it. Your son is marking his territory so to speak. Maybe the solution would be to give your son one toy when other cildren are around and give the other child one toy and make it understood in no uncertain terms that your son is not to touch the other childs toy and vice versa. Maybe you could even get your son to pick out a toy that the other child could play with and that way he will feel that he is still in control.
@nupats (3564)
• India
24 May 08
thats a good solution will try this out..i hope this works for me..thank u so much 4 ur advice
@rirbry (353)
• Malaysia
23 May 08
I think you should shown him how to share because it will be his habbit until he grows up.. because a kids is just like piece of paper and we are the one who give colours to it, if you put the wrong colour you can't never erase it back
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@nupats (3564)
• India
23 May 08
yes that is why i m so concerned and i m not able to handle it...i too want him to learn the right things...thank u
@selby70 (283)
23 May 08
My children were like that when they were small I was so concerned I asked the teacher in nursery if he shared there and she said no but she said they are all the same they are mostly only children and they come to nursery and they think everything there is theirs, I shall just tell you about a little incident with my daughter granddaughter and her friend and her daughter a bit older than my granddaughter, she would bring her daughter over and not bring any toys and go on and on about how my granddaughter would not share her toys my granddaughter not being 2 yet, 6 months on my granddaughter does share but now her daughter is a right little bully pushing and punching my granddaughter for no reason. This is hard my children are all grown up now I never forced them to share if they did they did if not it is their toys. They are all great decent honest adults would do anything for anybody.This friend of my daughters who expects my granddaughter to share with her daughter she would not share anything she is a horrible person.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
24 May 08
...in our case we get very little time to catch up with our friends so we wish to sit with a cup of tea and talk but these brats give us no peace we have nothing against each others child but they cant play together keep fighting over toys and when u take them back home they cry like two lost brothers...thank for ur advice