Have you ever been cheated to?
By hanirose
@hanirose (307)
Philippines
May 23, 2008 5:27am CST
I've been cheated to only once, but it wasn't that serious because I had a gut feeling from the start. so I didn't give much effort in the relationship since he did the same too, and when i broke up with him it didn't really matter at all.
Good thing I messaged his friends from myspace who aren't liars at all. They never knew I existed in the first place, so unknowingly they have told me that my ex does have another girlfriend.
that's why I like technology, we can google, message friends, research about people.
But If I would ever be cheated by somebody I really trusted, I don't know what I would do.
How bout you?
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4 responses
@j0anne (19)
• Philippines
24 May 08
I think it comes in many forms, some are simple cheating, some are grave. For me, not telling the truth to your love one (just like what happened to me) is a simple form of that, but after doing some talking i realized that sometimes people opt to just not to tell the truth because they are concerned with what their partner would feel.and sometimes the old saying "what you don't know will not hurt you" applies.
@hanirose (307)
• Philippines
24 May 08
That's a sad thought. For some people the truth does hurt. But that doesn't work for me. If somebody loves you and tells you the truth, it wouldn't hurt because you know that they love you.
Frankly, I'd rather have my lover tell me the truth so we can do something about it if the truth is ever a problem. I believe that honest communication can work wonders in a relationship.
I would rather live in a non-fairytale but reality world than live in a fantasy. I wouldn't care less if it's not a princess-prince/live-happily-ever-after story, but a least it's true.
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
23 May 08
My first husband cheated on me. He did it all the time. I didn't know this until I found a girl's phone number in his pocket while doing laundry. I called the number and talked to the girl and explained who I was. She was shocked and told me that my husband had told her that he wasn't married. We had a little baby, too, just 3 months old.
It hurt severely. I was so in love with him and put up with a lot of things, but this, to me, was so cruel that I couldn't bear it.
I told him to leave, crying the whole time I said it. He asked me if I was sure, and I said yes. There was a lot more than just cheating going on with him, and this was just the last straw. It hurt so much that I got very sick and lost a lot of weight. I believed in love and marriage. I thought it would last forever. (Yes, naive thinking, but I was young.) I had to see a therapist to get over it, but my life slowly started to get better.
@hanirose (307)
• Philippines
23 May 08
I have to say this.. you are so pretty! =P
I admire you for what you have done, I know it took you a lot of courage to do what you did. You loved someone but you have to choose loving yourself and your child.
I'm happy to hear that you are getting better and I can only wish you keep at it! For now, you just focus on yourself and your child.
good luck! and God bless!
@INGA832 (1114)
• Russian Federation
23 May 08
Yes, I've been cheated once. But it wasn't love and it didn't hurt me. We lived in different cities and were going to spend our summer together, the whole year we exchanged messages. And before my leaving there was a call from a girl who said that she was his gf. So I just broke with that guy.
@Power_of_Ganda (217)
• Philippines
23 May 08
Good thing about it I never experienced this but of course I don't wish too and no one wants to experience this kind of situation. If I am in the situation of others who are the victims of being cheated, well I will really do something that they will never forget. Seriously I am going to attack that guy and of course I will fight myself for the sake of justice. That is actually my personality.
