Deleting friend request?

@tdemex (3545)
United States
May 24, 2008 11:02am CST
How long do you wait after you invite someone to be your friend, before you delete the request?
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@echomonster (2227)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
24 May 08
I would wait a week or so if a person is active on MyLot. If they haven't logged in since I made the request, I'd leave it pending indefinitely! Personally, I always make a decision as soon as I realize someone wants to be my friend...thus far, I've only ever declined one person who I was sure wanted to spam me (he had no posts but thousands of "friends" already!). In my very limited experience, other people tend to deal with requests quickly too, but I imagine the most popular people have a lot of messages, discussions, and friend requests to deal with so of course there'll be delays!
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
24 May 08
Thanks for the response, excellent advise!
8 Aug 09
So you actually monitor each and every friend you got? Wow, that sounds like a real hassle!
@tdemex (3545)
• United States
8 Aug 09
Duh!
• United States
18 Oct 09
I must admit, I usually don't check to see if my requests were accepted or not, so I therefore don't delete them. ^_^ However, when I add someone as a friend, usually that person means something to me. So that could be one reason why I don't delete. Most of the time I get my friends from accepting friend requests.
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
18 Oct 09
As you see this was a very old post! But there's a lot of info there! Be aware here in Mylot there are friends and there are close friends. Friends usually don't contact one another but are on the same wavelength, as far as interests fo! Close friends go one step further and can comment back and forth during posts, there are some cliches of people here who have been here a real long time and this makes Mylot more fun than ever! There are many PMs going on here! T-----
• United States
18 Oct 09
Yep. When I first saw MyLot a month ago, I didn't think it would be as fun as it is. That's why I regret waiting to make my account. When I see an opportunity, I usually wait a bit before I run after it. I'm not sure why.
@KrauseHome (36750)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Actually I never seem to check to see if people I have requested to be their friends accepts or not most of the time. I know I should from time to time to see what is going on there. But since my time is so limited a lot of the time it is quite hard to keep up, but I know that really it is up to them to be my friend or not, so if it takes them a while I figure maybe they are busy and time online limited like mine as well.
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hmmmm! I thought people in the beautiful Pacific North West were kicked backed and relaxed? LOL! I used to live in Salem and spent a lot of time in your area! But as I said in an other response I found time time to do things right! I'm the type of person who likes to be caught up! Leaving things for latter is not my style! When I come to mylot I know what I have to do and just take care of it as I go! I keep my friends list clean and up to date! T------
• United States
18 Oct 09
I have the same problem Krause! I tend to procrastinate quite a bit, and this results in my friend lists not staying up to date. It's a bad habit that I should probably kick, heh. Maybe I should start straightening up a bit and keeping my profiles organized. It would definitely be quite a task on some of my other writing websites.
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@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Hello my friend Good question, how long should we wait? I have 2 I am waiting for now, but I know when they see it they will accept, in general how long should we wait?
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Right now I'm at a point where I don't ask many people to be my friend! In your case I'd give em 3 or 4 for days If they don't respond by then they aren't very active here! At least this is my take on it, of course you could come back and say what if their sick or on vacation! What if.. What if.... LOL! T----
@kitty42 (3924)
• United States
26 Aug 09
Hello my friend I know you are so right one of my pending request is a referral don't know what is going on with that, I will ask them if they sign online today, maybe they did not finish the process, I can't open up their profile at all, weird
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@IMEzekieL (500)
8 Aug 09
I won't delete my friends unless they've done something unethical to me or to this site. But to be honest, I don't really know what you mean. Correct me if I'm wrong, are you saying that we should invite someone to be our friend, wait, and then delete him from our list afterwards?
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
8 Aug 09
People ask to be your friend, normally you would go to their profile to see what you have in common by looking at their previous posts and responses! With me? but when people are new they have no history to look at so it's a crap shoot as to what they are like, your taking a chance! Hew people don't usually read the rules or try to learn about this site. They come here thinking that they just start asking a bunch of questions and make a lot of money! With me so far? But this is not how the site works at all! I have custom made my home page here to include: New discussions, Discussions in my interests, New user discussions, My recent posts, Top Discussions, discussion my friends have started! OK so when I open my nylot page all this information is there for me to see! I've been here over 1 year and have friends that I like their discussions because we have a lot in common, but when I add these new people they start pumping out discussions at a rate of 10 in 5 minutes, and they are usually just stupid stuff! OK this is the problem they take over my whole area of discussions my friends started! Got it? This is the problem, if I just delete them then all that crap does away! tdemex
• United States
18 Oct 09
Well said Td. I had no idea there was an area where you could look at your friend's recent posts. That's very handy! I agree. Most new people are still learning and think they can make money by spamming. That shouldn't be how it works, and I'm glad it isn't. On eHow for example, I absolutely HATE it when friends start spamming my articles in the comment section. It drives me up the wall!
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• United States
27 Sep 09
I never do-LOL. Well maybe months later. I never even look to see who I have requested. I only send requests if I have participated in their forums more than once, or they have participated in mine. So I hope at some point whenever they log back in, they will add me. If not, then they won't. No big deal. Can't take making and breaking friends here on Mylot too personally, can ya?
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Well this was a year ago! LOL! But I accept just about everyone, however now I have mt home page here tweaked to make it easy for me. In one section I have discussion my friends have started and that is limited to about 8 of them! So when I accept these new friends, sometimes they come on mylot and for some reason they whip out maybe 4 or 5 discussions in a 5 minute period! LOL! Some of the newbies I have nothing in common with what so ever. I go and delete! There are some that I gel with in one discussion and accept their request and then they start posting a bunch of religion discussions, wham their gone also. So no I have no qualms about deleting friends! I'm getting grumpy in my old age! I just know what I like. Thanks! T----
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
15 Aug 09
Hi Td...I usually give it 2-3 weeks in case someone is on vacation or such or has just forgotten to check their new friend requests. If they are still active on mylot, after a few weeks, pfffft! They simply must not want my friendship lol. Karen
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
15 Aug 09
Hey Thanks for your input on this issue! It's been a long time and I had to refresh my feeble memory on this post! Have a fun day!!! tdemex
• Lubbock, Texas
24 May 08
I don't know. I've always had friends requests approved immediately. I never request to be a friend unless that person has some substantial discussions started or some worthwhile responses.
@tdemex (3545)
• United States
24 May 08
Thanks I don't know I guess I don't meet some persons requirements! Mabe it's slow because a lot of people left town for the weekend. One thing for sure it's not my breath! LOL
• United States
18 Oct 09
Hehe, I'm sure it's not you Td! The people you're probably trying to add as friends are probably away or not checking their friend requests. I do that too sometimes on eHow. I end up not getting to friend requests until a week after they were sent because I'm too busy a specific day or I may not have time at that moment.
28 May 08
I've never actually deleted any, I just leave it.
@tdemex (3545)
• United States
8 Aug 09
Thanks !
@dawnald (84075)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Aug 09
simple answer - I don't...