Is every relation mean?

I don't quite understand if this is a long distance relationship that's making it mean, or if the actions of the other party is causing the distances making the relationship mean. Either way, all relationships aren't mean. A relationship is what the two people makes it. Both parties must work towards building a healthy relationship. If there's love, kindness, caring, sharing, understanding, maturity, and commitment from both people, then this will make a healthy happy relationship. However, if it's a one-sided relationship where there's immaturity, selfishness, unloving, unkindness, unsharing, no commitment, no understanding, and uncaring from the other party, then that makes an unhappy mean relationship. So, it's what's put into a relationship that makes it mean or nice. A long-distance relationship requires a lot more commitment and understanding.