lying.....what to do?

The child has been rewarded by lying! Its not her fault, infact it shows her intelligence! You would do the same thing if each time you did it, you got a reward. The solution is to pay less attention to her, and do not reward her each time she cries wolf. There is not much you can do to help her Mom, but the child will soon learn that her untruths will not be rewarded by You and your Husband.

You need to take this one with Your husband , I don't know how relations are between You and her mom.., can You talk to her mom or not... You can also talk with doctor about this problem... what else to do I don't know..

How old is she. I know a kid that does that to. Its pretty annoying.

It is a hard one there maybe something wrong with her but then she was okay when she was with you, I have a neice who lies she is in her twentys now and the lies are getting worse and worse, The lies she tells here are a few, She said she was pregnant I knew she was not guess what had a misscarriage, her dad was rushed to hospital having a heart attack, he was still at home fine in good health. She was really pregnant but told her mother she had swollen tubes when I told her mother she was pregnant she said no that she had swollen tubes and looked pregnant she had her baby 6 weeks after, said she does not see the father, she is living with him, I could go on and on, that is why lieing has to be stopped no one ever stopped her when she was younger. My son told the odd lie when he was young and I stopped him. The only thing is I have never said anything about how much my neice lies as I never thought it my place and her mother knew but never done anything about it.

Let her lie. What does it hurt you? Sure it may annoy you, but you are the stepmother and I know it's one of the hardest positions to be in in a blended family. It takes a delicate balance to maintain peace and calling the bio-moms daughter a liar is going to cause bigger problems without solving the orginal ones. I'd take this one up with the husband if it REALLY gets to you.

Hi, since you said your step daughter is lying on her health conditions. I think she just trying to draw her real mother's attention and wanted to live with her mum than current house. Just talk to her and ask her whether she's trying to do so to stay longer with her mum. If yes, discuss the solution with her as she need more love and care now. Otherwise, send her to do a thorough body check up for precaution. Who knows she's not lying!!

I wonder if she's really sick, but no one knows what it is. This happened to me when I was around 16. I was allergic, but no one knew what to. Be careful not to dismiss her health concerns. You might just be sorry.

I guess, regardless of what, just think of her as a kid. We've been kids when we were younger, and as kids especially with parents being divorced (or having a "special" family environment) seems kinda odd. Just do not call her names like liar, and things related to that. I guess, one thing you should start with is to establish that you are not going to replace her mom's position. That you can be a friend.