Mother in law pain

@mizcash (686)
Canada
May 25, 2008 8:00pm CST
What do you do with a crazy mother in law, I guess I can't run her over with the car. Mine is a pain where the sun don't shine. She wants to know why I don't give baby meat to eat, I try to tell her we are practising vegetarianism. Why is my dining room walls painted red which is bad for the digestion and her son may develope digestion problem. Well, I told her that a red dining room with dark maghony furniture is what I always wanted and if I don't have digestive problems from her then her son wont from the walls. She is just a miserable bag that needs man. She's always going on a date but I never sees he guy, I want to tell him watch out lol.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
26 May 08
This reminds me of the bible verse that a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law can never go together well... She's always trying to find fault so she can say something that makes you feel bad. And I cannot see the relationship between the paint color and the digestive system . The worst sometimes, if your husband will believe the lies she's going to invent. I don't know what's the scientific explanation about this kind of relationship with in-laws. Luckily, my mother-in-law loves me the way she loves my husband and my kids. I think this is one in a million case and just lucky to be one.
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• Philippines
26 May 08
you are such one lucky person juliefaye.. how i wish my mother in law was like yours. :)
@busta1 (1029)
• United States
26 May 08
hahah thats funny really your stepmother trying to run your life and tell you what to do with your own house and family i would tell her off not caring if she is my stepmother or not i don't let anyone tell me what to do with ma own life and my own family i would have slapped that female.
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• Philippines
26 May 08
i have the same problem with mother's in law.. hey, why does mother's in law is always a pain in the ___? i hate her because she always nag, nag and nag all day long. how i want to put gas in her mouth and burn it.. gee, sorry for that.. i just want to get out of this helly compound co'z i never want to see her face again. but there's just one problem, my husband and i don't have enough savings to look for our own house so i will still sacrifice here until we save some money to look for a house far away from my mother in law and her bad mouth.. :) happy posting!!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
26 May 08
I have the exact same problem and am in the exact same situation. This weekend has been really rough and I even told someone tonight that if we didn't get out of here ASAP I would just leave and not look back. S/o can stay and put up with the crap if that's what he wants to do but I'm not dealing with it any longer.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
26 May 08
OMG, the two of you suffered from your mother-in-law.. i can't imagine myself on your shoes maybe i'll do the same HA HA HA! BTW, haven't you imagine yourself that someday, you'll become a mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law will think the same? Oh my, maybe you won't do what your MIL does because you already know the consequence. I just wish both of you will find a place out from the sight of your mothers-in-law sooner. But, have you tried some reverse psychology? Maybe they are just jealous of you because her son's attention is no longer with her.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
27 May 08
Ugh...julie, I have tod myself repeatedly that I will not be the evil MIL when my turn comes! I have had some practice already as my stepson is almost 18 and has had a steady gf for almost 2 years...well I should say did have a gf because they broke up this weekend....she and I got along quite well and really bonded, right now we're all pretty angry with him about how he's treated her.
@ZephyrSun (7382)
• United States
27 May 08
My mother in law is a pain as well. While we were dating (my husband and I) she was great and then we got engaged, she then turned into some stranger. She went from being extremely nice to trying to ruin the wedding. My now husband wanted his sister in the wedding, found out later that this was because he thought his mother would be upset if she wasn't in the wedding. I didn't really want her in my wedding party but agreed to it because it would make him happy (I had not met his sister at this point she lives in New York and we live in Ohio). As soon as his mother found out that the sister was in the wedding she called me and said oh you have to have this kind of dress (neck line, lenght, color and blah blah blah). I was upset but he said just pick whatever you want the party to wear. Then she called me to tell me that she was wearing a royal blue dressing to the wedding and my mom had to find something to go with her dress (I don't know about everywhere but here in the US the mother of the bride picks a dress then the groom's mother picks her dress to go with her's) I talked to my mom about it and she's like I can live with blue. Fast forward several months, she calls and wants to know about a bridal shower party, I was already very mad at her for everything but I said oh, the bridal party is suppose to do that she didn't want to hear any of that. She instisted that she give the party and if they wanted to help they could. Two weeks before the party she calls me and wants a list of who to invite, I gave her one and she is like oh you are only allowed to invite 10 people. GRRR! Why didn't she tell me that to begin with? A few days before the party she is calling my soon to be husband saying how she can't afford the party blah blah blah and so he says call the wedding party and have them help. She calls my sister and tells her that she needs this amount of money for the party (after the party I found out that my sister paid for everything and more, she told her that all the food and cake was this amount and the funny thing was my soon to be husband went and paid for all of the stuff already which she didn't pay him back for so she kept the money my sister gave her and never spent any money on the party). About 5 days before the wedding we get a call from his sister saying what color do you want mom's dress to be and he's like she is wearing the blue one that she wore to our brother's wedding. She said no she is not I am buying her a dress. So we told her what we would like to wear and the style a few minutes later, crazy MIL calls crying telling him how awful he is for making her wear a dress like that and all that sort of crap. He says if you don't like it don't go to the wedding. She still acts this way, she will call and say come over and change my light bulb, come get this item out of the box I can't lift it, her requests are never ending and very demanding. She has 2 other children but doesn't ask them for anything. She also is very nice to the spouses of the other children. She's crazy and my husband didn't realize until after we were married for a while how crazy his mother was. Final point, we actually were planning on calling off the wedding because I was under so much stress from his mother. He had no idea (or he was to afraid to upset him mom) of what she was doing to me. I am sure that there are MIL's out there that are much worse than mine. But I can honestly say that mine is worse than yours. lol
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
28 May 08
Oh my God girl that is so wild, you mother inlaw is crazier than mine. She als neeeds a a man.
@ZephyrSun (7382)
• United States
28 May 08
Yep she's a nut job! I have had a picky mother in law before but this one wins the crown. What upsets me most is that she lets everyone else think that she is the greatest person. She's all nice to them and this and that. My husband said she has never acted this way to anyone before so I guess I'm so special LOL! Does you MIL live with you? I couldn't imagine that, I would have to move out! Ah I forget to state before that when she sent out the invitations to the party she only put my soon to be husband's name on them as the person she was giving the party for and my family and friends had no idea who the party was for (my extended family only knew him by first name only) so they didn't come.
@grammasnook (1877)
• United States
26 May 08
Mother in laws and daughter in laws, The mother raises the son and believes she knows everything that he likes in life, how when and where, Now here comes the "wife" which will put her at number 2, when she was always number 1. They are threatened that thier son will share the love that he has for her. The problem is that this is impossible. If you love your mother it is in a totally different way than you love your wife. Mother in laws have to realize this. Now wives get into a pissin contest about I am first and whatever, The son/husband has a responsibility to both his mother and his wife. Therefore it is his responsibility to explain to the two women in his life that this is the way it goes. Mom I will visit you on this day, and wife will have no say. I would suggest that it is his time with his mother. It is important for mothers to realize that the sons have a life with his family and not all the time will she be involved in decisions. Once a mother gets out of line the son should stand behind the wife, but it is also the same if the wife gets out of line with the mother. The son should be telling the mother this is what we choose as a couple and that you shuold respect and keep your trap closed. If you dont have anything nice to say you shouldnt say it all. This applies to everyone! As far as the decor of your home, that is your home she was just being very opinionated about something she read whether it is true or not who knows. Honestly I would have said this is what We have chosen as a couple. Are you crazy why would you warn him the more she is out on the date the less time she is with you.
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
27 May 08
But at sometime the MIL has to realize that her son will have to have another woman iun his life and so she will be sharing him. He will never stop loving her because she is mother and will always be. I am just glad mine gets to go home at the end of the day or I might be tempted to pu ants in her bed.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
27 May 08
As a mom to 4 boys and step mom to one more, I wonder about how I will feel when the day comes that I have to 'share' them with another woman. I know it's hard to predict since my own are all under 10 lol but I want to embrace the wives. My sons mean the world to me and I want them to be happy and loved, I don't want to alienate and possibly lose them because of petty jealousy over their wives....but I also know how protective I can be and would get pretty angry if I thought they were going to get hurt. Mother's have a hard job no matter how you look at it!
@StarBright (2799)
• United States
26 May 08
My mother-in-law studied under the queen-mother-in-law of crazy (whoever she was). She never got better, but I won her over. I laughed at her craziness and hugged her often. Buy some alka-seltzer and put them on the table in your dining room in plain view. When she sees them, tell her you thought about what she said and decided to take no chances. The alka-seltzer is cheaper than a can of paint. When she talks about the meat, tell her to go to http://www.peta.org/, or to view the movie "Fast Food Nation." No matter what my mother-in-law said, I had some really stupid, off-the-wall answer for her. She finally decided I was the nut case but she also had to laugh. Don't let her get under your skin. But stay firm. Let her know you are not one she can run over. It has been my experience and observation that evil mothers-in-law really want a strong daughter-in-law so they can be sure their son is taken care of. Go figure.
@mizcash (686)
• Canada
27 May 08
This too funny ,I should definately do something like thast lol. i definately wants her to think I am a nut case. My husband thinks I should just iugnore her for maybe she is bored. I'll definately give her bored
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• China
26 May 08
maybe that's the generation gap.If your mother were still exit,the similar things would happen to you.
@sturner03 (326)
• United States
26 May 08
My stepmother and all my inlaws do the same thing!! We are living my sister in law right now and she is driving us crazy. She tells us what to feed the kids, when to feed them, how to discipline them, when to put them to bed, how many times to bath them etc. I really haven't figured it out yet. The best I do is ignore without her knowing im ignoring. When she has a leg. thing that might work I try it. But sometimes I just have to say HEY THERE MY KIDS I GOT THIS. Good luck./
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
26 May 08
I have several things that I have decided to do just to spite my MIL...if she satys my MIL, which isn't likely at this point but that's a different story! Mine is also the type that I'm sure would comment on my paint choices...she had an odd look when she first spotted my black comforter and red pillow cases. We got past our food issues but that took several years. Ugh...it is so frustrating!