Am i doing injustice to my kid ?
By SangsTurks
@SangsTurks (1444)
India
May 26, 2008 8:00am CST
I am suffrening from Asthma,and i cant play with my child a lot. As i start to gasp for air within a few mins of playing with him. I feel i am not giving him his due attention. He longs to to be in my lap and play, i carry him but only for 5 minitues not more than that.
I feel sad for him,but i can help. I feel very helpless.
I sit around him though, for most of the time. Am i doing injustice to my kid?
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8 responses
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
26 May 08
This isn't your fault, you can't help your asthma, it's no ones fault. You have to remember that it distrupts your life too, and you can not blame yourself all the time.
Can you see a doctor about it? Maybe there's something that can help you control it more.
Or...do you have a dog? You could get your son a dog to play with. He could run with a dog, through the ball for a dog, chase a dog/get chased...I mean a dog could provide a lot of fun for your son, and he'll have you to thank. Sound like something you could do for him?
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
26 May 08
Thanx Lily, that is a wonderful idea. Though, i have thought of getting a dog for him,i dont know what kind of dog to get,i like Labradors.
I am taking medication for asthma,it would take some time to control it. Anyways i really liked your idea,thanx once again.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
27 May 08
Oh I can defeniatly help you figure out which breed to get him! I am around all kinds of breeds all the time for my job! Is your son really active and tough? And would you guys prefer to have a big or small dog?
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
29 May 08
oh thanx! My son is active and tough he keeps on playing the whole day and dosnt sleep which kind of bothers me but anyways. i would like to have a big dog, which breed do you suggest. I like the labradors, but they are were emotional and requires to much of care i believe.I dont want to leave my child and keep petting the dog throughout the day,lol. Any other big breeds that wouldnt require that much of maintenence.
@Sonadora (356)
• United States
26 May 08
No, you are not doing your kid an injustice. It is not your fault. Sure, you would love to run around and play with your son. But even if you just sit and watch and encourage him that is a good thing. Try taking him to a park where he can play with the other kids running around. You can sit and watch and he will have a blast. And trust me you are not alone. Even without the asthma most parents have a hard time keeping up with their kids.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
29 May 08
yes, i have seen my best friends mother suffer from asthma and she could not give as much attention to her(friend).till date my friend feels that her mother cares more about herself than for her daughters! i dont want the same to happen to my child. he is just a year old now so i dont leave him at the park but i have started to play with him sitting. I am also planning to buy a dog for him as advised by one of my mylotters friend.
@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
26 May 08
You give your child as much of your attention you can under the circumstances. No, you are not doing injustice. Try to find games where he can run but you remain seated, like having him dance to music while you make a couple of movements and just encourage him to do more, having him go fetch a ball that you throw. That'll give you a break while he is looking for the ball. Something along that line. If you play seated games like blocks with him and show him how to stack them that's great, too. As long as you are there to watch, encourage, and play just as much as you can, you are a great mom. Believe me, there are many kids who hardly get any attention from their parents.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
29 May 08
You are right,i have this friend of mine whose mother suffers from asthma and i believe she did not get much attention form her mother either. Till date my friend thinks that her mother thinks of herself more than for her!
I dnt want the same to happen to my kid so i am with him most of the time.
@chivolaski (969)
• Philippines
26 May 08
of course not, he knows how much you love him and i'm sure he understands your situation. you can always bond in other ways. what children need most is love and i'm sure you're filling him up with a lot of that!
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
29 May 08
Yes i sure am filling him with lots and lots of love. And he would understand it once he grows up.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
26 May 08
no your feeling is not good. keep fit that is more important .you can not exhaust all your energies for a single event. preserve it to last longer for more occasions.take goos care of yourself so that you are available to your son fr long long time..........
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
26 May 08
Thanx Juhi,yes i try to be around my kid most of the time,i dont leave him alone just that i cant play around with him a lot.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
29 May 08
yes i do stay with him most of the time.i am always around him playing or talking to him. i do Love him a lot,just that kids think that parents dont love the faster than realising what each parent does fro their child.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
For as long as your baby sees you and your attention for him is not neglected, I really don't think that it is an injustice on your child. I am pretty sure that in time you child will understand your situation. Just continue loving your child with the best that you can do with her/him.
@alcazar (761)
• India
2 Jun 08
well...there s nothing you can do bout that dear...i but u too know that u too are missing that play with your kid...but still i pray to god He relieves you from this problem though....
