How honest are you with your husband in simple things?

Philippines
May 26, 2008 10:09am CST
Well, they said that a good relationship should be that each partner must be open and honest to each other even in simple things. Well, it's fine, that is good!! but there are husband or wife who easily flare up when you when you tell them about something that concerns whatever it is in your family or to both of you in particular. This is the reason why some just keep quiet about certain things to themselves. They don't let their partners know about it. But there are others too who would tell whatever it may cost, anyway, he/she will know about it later. For me, I would have to weigh out things if.. is it really needed for him to know about this, or just ok if he doesn't know? and that is before I will decide I have to think about it first. What about you? are you that honest to the detail to your partner? How would you assess on this situation. Thansk for sharing.
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@madlees (1377)
• India
26 May 08
I am always truthful and straight forward to my husband. I never keep things from him. Only if I have a slight doubt that it will hurt him, I might keep things from him , but that too for a little time. I'll wait for the correct time to tell him that. Other things whatever it is I come out with it at once. I cannot keep anything secret. If I do I will get caught very easily. He can catch me because I cannot hide and I am a bad liar. If I know that the thing will surely hurt him, I'll wait for the moment when I can help him face it. I believe that. He also never keeps anything from me. Sometimes he might forget to tell me but he'll come out with it when he remembers after saying that he forgot and sorry. All the best, Dear. I always feel that there shouldn't be any secrets between husband and wife.
• Philippines
26 May 08
Oh wow!! I like your point when you would wait for the right time to tell your husband when you think he would be hurt. You are sweet!! you really are a good wife. Helping help to cope with it, is a nice idea. I like that. thanks for sharing.
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@madlees (1377)
• India
27 May 08
Thanks for the compliments. There are some times when a truth cannot be told at that time. Everyone needs to have sometime to cope with it. Not all can listen to all things at all times. When my son had an accident I had to keep a little bit of what doctor told me as a secret. If I had told my husband that, he would not have been able to attend the office at all and work properly. But I was with my son at that time, so I could look after my son.
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• Philippines
27 May 08
Smart Idea.. I like the wasy you handle things. Cheers!!!
@naseeha (1382)
• India
27 May 08
I am that sort who tells everything that happened everyday to my husband. i share with him all that happened in a day I used to do that with my best friend and now with my husband. I cant keep anything from him if i want to. it just comes out of my mouth even without my knowledge It is because of the understanding between us. and about other couples it could depend on the individual needs and the type of character the spouse is. Some things need not be shared with a spouse if he is not good at understanding it. If there is mutual understanding and love i think there should be no secrets between couples.
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• Philippines
27 May 08
Oh!! that's nice!!it is really an advantage when you marry your best friend. You feel comfortable with him all the time. thanks for sharing.
@naseeha (1382)
• India
27 May 08
hey i did not mean that i married my best friend. my best friend was and is a girl. I got to know my hubby only after i got married.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 May 08
i am quite honest with my hubby... i think honesty and trust are very important elements in a relationships and i try to be as honest as i can with my hubby... i hate liars and i can't imagine living the rest of my life with a liar... and if i can't trust my hubby, i can't live with him as i will be doubting his every words and moves which is not nice at all... take care and have a nice day...
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• Philippines
27 May 08
You are right!! to be always honest is good but there are times that people keep things to themselves in order to save good reputation. But it is always good to be honest by all means. just find the right timing to tell the truth. Thanks for sharing.
27 May 08
I am always honest with my partner, as I believe a true relationship has to have openess otherwise secrets will destroy it. I told my partner about my life before I met him and even if he found it hard I accept, no skeletons will ever come out of my closet. He has told me about his past and for me this is fine as I did not know him then. I have no secrets to keep since I met him and vise versa, the best policy is honesty, otherwise there is no point in being with someone. I have met people who keep secrets from their partners and I do not understand why. Obviously they do not have the bond enough to be open or what they may say could end their relationship. Of course this does depend on the culture we are born into. I am fortunate to come from a culture that allows freedom of expression without judgement, but I can understand why some people may be reluctant to tell all as it can effect the way people see them and it can lead to misinterpretation or even persecution. I know people that keep secrets from their partners as they feel it will in no way benefit their relationship if their other half knows what they did before they settled down as it is their own business. This is a good thing as long as it is kept this way, but from experience, unless you leave the area you are from it is hard to get away from your past. In my opinion, honesty is the best policy!!
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• Philippines
27 May 08
You are exactly right!! I agree with you.Some people are reluctant to share their secrets afraid that people might have different interpretation and might be negative of them or even deslike them. Well, it is always good to be honest but as what others said, find the right timing to rell the truth. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
27 May 08
My husband and I tell everything, sometimes what we say may not be what the other one wants to hear, sometimes it may even hurt a little, sometimes we laugh it off, but we are 100% completely honest with each other. We have never been to bed mad at each other and I think being so honest with each other has been one of the main reason we are still together. It makes our love stronger. Being married before, I know what being dishonest can do to a relationship. My first husband never really lied about things, but he was never really honest about things either. So honesty is something that every couple should have. It is a part of communication and no couple can survive without communication. If you have to think about whether or not you should tell your spouse something, you already know you should.
• Philippines
27 May 08
Oh!! that's cool. Thanks for sharing.
• China
27 May 08
It's really hard.well,it's up to the fact,if it is some good thing that will help both of you,it shoud be told.if not,just keep it,sometimes it is better not than do.
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• Philippines
27 May 08
Well, right!! it depends upon the situation. thanks for sharing.