How do your kids address adult family members?

@lilybug (21145)
United States
May 26, 2008 11:25pm CST
When my son is referring to adult family members he addresses them by their title. Aunt Jen, Uncle Matt, Grandma Zita, Grandpa Bud..... Do you your kids do this as well, or do they just call them by their first name? When you were a kid what did you do? Do you still do it that way?
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• Philippines
31 May 08
I don't have kids yet but I'll speaking in behalf of my parents. In my family, we address the people with their titles too--mama, papa, ate, kuya, auntie, uncle, lolo, lola etc. We value much this kind of culture here in our country especially in the family I belong.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
31 May 08
In our culture, it is unacceptable for kids to address adults by their first names. There are different titles based on the relationship (eg. mother's older sister is to be referred to as valiyamma and her younger sister would be our kunjamma...likewise each relationship has a title). And we refer to them based on the relationship and sometimes add the name too but the name comes first before the title...so instead of Grandma Zita, it would be Zita Grandma. I did the same when I was a child and still continue doing it. My husband has given his aunts a special name and he refers to them by that. But first names are not allowed.
@Elixiress (3887)
31 May 08
I am 17, so I suppose that I could be classified as a "kid" for the purpose of this as I am the youngest generation in my family. I call my parents Mam and Dad unless I want something and then it is Mammy and Daddy and if they are not listening when I ask them something it is Mother and Father. I call my Grandparents Gran and Grandad, but I call my Uncle's by their names as I am not that close to them, Ken and Kevin.
• United States
27 May 08
When I was a kid, I addressed people by their first names, unless it were a teacher. But now that I'm a parent I feel its important for my girls to learn about respect. My girls call people by their title Aunt, Uncle etc, but if they are someone like a babysitter or a neighbor my girls call them Miss or Mr.
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
27 May 08
My daughter addresses the people she is closest to by their title. The ones she hardly sees, she says their 1st name after we remind her who they are. I guess that happens sometimes.
• United States
27 May 08
Well, this is a funny one. My daughter calls my mother, her grandmother Paula. Her first name She didn't use to do this. She used to call her mom. And she would tell you that I was mommy and Paula was mom. I think she did this b/c my sister, my brother, & I all call her mom. She even went thru a phase where she tried to call my dad, dad. But we nipped that one. Bailey calls her aunts and uncles by their first name as did I when I was younger. I call my grandparents grandma & grandpa. Bailey calls her grandpa PaPa. And her grandma, Paula. lol.
@kezabelle (2984)
27 May 08
I still call my Gran, Gran and my granddad etc. My children call their aunties and uncles just that and my mum and dad Nana and Granddad and partners mother Grandma (she wont let them call her anything else yest moaned when they said it last after nana and auntie etc)
• South Korea
27 May 08
Yes, my son is using those words but in korean of course. Here in korea, when you call adults by name only, they will consider you a rude person and no breeding.
• United States
27 May 08
As I was growing up, I always called my family members by their first name except my mom and grandparents. Even my dad was known by his first name until I was old enough to decide what I wanted to call him. Now that I have children of my own, my aunt feels that my kids should address her as "Aunt Sherry" and she gets upset with them when they don't do it. My oldest daughter is 2 years old, and she learns by what she hears. I think it all depends on personal preference honestly.
• United States
27 May 08
My kids address all the family members by title. Their grandmother and grandfather are "Honey" and "Papa" though.
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
27 May 08
My son calls his aunts "Annie..." and his uncles "Ungy..." so he does pretty good considering he is just 2. Every once in a while he will just call my little sister by her first name, but that's probably just because he hears her called by that a lot more often, since I talk to her on the phone just about every day. He calls my mom "Nahma" which is what he has been calling her for over a year. I'm pretty sure it started out as him trying to say Grandma. He calls my dad "Grumpy." I'm not sure if that was him trying to say Grandpa or what, but it really does sound like he is calling him "grumpy." So far he hasn't really called either of my in-laws anything. He doesn't talk to them very often at all.
• United States
27 May 08
It is really funny you brought this up. Without going through my whole dysfunctional family tree, recently my niece brought her step niece bowling with my daughter and I. The girl is 14 now and I have not seen her since she was about 5 or 6. She walked up to me and said "Auntie, what is your name?" I laughed so hard that this young lady would call me Auntie without even remembering my name. I guess she would be my great step-niece, but because the relationship is so distant I told her she can me Aunt Vic or just Vic, whatever made her most comfortable. She explained that my niece always calls me her Auntie so that is why she was calling me by that. As I went to leave she said "bye Auntie Vic." I took that as a great show of respect. My two oldest nieces usually just call me by name, but it is less formal due to us being raised in the same house for many years and because they are closer to my age than is normal. This does not bother me one bit. My great-nephews call me Aunt Vic. The rest of the family uses the respective titles. My 12 year old daughter calls all family members by their titles as do I. I even call all my aunt's ex-husbands by uncle. It was just the way were raised and I consider using those titles to be a sign of respect.
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
27 May 08
Depends on the family member. Like my husbands parents are all by their first names, my husband calls my parents Mr & Mrs...kinda funny eh? As far as my son he uses the proper title, but almost everyone in my family has a different name. Like my Aunt goes by Nanny and that is what everyone calls her.