Platonic relationships

Canada
May 27, 2008 9:09am CST
Do you believe that males and females can have a platonic relationship? I do. Some of my friends don't. I was out numbered in a conversation yesterday (5 guys 3 girls) about having a platonic male friend. The guys insisted that my friend likes me. They say that guys don't want females as friends. They only want to get in their pants. I think otherwise. I have another male friend who I've known for 27 years and nothing more has come of this relationship but friendship. A girlfriend of mine's best friend is a guy and she is practically engaged. I think it just depends on the person. My best friend doesn't think platonic relationships can exist becasue she personally knows that she will fall for the guy. That I believe...she crushes on everyone! What do you think?
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@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
27 May 08
I have a platonic relationship and we've been like that for almost 25 years now..Our common friends thought that we will eventually fall in love because we have a lot of things in common. They also said that he might be my soulmate..But as years went by, we had relationships with other people, and now married to another, we still feel the same way.We never thought of moving on to the next stage because we simply dont want to..We are good this way..
• Canada
2 Jun 08
Thanks for your responce. Too bad you weren't there as my backup. When I told them that I have a friend who has a male as a best friend they were like "surrre".
@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
never mind them. Go On with your life and with your platonic relationship.If things go the other way and you fell in love with each other, keep in mind that at least you married your very best friend and marriage life will be a little easier because you know each other very well. As for your friends,stop proving to them that they are wrong.I hope that it doesn't affect your friendship. They're there to be the devils advocate sometimes..Thanks for the BR..and smile...life doesn't end there..
@spalladino (17923)
• United States
27 May 08
Of course it's possible to have platonic relationships. Your male friends are mistaken about attraction and their views sound pretty immature. At some point guys get past the stage of wanting to get into the pants of every woman they see and they become attracted only to those they're interested in pursuing a relationship with. Other women can then become friends. I have several male friends, some have been friends for years and there is no physical attraction between us.
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• Canada
2 Jun 08
Thanks for your responce. I believe we are capable of this as well. Immature is surly the word here.
@breepeace (3024)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
That's too funny because I'm talking to my platonic guy friend about that right now. We've been friends for about 3 years, with no involvement. He actually became really good friends with my ex prior to our breakup. My boyfriend doesn't believe that these kind of relationships can exist, and is pretty sure my dozens of guys friends are all just trying to get into my pants, but if they are, they aren't trying very hard because none of them have ever made a move. Even yesterday when I went out for dinner with one guy friend who just broke up with his girlfriend, and needed to vent about her to someone who knew just him. My boyfriend got a little jealous about it last night and said the reason he wanted to go out for dinner with me was so he could have me alone to show me what a wonderful boyfriend he was. Of course, my boyfriend wasn't there so he doesn't know the gist of the conversation, but my friend definitely didn't make himself sound like an angel, and I don't harbor secret feelings for him, so it's completely unfounded. I just find men easier to be friends with. There are less pretenses and cattiness about the whole relationship.
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@snowy22315 (72449)
• United States
27 May 08
I think it is possible but you always have to be on guard with the other person wanting more. A csual friendship probably has more chance of being platonic then a close friendshi with a guy.
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