How did you stay away from realatives who are dominating?

@Bebs08 (10685)
United States
May 27, 2008 1:07pm CST
Well, It makes me feel very bad. It drives me crazy thinking of some relatives who are dominating. I have an uncle who just decide things he likes even to the extent of using our own land without asking permission from us. He thought that every thing he does is just fine with us because he is always known to be the black sheep in the family and that everybody is scared when he is mad. Well, not me.... not bragging but, I did not yield to his stupid idea. He built a house in the land owned by my mother without asking permission. Then after a year, he want to sell the house but no body would buy because the lot is not his. so, his option is to let my mother pay the house. Since my mother has no money at that time, because he asked a big amount with that tiny hut. My mother asked me to help pay it which I can't refuse too. so i paid it. The next month my uncle again plan to build another house in the same lot.. then my mother called my attention and asked help once again. I talked to my uncle and said, NO,NO, NO.. you can not build another house and let us pay again anytime you want to. He was so mad.. and scold me accusing me of insubordination. Then he told me that he would see me in court!! I also told him.. FINE meet you there. Maybe I will tell the court that you are invading our property and that I will charge you of trespassing. since that time until now we did not see each other personally and he did not bother us anymore. I don't want to ruin our relationship but no body can stop his stupid ideas because they are all scared of him. Well,,, I am just confident to say what I want because we are living far away and he couldn't harm me physically. Lol. How about you? how did you handle your dominant relatives? as usual it is always good to hear experiences from others as it would add to our knowledge on how to handle problems like this, thanks for the reply.
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@jerzgirl (8170)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
27 May 08
This happened in the United States???? He was able to get building permits and utility connections without owning the land? If I were your mother, I'd 1) rent out his house and make some money on it and 2) take HIM to court for bascially stealing her land and not paying to use it. Unless she signed something you don't know about giving him permission to build - find out. Also, at some point, SHE could sell the house and the land under it and reap a nice retirement fund. I'd say, take advantage of the benefits of his presumptuousness that he can do whatever he wants without barrier. Otherwise, she will end up paying higher property taxes because her property will be more valuable with the house on it. Make some money off of his misuse of family.
@Bebs08 (10685)
• United States
28 May 08
Oh really? I am not so familiar with all those ideas. Much more of my mother. That;s a good info. anyway, he doesn't bother my mother anymore this time. I am living far away from them but my mom will inform me if something is going in there. They are living in the country... Thank you very much for sharing.
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@jerzgirl (8170)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
28 May 08
Well, good luck. I hope she can benefit from his taking advantage of her. She should - he shouldn't.
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@jerzgirl (8170)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
7 Oct 08
Thank you for the best designation, but I sure do wish there had been other responders so I wouldn't feel so guilty! Thanks again.