You Can Find the Greatest Friends in the Strangest of Places...

United States
May 27, 2008 5:35pm CST
...like on myLot for starters. I know I have started a few discussions about the friendships that can be and have been made here on the lot but sometimes it still strikes me just how wonderful some of the people who post here are. I got to thinking about people I went to school with, old flames, co-workers, family friends, and acquaintances I have been friends with. I said have been because these are people I hear from maybe a handful of times a year if that. I began wondering why I have more deeply rooted relationships with a dozen people all over the world then I do with people who live next door to me or that I see at least 5 days a week. I looked at my upcoming wedding to basically prove a point to myself. I was having the hardest time finding someone happily married to borrow something from, and I had given up hope of ever acquiring a silver sixpence (considering 90% of US born and raised natives have never heard the ending to that good luck marriage poem). I posted a discussion about it on myLot. And a "friend", a man whom, as regrettable as it is to me, I will probably never meet, a few times zones, a few thousand miles, and an ocean away from me offered to send me a silver sixpence. Understand I have whined about my misfortune of having no happily married friends to borrow anything from to EVERYONE I know,including married and unmarried friends of mine. Even my married friends didn't offer up anything I could borrow from them or dispute my claim that they were unhappy in their marriage. So I am still left borrowedless but thanks to my dear dear British buddy I am now the proud owner of a silver sixpence. Would you help out a friend you have on mylot if it were in your power to do so? Are you closer to people here on the lot then you are to people you see every day? Do you have any theories as to why that might be? And I just wanted to say a special thank you to P1ke for the sixpence and the accompanying card. Stress highlights! ROFL. You are amazing my dear, but I knew that already and I could never thank you enough.
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9 responses
• United States
27 May 08
Cyn, I have one theory to offer you here. Geography! I have lived on both coasts, Chicago and in 3 states in the south. My Best friends have been friends I have met in the south and in AZ. I still keep in touch with 4 people from Az, and the friendships I have formed here in the south are priceless. when I lived in NJ, I made what I thought were friends only to have those friends backstab, undermine and make my life miserable. Trust me I was more than thrilled to move back to TN where I know people are friendly and loving. people were just about the same in Chicago, but there Ihave family so I stick to family. So dearheart you still need to borrow something? I can lend you something. I am happily married. And yes I would do anything with in my power for some of you all in mylot. Just as I would the friends that make up my off line life. I do have tight bonds there as well.
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• United States
30 May 08
I'm not sure about your geography theory. I live in a small town in PA and I have lived in a big city in MD. I have more friends from MD then I do from PA but more friends here on the lot from places like Canada, Chicago, and the UK then I do from anywhere else. I am hoping my sweetie brought something from his sister in Utah for me to borrow. I will see her in August and be able to return it. I have no idea what I need to borrow. I imagine it has to be something I can have with me or on me for my wedding but I am already wearing a string of pearls as my old. Wait....DUH! WTF am I thinking. I am "borrowing" my step mothers dress. *sigh* I am so stressed out over this that I have had the "borrowed" since the very beginning and just now realized it. Thank you so much angel! You helped me more than you can imagine.
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• United States
31 May 08
rotflmao... what ever I did I am so happy to obliged :)))
• Regina, Saskatchewan
28 May 08
Give me back my sixpence! LOL Listen Cyn, I don't know what else or if there is anything else you need for your wedding duds from the poem. But just let me know and I will fill the void. I've got one of everything - and sadly didn't get to use all of them - except the borrowed electric blue shoes! Wow. I just couldn't resist wearing those! LOL
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• United States
30 May 08
borrowed electric blue shoes....wow. I'm sure they were a hit! I have the sixpence. I have the old strand of pearls. I have the blue garter. I just realized I have the borrowed wedding gown from my step mother. I was counting my bouquet as the new. That does count right? Please tell me that counts or I'm back to missing something. lol
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
30 May 08
You have your numbers right, but it's not really kosher to count your bouquet as something new. Something new would be like new earrings, lingerie under your dress and in the old days, the veil, usually made made by relatives or the village women. Would you like a new pair of pearl earrings? Every bride should have pearls around her neck and in her ears, as afterall, she is a pearl of great price giving herself to a man who appreciates her.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
30 May 08
Forgot to tell you - I have a pair with tiny diamonds in the white gold setting that I have never worn. My mother sends me jewellery every year for Xmas and I now have more than I could ever wear. I still wear my own wedding pearls when I wear pearls and the ones I'm talking about are lovely but these days I wear more simple jewellery as I don't get out much! LOL
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@skinnychick (6906)
• United States
28 May 08
Damn, I wonder if he'll send me a Brit guy- I love the accents. :) Ok next best thing...A Cadbury's Crunchie Bar or a case of them...LOL You have to love our dear P1ke. If I was married I would send you something. But I avoid marriage like the plague. :)
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• United States
28 May 08
Oops- to answer your question. I would definitely help out a friend on mylot if I could. There wouldn't even be a question about it.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
29 May 08
Crunchies I can do Skinny - but if you eat them will you still be skinny? Brit Guys? Hmm - I only know tall, handsome rugby playing ones with "posh" accents. I don't suppose that you'd want one of those would you?
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• United States
30 May 08
I think he would have the same problem sending you a brit guy as he would sending me a chimney sweep. lol They want to eat enroute and all those luxury sort of things. I get my monthly fix of the Brit accent I love so much talking to our dear fish over yahoo. Any more frequent then that and he may just find me sitting on his doorstep some morning with adoption papers in my hand. lol
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@mummymo (23707)
27 May 08
How fantastic - and doesn't it say a lot that before you even mentioned the name I KNEW it would have been p1ke! Isn't he the loveliest man you have ever known? Anyway I wish I were married so I could lend you something but I am afraid I;m not - I am sure that there are bound to be some happily married people here who would be more than willing to help you out! I think the way that we can connect with people here on the lot is amazing and I have pondered on this many times - why we feel such a bond with people we have never met and I think part of it may be because we bare our heart and souls. When we are here our clothing, hairstyle and other camouflage we might use to hide behind in the 'real world' are stripped away and we put our thoughts and feelings on the line for our friends adn consequently feel more of a bond! xx
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• United States
30 May 08
His reputation is legendary here it seems, and yes he is one of the loveliest men I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. I believe you may be onto something. I come here and I post discussions about things that I normally don't/wouldn't talk about to people I see at work or friends and family. Then someone comes along and they get me. They have empathy for my situation. They've been there. And their comment just makes everything about my situation make sense. There are a few people here who I swear I am living their lives in a parallel universe. I wouldn't trade the handful of true friendships I have made here for all the gold in Fort Knox. Thanks mummy. I think you hit the nail on the head.
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@mummymo (23707)
30 May 08
I was just thinking of the way I am too cyn! You know with me it is like I don't even think of what I am going to say - I just put my fingers over the keyboard and off they fly - it is so weird! Dropping our inhibitions here is what makes it so compelling! Thanks for the Best Response! xxx
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@stonehr (818)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 May 08
That's nice from P1ke.. to send You a silver sixpence..:) Well I'm helping to my friends all around me as much I can.. Sometimes it's an something small , sometimes it's an something big... .
• Canada
28 May 08
And yet another testament as to how sweet, kind and thoughtful that P1ke is. He is definitely wonderful! I have a limited offline friends list on purpose. I can't connect with too many people. I just get confused. It is ineteresting how mylot brings people together. I am still learning and making friends here.
• United States
30 May 08
In real life I choose not to connect with too many people. In fact I hardly like people I meet. It's just different here. Granted I dislike more than I like but it is much easier to avoid the ones I don't like here then I can, like at work for example. I like you Annie, so you can't be too bad. LOL
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• Canada
30 May 08
Ditto, cyn, ditto. Exactly my feelings. No wonder we get along. By the way, have I told you that I LOVE your screen name and could also use it myself. It is just perfect and probably the first thing that attracted me to you. Because I can also be quite cynical and I am usually VERY outspoken. Just ask sparks. lol. I'm often told I am too outspoken, but, you know what, I don't care. I am who I am, and if people don't like, it, oh, well, who cares. I will always have my short list of "REAL" friends, like spark, that will stand by me regardless. Although, I must admit there are a few here that are truly sweet, decent, caring people and deserving of all our caring that we bestow on them. I would always help or defend them, if they needed me to.
@novataylor (6570)
• United States
29 May 08
p1ke is a treasure for all of us here, Cyn -there's no one like him anywhere. I'm so glad you got the sixpence for your shoe. Your wedding is going to be so beautiful. And yes, I find myself closer to a few of you here than I am to many here in my offline life. I'm still amazed by the depth of support and love we get and give each other here. And I don't know that there's anything I wouldn't do for you if you asked. That goes for a few of you and you know who you are. p1ke is certainly in that group. He's my heart. And you? Yeah, you're in there alright.
• United States
30 May 08
I know what you mean mama. I told my daughter what you said about her coming to stay with you. I thought she would freak out. She actually likes the idea! Some day I will understand that girl. it's a goal. lol Love you too. But you know that already.
@bellaofchaos (11549)
• United States
30 May 08
There are some here on my lot that I'm closer with than my own family members. LOL!!! I would definitely help them out if it was in my power to ... My theories I couldn't tell you. It happens it's not like we have something that tells us yes and no to certain friends. LOL!!! I just think it happens and that we should feel blessed for those that have come into our lives for what ever reasons. Just want to tell all my mylot friends at this time I love you all and thank you for your friendship.. And to think Cyn I dragged you on here. LOL!!!!!
@p1kef1sh (45696)
29 May 08
I found it Cyn. Unusually for me I shall be brief. It was a pleasure. Thank you for the discussion.