I think that fat people need more encouragment

@youless (98726)
Guangzhou, China
May 27, 2008 9:08pm CST
I think it is just too mean to say bad words to fat people. There is nothing wrong to be fat, but being very fat may not be a very healthy way and that's all. Here we think that fat people are easy-going and they are much more positive. They are happy people and they are the people who will can bring all of us the happiness. They deserve our encouragement and respect.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
28 May 08
i gained lot of weight after i delivered my baby...so much so that i felt that i have lost my confidence and low on self esteem...i told this to my husband that since i was with the media earlier and i felt good looks r very important in my field of job..he told me very optimistically try appearing for interviews even though my baby was very small...so one weekend i went for an interview and i cleared all four rounds of my interview the same day i got my offer letter frm the company..i got a grt job with a fat pay offer...i came out called my husband we met celeberated over a lunch and then i told him that i m not joining the company but will look after my baby...i regained my confidence..i know i can get a job the day i want as of now only my kid...so being fat does not change ur personality...good luck..
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
29 May 08
I am glad to hear that. And it's great that you have such a wonderful husband to be your side and encourages you
@nupats (3564)
• India
29 May 08
thanx dear most of us are blessed with good things...though i back vibrant and high on my self esteem i am still trying to get rid of the extra fats all the same..
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@nupats (3564)
• India
29 May 08
thanx dear most of us are blessed with good things...though i back vibrant and high on my self esteem i am still trying to get rid of the extra fats all the same..good luck
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@chryss (658)
• Philippines
28 May 08
yes we need to respect them and encourage to lessen their fats lol.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
You are also a nice person.
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@chryss (658)
• Philippines
28 May 08
thank you for the appreciation.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
28 May 08
We have to treat all people the same way. I don't say that people are fat, they are heavy. I don't treat heavy people better or worst, just the same. It is not my problem, they are responsible for their body structure. I don't treat them different. Our society is so obsessed with weight and body image. Skinny cows are not giving much milk anyway... Heavy or skinny, it is all about self esteem.
@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
Your words are very interesting
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@curious888 (1212)
• Malaysia
28 May 08
Fat people are cute, especially small boys and girls.I love them. But as far as health is concerned, it is not so good for them. May be they need more exercise.
@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
I think some people have difficulty to lose some weight. It is as well as some skinny people, it's hard for them to pull on weight.
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@buzzer88 (34)
• Philippines
28 May 08
but of course there's nothing wrong with those people who are fat..they are so kind and always happy and cute because i have a friend too that so fat..eventhough they are fat we need to respect them as well because they are only a human like us we cannot blame them why they are fat..
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
I totally agree with you.
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@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
28 May 08
i never treated fat people with disrespect, i always treat all people with the way i treat the others, i never look down on them as long as they did not do anything that offended or hurt me and my family. i don't really like making fun of people so i never did laugh at their obesity. its normal, everybody can be fat and can loose that weight anytime he wants.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
It's very kind of you.
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@grammasnook (1877)
• United States
28 May 08
The one thing that people do not understand is that if the reason for obesity is due to psychological problems, they receive that help and alot of the medications side effects is gaining weight it is kind of a catch 22. People actually gain weight because they do not eat enough, they may eat once or twice a day and I dont mean fast foods either. You have to take in enough calories in order to burn off the fat otherwise you just keep on gaining. In todays world many people do not eat lunch because there isnt enough time, then by the time they get home and have dinner it could be 8pm and then they crash no time for exercise. It isnt all about people being lazy or they want to be obese. By my doctors standards I am obese because that is what the charts say, but he has said you do not look like you weigh that much at all. I am very active in my everyday life but I just can not find the time to eat 6 small meals a day. I am lucky to eat 2. When I was 21 years old I had eating disorders, I was what I called a forced anerexic (abusive relationship) I would sit down to eat and he would tell me how fat I was at 105 lbs. I finally got away from that and I became bilemic, not eating for days and then all of a sudden eating everything in site making myself sick. Now I am just happy the way I am my weight has been consistant for over 15 years. I do not want to revisit that crazy roller coaster again.
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• United States
28 May 08
Yeah it has much to do with the mind . It is a sickness and a battle . You have to slowy over come it with much love and support. I am sorry you went through all of that . Just rememeber to take each day at a time . I try myself to eat many small meals through out the day.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
I think having breakfast, lunch and dinner at regular time everyday will be better.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
31 May 08
Hey yl, Being large has been associated w/ being jolly ie:santa claus but I believe that larger ppl are really sad-I know when my weight goes up it makes me over all a less happy person. However,I don't think rude/mean comments help anyone to lose weight as a matter of fact it probably makes them eat more from bad nerves. I'm glad I have a man & son who tell I'm beautiful everyday & make me feel good about myself no matter if my weight is up or down. +'s :)
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
31 May 08
That's so sweet to hear that. Be sure your are the most beautiful wife and mother in their eyes
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@gy850710 (90)
• China
30 May 08
yeah,you are right,i have a fat pal.he is a really laugh!
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
30 May 08
Thanks for your reply.
• Mauritius
29 May 08
ya thats true fat people should be encouraged because there are many people who feel apart when they are fat. everyone is human and these people should not be laughed.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
30 May 08
I agree with you.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
29 May 08
I agree that it is mean to say bad words to anyone thin or fat as the case may be. Fat people are to be pitied at times because they are prone to health problems even more than their slim counterparts. Only thing is it so unhealthy when they don't care about their indulgence despite being fat.Iknow a person who is terribly fat, and does not care that his heart is in terribly bad shape and would continue to indulge his palate and craving for fried items.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
30 May 08
But at least we should still encourage them to lose some weights.
• United States
29 May 08
Honestly I think all people need more encouragement. I am a small woman, but that is only because I come from a line of very large women and when I was a teen, going to get a second piece of cake my mom came behind me and told me "go ahead honey, eat that piece you can look like me in no time at all, it sneaks up and then it wont go away" wow, has that statement not helped me remain small thru all my years since then. I would not be comfortable being big. My sister is very comfortable big,she has a husband that adores her and feels she is the most bueatiful woman there is, another large friend gets the clothes she loves and she will come over and tell me, go ahead and tell me how sexy I am today, hehe. If someone is comfortable in their own skin than they are better off than the skinny person that isnt. So yes I agree big ppl do need more encouragement, but so do all others :)
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
30 May 08
Your sister is so lucky to find such a wonderful husband
• United States
29 May 08
there's a lot of people that make fun of fat people say bad word, they just don't know how we feel when they put us down like that, to tell you the truth i have some extra pound myself and i don't gain the weight by eating to much or being lazy, as a matter of fact i'm very active with my body,and i don't like to eat that much i even starve myself sometimes just to lose weight,people think that because we ate a lot that's why we are fat,which is completly wrong. those people need to know that we are already in pain cause of the weight they don't need to make it worse for us by saying negative things about us. To all my sisters, don't let people bring you down, don't let someone tell you need to lose weight , you do it to make urself happy not to make somebody else happy
@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
29 May 08
I know it. So this is why I said bigger people should not care about other mean comments. Nobody is perfect in the world. This is why we shall never laugh at others.
@excellence7 (3496)
• Mauritius
29 May 08
Yes very right...Fat people must be encouraged. My friends, either you are fat or slim, I would say only one thing - we are all human and we must be proud to be human. Let's not make our appearances our weakness - let's make them our strength. Being fat can just cause problems to health, that's all but at the level of beauty, it does not affect anything!! So just do some exercises and you will surely see the difference and if you are fat, this does not mean you are different because when it comes to classification, we shall all be classified as humans.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
29 May 08
I totally agree with you.
@elemental69 (1562)
• Ireland
29 May 08
I agree with you that over-weight people do need our respect and encouragement, but as far as being happy goes, I have a couple of friends who are over weight, and one of them has confessed to me that it is easier to put on a brave and happy face and laugh at themselves, rather than have people laugh at them.....
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
29 May 08
Thanks for your response.
@Hatley (164257)
• Garden Grove, California
28 May 08
thanks youless you are very compassionate. a lot of us are aware its unhealthy and under a doctors care' and its hurtful for strangers to make rude remarks as they do not know our particular circumstances at all I am really trying to lose weight and so far have lost 'five pounds so am going to keep on working on that.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
29 May 08
Don't care about other strangers' mean words. Let it go and be yourself.
• United States
28 May 08
I was once obese, but then when my doctor told all of the problems I could face with being that heavy, I had no choice but to slim down. I know that some people cannot help that they are big, but to the people who are overweight out there, and this is not to be mean, ask yourselves how you got that big? What made you gain weight? When I asked myself this question and I looked at my former lifestyle, I changed everything that I use to do. I do not use food for comfort anymore, I exercise, or walk instead. If a get stressed out, I stand back, take some deep breaths, and go back to what I was doing. I do not rely on food for all of my problems because that will just cause more problems for me. Now, I know that for some people, being big is in the genes. That was also my case for awhile, but then I decided to myself, well, what is a healthy weight for me, and I aimed for that. My weight gain was causing me to have plantar fasciitis, knee and joint problems, breathing problems, and digestive problems. For other people it is headaches, intestinal problems, and trouble with movement. If you are addicted to food, ask yourself why? Question your lifestyle. I was at 220 lbs. I am not at 180 lbs. and I am still dropping weight. I hope to be down to 150 lbs. or 140 lbs. by the end of the summer.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
29 May 08
You have the determination and I am sure you will succeed it.
@metschica25 (5405)
• United States
28 May 08
I agree . It is hard living in a world who wil judge you . Sad thing is even if you are chubby they will make a big deal out of it . We all deserve respect.
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
I agree with you.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
28 May 08
I have gained weight in the last few years mostly due to some medications I've been taking. I also quit watching my diet and just kind of gave up cause I wasn't able to lose weight. I have found a diet that seems to help now though so I'm working on it again. Negative comments from others can really hurt and they don't help a person lose weight. In my case it just depresses me and makes me want to eat more.
@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
Don't pay attention to others' mean comments. As long as you feel good, the weight is not a problem at all.
@4mymak (1796)
• Malaysia
28 May 08
when i was a lot younger.. way back when people are less 'health conscious'.. the 'fat' people are considered 'healthy' compared to the 'skinny' ones... and, the 'skinny' people are the ones considered as under-nourished, or sick... funny how the tables are now turned..
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@youless (98726)
• Guangzhou, China
28 May 08
Being skinny isn't healthy and I don't think it looks nice, too.