Tired of being a mother?

Philippines
May 28, 2008 4:08pm CST
Well, sometimes I do. Caring all the 3 children, taking care of the house, cleaning,cooking,, washing and do full time work to earn a living. Oh!! it is very exhausting. I am not a single mother, but my husband is also working and of course he is not doing the household chores? but I do, and we both work. Others just don't know how challenging is being an mother and a wife. do you feel the same? or just be happy and contented of that role? Well, it is nice to hear encouragement from others.
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10 responses
@mikeysmom (2091)
• United States
29 May 08
being a mother is something i love and i will never want to stop being a mom. the household chores on the other hand are tedious and unrewarding. i feel like i do the same chores everyday over and over again. i do not get much help and never have from my husband even when i worked outside the home 30-40 hours per week. i do what i can each day and i do my best but if there are things left undone they go on tomorrow's list. it is challenging and tiresome but i would rather being doing this than working for some control freak of a boss like i used to.
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• Philippines
29 May 08
Oh!! I love to hear that. You are a dedicated mother indeed. Thanks for sharing.
@ajayrekha (491)
• India
29 May 08
3 childrens to manage for a working lady is too much. Why dont your husband tries to share your burdon? When you both are working to earn living , you both should contribute in taking care of your children. Thank god my wife is a house lady and she dones not have the burdon to earn or living. Also I try my best to help my wife in her works through I feel her never happy with my contribution as sometimes she demands more and some times she does not like at all to involve me in her burdons. Difficult to understand woman. Some times they feel pride and encouraged to do more work and sometime they complaint that they do more work.
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• Philippines
29 May 08
My husband leaves home for work early and come home very late at night. He even work some sundays and other Holidays. So, I have to accept the fact that we are both busy to earn a living. Good for you, you wife is not working. Thanks for replying.
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@salonga (27835)
• Philippines
29 May 08
My dear i understand fully well your situation because I assume the same role as you do. And mind you, I am a working mother and we have no housemaid. Good thing, I have a husband who is himself very hardworking and a son as well who helps and they really give me the needed assistance with all the chores around the house. But you know despite the asssistance the bigger burden rests on us mothers and some kinda tiring really and somewhat wanting to give up at some point. Well, my dear whenever you feel like you are exhausted just rest and give yourself a break. Give yourself some time to either go malling, eat out with your hubby or friend or go the Parlor once in a while, have some facial treatment, manicure or whatever pampering you desire. You have the right to do so for working so hard all your life, don't you think so? You are not committing a deadly sin after all should you not be able to do the other chores once in a while. And also if you have children and already able to work oblige them to work in the house so they will know the value of cooperation in the house. By the way, it pays if you start your day with at least 30 minutes of communion with God, ask Him to help you in your everyday undertakings share with him your thoughts, your petition, your praises and thanks for all the blessings and surely this will greatly help you cope the whole day. I suggest you read the Bible in Provers 31:10 -31. It's all about a virtuous woman. The woman just like us is a wife and a mother and she has all the good qualities that made her a virtuous woman and was considered far above rubies. She fears the Lord, she is very enterprising, very hardworking, very caring, she takes care of her own self very well just as she takes fully well of her household and that is why her children call her Blessed and her husband praises her! This woman in the Proverbs 31:10 is my inspiration... I many not be able to match all her qualities but making her as my example is already enough to make me enjoy my role of a wife and a mother! God bless!
• Philippines
29 May 08
thank you for the good advice... Cheers!!!
@simsunil (98)
• India
29 May 08
yes i do agree with u .it is very taxing as a mother and housewife b'coz u have to all household work alloutside work also like payment of bills, purchasing groceries items, attending PTA meetings at childerns school and many many more undiscussed tasks.but fortunately my husband is very suportive and caring. once he is at home he takes charge of kids ,their studies ,to play with them,that way my all frusteration of the vanished once he is at home with me.
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• Philippines
23 Sep 08
wow!! you have a very wonderful husband. congrats!!!!!
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
29 May 08
Being a mother is a work were you can't resign and i think you knew that. I agree that sometimes it is very tiring but that's the least thing we can do, complain. I only have one daughter and I also do all the chores and also working and it is really tiring but challenging also. Another thing is being a mom is very fulfilling job specially when you see your children grown up to be the best person he can be. When I feel tired of being a wife and mom I also think of getting a relaxation, unwind. Something to that kind but I myself always reject to those when Im about to do it. Why? I was thinking who'll take care of my baby? Who'll prepare the dinner? Etc. I've been used to what I am regularly doing and I don't like other person do those things. So even if I am tired I still work and do everything.
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• Philippines
23 Sep 08
wow!! I admire for your dedication~!!! you're great!!!!!
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
28 May 08
It can be pretty exhausting at times. I when I start to get frustrated and a little bit tired I try to get a little bit of time away from the kids to relax. It seems to help.
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• Philippines
23 Sep 08
yea, that's what I'm going to do too. thanks for sharing. I appreciate it.
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
28 May 08
It can be overwhelming, I know. But no I am not tired of being a mother. I think it is one of the best things I can do. I certainly get tired of chores. Housecleaning etc. It can really stink. But my husband is often very helpful. And since I work from home I get a bit of a break now and again. I consider myself very lucky. I hope you feel better soon. Maybe ask your hubby for a break. Take a few hours to do something just for you. The chores will be there when you get to them. And you may feel better when you come back.
• Philippines
28 May 08
thank you ersnommy1. I think that is a good suggestion. It;s nice to have a break.'' Thanks for sharing this.
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@alienstar (5142)
• India
30 May 08
Once you get married, problems wil coem which you have to manage and that is what life is..one has to cross through all barriers to achieve success and never get depressed when problem comes and don't think that these problems comes only for you, as everybody wil face problems in life and only thing they can do is remain positive and work hard and enjoy life as it comes...god is there
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
that's right!!! I appreciate your sharing those encouraging words.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
29 May 08
Yes, sometimes it does seem to be too much. Like there is not enough of you to go around. I used to work 12hr. shifts then have to come to 3children and a husband(also worked) make meals, do laundry, clean and all of a hundred other things that it took to keep a household running. My husband was the baby of his family and just didn't think he should have to do anything and even when he did he made a bigger mess for me to clean up so it was just easier to do it myself! And it saved frustration in the end. I just learned to do what had to be done and put off other things until i had a day off. Then my husband was responsible for getting the kids out of the house and from underfoot that way it took less time and i could at least enjoy one of my days off. I also started the kids doing chores while they were young, to help out.
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• Philippines
29 May 08
Oh!! that is more challenging..I admire you for that courage. thanks for sharing.
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
29 May 08
I am now a widow but when I was wife and mother,we both worked so my husband helped me whenever he could so unlike most men who just plunk down in a chair and watch tv while we work our tails off at home. He helped to bathe and put the kids to bed and in all sorts of other ways.the only job he ever refused to do was wash dishes and that was okay with me as he helped in other ways.
• Philippines
29 May 08
Oh how sweet!!! I wish my husband could stay home that long.. during the day so that he could hel me too. But since we are both working outside home, it is hard work for boht of us. thanks for sharing.