dating others when your married?

@16031981 (449)
Jamaica
May 28, 2008 4:42pm CST
what do you think about going on a date while your married and the other half stays home? what if the both partners agrees to this? whats your opinion towards this?
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• Philippines
28 May 08
Well, this thing happened when there is a marital problem that is going on between the couple involved. This is very possible to those who have problems. I don't believe that there is anybody husband or a wife who would agree that his/her other half would go for a date with somebody if they are in good state of mind. when the couple is happily together, nothing like this would happened. It is not a good picture to go on a date with somebody when you are married.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
29 May 08
thaks for responding. i think they do av a problem but covers it up.
28 May 08
I wouldn't have thought the marriage would work out for much longer after that. Somebody always seems to get hurt in situations like this. If one or both are looking to date other people then maybe they shouldn't be married to each other.
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@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
29 May 08
thanks for responding. that is so true.
• United States
28 May 08
I dont think thats any part of a marriage agreement. IF you are going to get married, then you should know that you arent going to be doing any dating until you decide to divorce that person. If that person agrees thats their buisness, but I wouldnt consider it a healthy traditional marriage.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
29 May 08
thanks for responding. well said
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 May 08
I personally would be furious if my other half went on a date with someone else. Why in the first place go on a date when your already married? I'll think he is looking for outside love or putting his self in a position to have an affair. That will cause conflict and no I will not agree to such lose behavior. What will a friend of the family think if they see one of us out on a date with someone else? They would go gossip about it.Tell everyone! Then people would think we are having problems. Hell i would also think so too. Well that is my thought on the matter.
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@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
29 May 08
thanks for responding. that was well said.
@Elixiress (3882)
28 May 08
I think that it would just show that they are not happy with each other, if they need other people and are just together out of habit or for the money and stability.
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@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
29 May 08
thanks for responding. that is so true.
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
28 May 08
I think that in most cases you would be asking for trouble. The only dates I go on without my husband are with my son (he's three) or my girlfriends. My question is - if you are in love with your partner why would you want to date other people?
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@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
28 May 08
thanks for responding. a young couple got married recently have good jobs still do what they wish. as for me i aint playing that game i easily get jealous and jealous isnt a pretty thing even if you can control it. i aint sharing either.
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@cukal6 (146)
• United States
28 May 08
We have a very good friend that we've known for years. I will often go out to dinner or drinks with him while my husband stays home and my husband does the same. I don't really consider it dating though. It's just time for me to get out of the house and away from the kids. I've even spent the night at his house while my husband is away on business. Of course I slept on the couch. Neither one of us see anything wrong with this because we both know that nothing would ever come of it. I guess it's kind of like having the best of both worlds...being married and dating.
• Costa Rica
29 May 08
I heard some person named swingers do that.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
29 May 08
wow! thanks for responding. i wonder if those frenships are around anymore.
@Ravenladyj (22920)
• United States
30 May 08
If both parties agree to it and there is major TRUST in the relationship then whats the problem? My husband is free to date other women should he want to BUT he is NOT to bring them here to the house AND he has to tell me first...It wouldnt be right for me to have another man in my life (and I do) but not be cool with my husband having another woman..thats nuts..Does our agreement mean we ARENT happy with each other? Not at all! In fact we've been together for 10 yrs now BUT our marriage isnt a standard one..we dont live or do things the way the masses do because we simply are NOT them...
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
30 May 08
thanks for responding. wow! trust is very important
@salonga (27821)
• Philippines
30 May 08
Well, all I can say is that it is immoral! Marriage is a sacred thing and must be respected. As the Bible says "Marriage is honorable and the bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers, God will punish. If both partners agree on this set-up then they are both immoral and will not be left unpunished by God. When you married somebody, you swear and make a vow in front of God and then there is a sacred union that made you one flesh. The body of the woman now belongs to the man and vice-versa and going on date with somebody else directly violates the holy matrimony. It a is sin and I do not subscribe to it.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
30 May 08
thanks for responding. you couldnt av said it any better. thanks and God bless
• Italy
30 May 08
I dont like this one should stay sincere to his partner this is totally wrong in my opnion even if both partners agree because if they wann date with others why they are togather go on with their dae partners and i can bet overthat if somthing will goon between two pplz very soon they got busted on each other and get seprated. My views are that you can change your partners but u dont have to cheat your partner its not good.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
30 May 08
thanks for responding. thats so true
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
29 May 08
Only your heart can answer this. Flip it upside down, what if your partner proposes you this, and you agree upon the proposal. Do you think it will endure your relationship? We even do not know what is intention of someone's heart, especially 3rd party. Furthermore if you both are rich one. I think you already know what I'm going to say right here.