To go or not to go
By violeta_va
@violeta_va (4831)
Australia
May 29, 2008 10:00am CST
I need an advise as I am really stuck here. Months ago I wrote about one of my friends that we were very close with and they had a baby and never told us or contacted us. They invited all our other friends when the baby got home but not us. This is a couple that is in their mid 30's and could not have kids. I was the one that went to doctors with them and everything but I never told anyone about it. Anyway the girl was born 31 oct 2007 and they stoped coming over and calling us after that. She is very jelous of my friendship with the other 3 friends and from day 1 she started causing problems to make us fight but none of it worked. So she knew how much she had said and knew that its not working so she avoided us at the start and the other 3 ladies one by one.
Anyway they droped by the other day to invite us to the christening of the baby and I dont want to go at all. By the way the christening is next week and I felt like they felt like they had to invite us since everyone esle was invited.
First of all what would you do if someone who was close to you did not talk to you for 7 months and now they want you to go to their party? If I say no what do I say should I explain why or live it as simple "I am not comming"?
3 responses
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
29 May 08
If you really do not want to go then tell her/them that. I would only give a response if you were asked, and I simply would not go (don't call and say I'm not coming) unless or course they ask. It doesn't sound like she is all that great of friend, so maybe she just wants a gift.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
29 May 08
Thats what we are thinking as well she is after the gift and people to fill the space. My husband feels bad if we say no but I dont. There is rsvp on it so we sort of have to call them.
@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
29 May 08
When you got married did you send out invitations? I was married about 8 months ago now I guess and I sent out over 200 and I had about 60 that didn't return the RSVP. I use to do event planning as a job and I can tell you that you expect about 10% not to show even if they did RSVP back that they would go.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
29 May 08
Yes when I got married we did send invitations and only 1 didnt call. And we had christening for my son and all people rsvp to us thats why I make sure I call but I do get your point and it sound great but I will feel bad if I dont rsvp even to say no.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
30 May 08
I do want to say it but I dont want to go that low to be honest but man I want to get it off my chest. Get this it was few weeks ago when she last tried to cause trouble for me. She told my friend that my husband when he took our son to soccer practice told her husband that we dont go there because she talks too much. the thing is everyone knows that her husband does not go to soccer pratice any more and on the day in question everyone sat together and he wasnt there. Boy do I want to say something to her.
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
30 May 08
I guess i really hate this social fiasco where people try to turn things into a soap opera :/. But I guess the best low key response would be to make some kind of excuse as to why you can't go. But if you want to be a bit sharper, maybe you can add the truth, like "You haven't talked to me for 7 months, why are you inviting me to your baby's christening now?" and I bet they will be speechless :P.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
30 May 08
Its not only the fact that she totaly cut us off for no reason its the fact that she tries to split us up with all our friends and now she turns up to invite me as if nothing has happened, why bother.
