Ex-relationships
By skaterx
@skaterx (530)
Finland
May 29, 2008 5:01pm CST
How do you feel about your exs?
I feel really down thinking about my ex. I did love him alot, but we were so different. I was always the one trying, and it felt like i wasted a lot of time trying to make things work. I actually really wanted to be with him. But maybe I was trying to make something work that couldn't. Now that I've let him go, its more like I'm still looking for that guy that I wanted him to be, or that I imagined him to be. It's kinda hard, that there were things I liked about him, but then there were worser things about him, and then I still can't get over the feelings of caring about him. He's still a friend, but its so confusing sometimes, ive been through hell or something with him. He's mistreated me, its just really weird that I want to care, maybe in a sense he didn't feel like he mistreated me. But anyway, maybe I'm clinging to this illusion that he was nice, and maybe its a mix of him actually being nice, it's just hard to let go of some of the things.
3 responses
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
30 May 08
I am confused too.But i don't really care about him.i loved him.very much.but i did a stupid mistake,so we were apart.Now we are keeping in touch.But sometimes he treat me very nice just like he used to be.but sometimes he was so cool.And i don't like talking to him anymore.But sometimes if he do not call me,i feel bad.I don't know what's going on and what i am thinking about.i just wished i were still together and i didn't make that stupid mistakes
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
30 May 08
Oh yeah, my ex is like a mixed bag too. It's like i don't really want a relationship with him as a couple if it is the way he is now, but i see some nice sides of him, and that's hard to get past. Because I haven't met someone with the same personality. Obviously, everyone is different. I'm so used to some of the ways he is, I'll miss him when he is away.
Don't beat yourself up for mistakes though, mistakes happen. I guess everyone learns and does better as they go along. I don't want to be in a relationship where I can't ever make a mistake tho, I hope people are forgiving, as long as I'm faithful to them etc.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
5 Jul 08
That can happen, of course. it is normal. but i would suggest that you try to forget what was in the past and move on.. you will have that mixed feelings for a long time if you still think of the person most of the time... and if you won't try to let go.. it will just put more burden in your heart.
@yanna1027 (248)
• United States
29 May 08
I'm sorry to hear about your mixed emotions. In my case, I am friends with my exs and it's all because prior to our relationship, we started as really good friends. Just because our relationship as bf/gf did not work out, that doesn't mean that we have to end our friendship as well. Maybe it helps too that both of us parted in good ways with no harm feelings and accepted the fact that, we were not meant to be together as husband and wife. You have to let go of him, your memories of him and let time heals. It will happen....someday. Good luck!
