What causes you the most "mommy guilt"?
By anndocs
@anndocs (249)
May 29, 2008 11:39pm CST
I'm a mom of one she's 9 months old, working mom, office starts at 8am and ends up to 5pm. Everytime I sit dowm to do my work on my computer, I feel guilty of leaving my child and not staying much of the time being with my baby. But I know in myself that I really need to work and earn to support her.
What I am doing is, I make sure everything she needs the whole day is prepared the food the clothes,diaper the bottles are all cleaned,the book she must to read,and so on, every thing are all set before I leave.
And when I get home, I make sure to spend precious time with her cuddling,playing, dancing and reading. And at weekends we go out and enjoy ourselves. When planning how we will bond the next weekends, that makes me step out of my guilt.
You, what causes you most "mommy guilt" ,how can you minimize those pesky, guilty feelings? share on...
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@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
30 May 08
I was also like you. Working mom and have a very short time with my baby. It's really makes me guilty. But I feel more guilt if I can't able to spend to her even just 1 hour of the day. It happens sometimes when I need to have an overtime and when I am home she feels sleepy. It even makes me cry. As much as I could I wanted to spend quality time with my baby. Like when she's awake too early in the morning even I feel sleepy I tend to be awake just to talk and play with her since that was the only time we could bond. I also make sure that aside from giving al her needs I also spend my entire dayoff just for her.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
30 May 08
Hi, anndocs. Welcome to myLot.
All Mommies are going to feel guilt about our children. I maybe be doing the absolute best we possible can, but we always want a little more for our kids.
My biggest Mommy guilt is about the speach delays my son is currently experiencing. I constantly wonder if I could have talked to him more as a baby, been reading to him more, whatever. When I start feeling this way I remind myself that I am doing everything now that is available to assist him with these delays.
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@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
31 May 08
I think that money causes me the most mommy guilt. Even though my daughter (also nine months) has everything and everything a baby could want or need, (and then some) I still feel guilty if I spend money on myself because I always seem to think I should be spendning it on her.
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
30 May 08
It is very natural to feel these things, especially with your first kid. It killed me everytime I left my son to go to work so much that now that I had my daughter I am a full stay at home mom.
Now what makes me feel the most guilty is when I have to discipline them, but it's something they need or we'd all go crazy :)
I guess the best thing to do is keep reminding yourself that it's for their own good and that most of us all turned out okay even though our parents worked :)
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
31 May 08
I think you're a good mom. You don't have to had mommy guilt, you have spending your time with your baby when you're free. And that's really good. At least you know what your responsibilities as a mom. But for me, I had this "mommy guilt" whenever I have to go out and leave my 3 kids to my sister who lives with me. There's this one time that I have to attend an occasion, and when I came back my youngest son had fever. I told myself, I shouldn't have left. He was really looking for me. So since then, I always bring them with me whenever I have to go out. I had resigned from my job since I got married and I have been a hands-on mom for 10 years now.
@AxranraRose82 (1120)
• United States
30 May 08
My mommy guilt comes when I am working on the computer (I am trying to work from home to make the extra money our family needs)and I end up being on here for far too long and the kids get really bored. Makes me feel bad.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
30 May 08
well i stayed home with my kids when they were little and really enjoyed every minute of it. what makes me feel guilty sometimes is when i buy something for myself even though my daughters have everything they need (not necessarily everything they want) but sometimes i do still feel that way.
@kezabelle (2974)
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30 May 08
Guilt is part of being a mum, im a stay at home mum and get the guilt too if I cant afford certain things for them that I could if I was working. I feel guilt everytime something happens to them like they trip that I might have been able to stop happening, thats what being a mother is about its because we are good mums and love our children that we have this guilt because we care xxx
@susanh39 (200)
• United States
30 May 08
You are a good mom! Every mom feels guilt, whether they are working full time, or staying home full time. I am home full time and we homeschool our girls. However, there's always something about which I'm feeling guilty. Even though I'm here with them 24/7, there are days we don't sit down and read together because there are so many errands to be run or housework to complete. Other days, I feel guilty about not getting the work done because my girls and I spend the day together having fun. Either way, I believe every mom has some sense of guilt where her children are concerned...one way to look at it is that we love them enough to feel that way....
Blessings to you and your little one! It sounds like you spend quality time with her and that's fantastic! :)
