child rearing
@utakemybreathaway00 (53)
United States
May 30, 2008 1:58pm CST
All parents out there! Please help me with some of your tips of good parenting. I have 3 months old baby, it's our first time with my hubby. How would we deal with him for him to become an obedient child and not spoiled. We love him so much, he's our little angel and we want the best for him. Thank you for your time.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
30 May 08
Consistency is the key! Give your child love and attention. Know when it is time to be a parent and when its time to put the friend hat on.
When you are telling your child not to jump on the bed – yeah its time to be a parent, but taking your son to the baseball game – its time to be a friend.
Talk to you kids and let them talk to you. Make sure your kids know its okay to talk to you about ANYTHING.
Be honest with them. Age appropriate of course.
When you say no mean no. Don’t give in. If you say no then the kid throws a tantrum and you say yes they are going to think all I have to do is cry and I will get what I want.
Don’t EVER let your child in your bed in less you plan to never get them out.
Let them cry it is okay.
Let them get dirty – it’s more fun to be dirty!
Run with your kids, Laugh with them, Love them.
Remember once there is kids in the picture you no longer exist! Its all about them! And last but not least as my great grand mother always said:
Once you have kids you, eat when you’re not hungry, sleep when you’re not tired, and pee when you don’t have to!
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
30 May 08
Something else I thought of:
Teach your child the value of a dollar. Teach them that it takes money to buy all the things they want. Help them to earn money. And help them learn to save money. Each of my kids have a bank account. Every time they get any money allowance, birthday, christmas what ever they have to put half in the bank the other half is theres to spend.
Teach your child to respect him self otherwise he won't respect you or any one else.
Teach your child is okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them.
Okay I think thats it... well for now.
@utakemybreathaway00 (53)
• United States
31 May 08
Thank you so much for the wonderful advice. It's not easy to be a parent, it takes a lot of responsibility.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Your welcome and I thought of one more...
Give your child choices. Not choices that you wouldn't work for you but a choice.
Like for instance:
"do you want and orange or an apple?"
"do you want to go to the park or the beach?"
"Do you want to swing or slide"
Giving a child choices makes them feel good about themselfs, it makes them feel empowered and will help them to make choices in the future.
@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
30 May 08
Listen to the poster above! She knows what she's talking about!
Don't overindulge with material possessions. It's normal to want to give your kids nice toys and clothes, and every new video game, but it doesn't teach them anything except that they should get everything they want handed to them. Provide for their needs but let them earn the extras.
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@utakemybreathaway00 (53)
• United States
31 May 08
Yes, you're right! Me and my hubby decided if we give him toys it should be something he can learn like something that he can make use of his brain... thank you mommies for sharing!
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@naseeha (1382)
• India
30 May 08
I see some good advise above.
But i would like to tell you something. Your baby is only three months old. So for the time being you can enjoy your baby thoroughly.
But dont spoil him by doing what he wants when he cries. that would spoil him,
Happy parenting
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@utakemybreathaway00 (53)
• United States
31 May 08
Thank you... yes, we are enjoying his baby baby stage right now. Like the above advice that there should be an appropriate age.
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