Forgive and forget, is it never easy?

Personally, I am more a believer of forgiving than forgetting but then again, time heals all wounds and this wound that I have has already healed that I am having a hard time trying to remember how the pain all started, which is a good thing for me. When my then-boyfriend broke up with me to be with another girl and he insisted on us being friends I was more mortified than touched. The nerve of him. I was so furious that I wouldn't accept his apology. Well, I was barely listening to him. I couldn't take it. So, I let things cool. Days, weeks, months and years passed I learned to accept it, and the girl that he left me for and I are actually becoming friends. Although I did not completely forgotten what they did to me, I don't feel affected anymore. No more pain, bitterness and hatred. Maybe that's just how life is. Everything has its own time to be forgiven and forgotten. Some depends on how deep the pain caused was, some depends on the person himself whether he wants to forgive and forget or forgive OR forget. Cheers!

My aunt did something that involved and hurt our whole family when I was a teen. She owned our house and one day asked us to leave.The reason she asked us to leave is because she was getting ready to retire and wanted to sell for the extra money.Also, she said she was sick of my dad being late on bills.( which was not his fault , he lost his job) My aunt by know means needed that extra money. We had to move in with my grandma and My parents just felt powerless. This caused much stress and fights. Over the years my parents just didnt seem as happy and that lead to a few things getting out of control.I can't help to think life would be differnt if this all never happened. It also put a wedge between my dads side of the family.I didn't get to see my cousins or aunts and uncles, and feel I missed so much. Over the years my dad has forgave my aunt beacause he said she is a changed peron . Little by little I started seeing my family again . The whole thing was just a mess, but things are better now. Part of me will never forget everything that has happened and all the pain it caused . I can't think of the could of beens anymore . Sometimes, the wound is still fresh. I have forgave her for the most part.

Sometimes it is hard to forgive and forget especially when it is a matter of trust involved, as once certain things like trust is broken then that is something you can forgive in a way but can never really be forgotten, once that is gone it is gone...

Forgiving someone doesn't mean that they don't still have to suffer the consequences. For instance, I can forgive someone and not want any more to do with him/her. I have forgiven. But the hurt may be such that I want to end the friendship or relationship. That is my right. Forgetting is more difficult, in my opinion. We are the sum total of all our life experiences, right? Perhaps we're not meant to forget them all.

i don't easily forgive people who had hurt me, maybe because i'm having a hard time to forget, and healing the pain is so impossible.. i don't know..

I experienced already a lot of hurts and one thing I learn is to FORGIVE but it's not easy to FORGET.aNYWAY no matter how hard to forget the pain inside I try no to keep hatred inside my heart.Life must go on no matter how hard it is...

Hi zeroflashx2, Forgiving and forgetting is never easy, but is very important. When we refuse to forgive someone, it has a negative affect on our health. Most of us don't realize that it is ourselves that's being hurt when we hold a grudge. I'm not sure that we ever forget, but if we have forgiven and moved on, it's enough. The little things in life can be forgiven and forgotten. Blessings.

Forgive and Forget, it's one of the hardest thing a person can do. In my case, I learned to do it when time allowed it. I mean, I let time heal the wounds that hurt me. I don't keep hatred in my heart but sometimes there are these things which are really hurting which makes me feel bad about the person/things. Forgiving someone is easy to do but Forgetting what she/he/they have done to you is hard to do. Just keep in mind that you must first face the consequences before doing it so.

Good day, as the saying goes Time will eventually heal all wounds. Of course at first it would be really hard to forgive and forget specially if that person who hurt us is the one we truly love. The person that we love the most is the person that can hurt us the deepest. We can not stay in a situation where hatred and grudge dominate our life, in order to move on, to appreciate our life and to live not only to exist. We need to forgive and forget.

I believe in forgive and forget, but I really believe when we have forgiven from the heart, we then have the ability to never bring it up again. There is no way a person can really forget something that has hurt them deeply in their heart. I know I have had two people hurt me so bad in life that I was unable to forgive them on my own. When I realized this, I told God about it (of course I was mad as a hornet at the time and told him I didn't have the ability to forgive these people and I thought it was unfair that we had to when we couldn't) About two weeks later, these people came to my mind and I realized my heart had changed. God had given me the ability to forgive them. It was awsome. I also believe in letting sleeping dogs lie.

i always forgive those who have wronged me if they are really worth the forgiveness..'coz there are times that they wil just say sorry but they do not mean it trully it is just "pakitang tao" it is really hard for me to forget a very deep wound that they have caused me i really do try because i do not want enemies waiting to attack me behind my back..i want a peaceful surrounding without feeling tensed when you have crossed path with your enemy..time will heal all the pain and wound..

It's never easy specially if you lost something valuable like love. You can possible forgive the person of worst thing he or she done to you, but you could not forget ...

Forgiving and Forgetting is quite difficult but the truth is, nothing is ever truly worth it to stress out over. I'm at a stage in my life where I've realized that life is too short to hold grudges. When people do bad by is, it is better to let karma deal with them adequately than to ruin your own karma by living in anger.

the english writer george bernard shaw had said" to be perfect is heaven". but sorry, everyone is on earth. so we are bound to be imperfect, that is, to commit mistakes at times.it actually depends on the amount of hurt to which you can safely adapt or feel without affecting your own identity or individuality. so it's good not to forgive at times. but even if we forgive, never forget. don't allow the opposition to perpetually harm you.

It's mandatory in my opinion to get over the situation. Nothing should block our relationships. Well, of course there are a lot of bad things that can be done...but much more good things, too. The question is how do we get over it? Well, it's less difficult to just forget, but it involves a little too much time, since memory is dependant on that. So the relationship with the person that hurt us would remain tense for a while, until the memory of the bad thing that happened goes away. It is more efficient to forgive, then. But this one involves more effort: to ponder the problem, find a solution, fight with your ego, re-esteblish communication and so on...but with all these to be done, it still takes less time than to wait for the memory to erase. And it can help improve something too.

I can forgive but I can't forget as long as I live.

To forgive is not to forget, these are two totally different actions. I try to always forgive, because holding onto the angry, hurt, or bad feelings only hurts me. Holding onto the wrong someone else has caused me only gives that person the power to continue to hurt me over and over again. Sometimes its easy, other times its hard...very hard. There have been many times when I thought I had completely forgiven someone, only to have that pain slowly creep back up on me. When this happens I have to let go of it once again, and start the process over.

If it's a close friend or a family member no matter how deep the wound is, I'd easily forgive but not without saying my piece and after that I'd soon forget. But if it's someone I hardly know or is not that close to me, depends on what they did. If I know that it's not intentional and they are really sorry, I'd forgive them. But I'll be honest, and say that this has somehow cause a mark and I don't know If I can easily forget it.. But, knowing me, I know that I'd come around eventually and talk to them..I'm not much into keeping post of whatever bad thing a person has done to me. I believe that in forgiving and forgetting, one can easily move on to their lives..

It is good to forgive. It is not easy to forget. I have been through alot lately which is cause by person who is around me. I forgive them yes. The bible says to forgive is divine. But I do not forget. Remember it is the things that happen in our life either make us or break us. God our heavenly father forgive us but he does not forget because there will be a judgement day where he will be judging us according to our work.