How charming do I need to be to get friend invitations?

It's most likely because you are new here. I know a lot of folks need to "see you around" to get to know you before asking you to become a friend. Others, I've learned, won't even consider you as a friend until you have at least 100 posts. I base it entirely on the quality of the subjects and the part of the intelligence that shows here on myLot. Have you given anyone a "best response"? to your posts (assuming that you have written a few discussions of your own)? That sometimes has something to do with it. I peeked at your profile and didn't see anything that says you would not make a good friend. You sound very intelligent and articulate. So, I'll ask if you'd like to be my friend. You DO know about the link at the top of the page, "friends", don't you? If not, when you see a number beside it, it means that you have a friend request. If you send a friend request, it will show up in your email if they accept it. I've only been here a few weeks myself, so I'm still learning the ins and outs of myLot, but I think I got everything correct for you. I certainly hope so! Keep posting. You'll be getting friends, especially after you've hit the 100 posts mark. Good luck!

Welcome to MyLot. It takes a little time to get used to the place and meet everyone. Just start looking over ppl's profiles and see who looks like good friend material and then send them an invite. The worst they can do is say no...as far as I know there's only a few that bite LOL **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

hello martindale,put a nice picture of yourself.that'll do the trick!

Hi martindale! I think no body here in mylot needs to be charming just to have friends. Why not try to add anyone who responds to your discussions. Or try responding to others discussion so that if they have like your post they will have an option in adding you to their friends. That's what I do before when I was new here. But to my surprise I get friends invites daily and I have lots of friends now. You can add me also to your friends.

Welcome to MYLOT. Forget about meeting friends. Post quality discussions and response to others. Download pictures and see what you can contribute to MYLOT. Once you response to quality the friends well come. I have send out only one friends request and I eventually of delete it because the persons has never response to a discussion of mine but I have done several of hers. All of my friends comes from their request. So just post quality and the friends will come.

I am in the same boat as you. Since i joined only two people have been added as my friends. I am always shy about asking someone to be my friend because when someone denies it i always wonder what i did wrong. But i am a great person to talk and with. Maybe its the whole im shy thing.

Wish I knew luv - do share if you find the secret...x

You don't have to use charm to gain friends. Just be yourself and be natural. I invited you to be my friend because i can picture that you're a good person by the way you answered one of my discussion. And I feel that we have some common interest. I don't mind if you didn't have that avatar but i guess if you put some it would help.

Hello martindale welecome to mylot and I will be your friend,wheter you are a Psychologist or a Therapist.You have a great night and I will be sending you a request to be my friend.

Hi martindale, It's not that nobody wants to be your friend, maybe it's because you're not well known yet. All you have to do is be active and the request will come, also dont be afraid to request to be added to peoples friends list. It has been my experience here that once you post or answer discussions you get yourself noticed. So welcome to Mylot and enjoy yourself, get out there and participate and before you know it your friends list will grow.

I think you just need to post more as you only have 39 posts, I don't think many people actually know you exist here. Personally I never add people as friends as I am not interested in making friends here, I am more interested in enlightening discussions. I have accepted some friend requests, but they have never gone anywhere. I wouldn't worry, the people you are coming across are probably people like me that are not interested in friend requests.

Hi martindale and welcome to MyLot. Listen where your new and all don't worry about makeing friends right off the bat I know you want to badly but that will come in time and I can assure you of this for I was like this to and I have made many in my time here so far. As long as you get your self out there w/ posts and responding to other posts people will notice you and will gradually want to add you to their friends list. I do hope you enjoy your time here in posting/responding to discussions, makeing friends, and makeing money here at MyLot. I wish you the best of luck and take care.

I can feel you are a nice person because of the way you related your story. I will invite you then. Maybe I haven't come across you because you weren't too visible. This is my first time to come across your posts. LOL. Invite the myLotters you think you want to have friends with. Remember: If you want to have more friends...BE ONE, BE A FRIEND first. Take care =)

Don't feel bad martindale, I haven't received any friend request either. I think that most of the users are here to make money and making friends comes second. I'm here for both.

I discovered that the secret for me was to request friendship from everyone who responds to my discussion. Of course, not everyone accepts me, but I figure if they have similar interests then they are more likely to become my friend. Also, once your responded to someone's discussion ask them to also be your friend. If your response was a sincere/quality response they are likely to accept. Hey, you can be my friend.

I laughed out loud when I read your question. No worries, though. I think it's because you are still fairly new. I had one or two friends in the first week. And I'm sure many others can say the same. I think you need to relax and enjoy adding your thoughts to Mylot for awhile before getting all paranoid. The more you post, the better the chances of someone discovering you. Even if it takes a little longer than you hoped it will be worth it.

Hello There! I will add you up! and yup, put a nice picture there.. Hope you enjoy your stay here in mylot! Cheers! :0

Awww. I'm sorry. I tried to get some friends when I first arrived too, and the friend requests just sat there - neither accepted or denied. Then I read someone's post about this saying she never accepted a friend request from someone who had less than 200 posts. How strange.

Martin, its not that people do not wanted to be your friend, but mostly they still havent know you yet. so far you only post 39 times right? myLot had thousands of active members so its like finding a needle in haystack. What you had to do. Post some good topic discussion, usually people will asked you as a friend if they think you had something good to duscuss or both of you had same similar taste in discussion. Second, post more. The more you post, more people will know you. Three, if you find member here that you enjoy to talk to, why not asking them to be your friend first? Usually you will be accepted. Hope this will help.

i agree 100% Martindale! I sent you a friend invite as I too am very lonely and would love to make friends on here :)