Apprehensions of a mother

Philippines
June 1, 2008 9:30am CST
My son had his circumcision this morning. I didn't go with him, because I was scared. I don't know exactly what I was scared of, that's the problem. Good thing, my mother in-law accompanied my son to the clinic. A few minutes ago, he took his pain reliever and antibiotics. He wouldn't show "it" to me, and again, I wonder why. There are qualms deep inside me. I couldn't define it. I guess there is a fear crawling inside me, telling me that sooner or later, he's going to be a grown-up man, with his own family, and creating his own life. I guess I am just so scared to let him go. I don't want my son out of my wings, but I know that is too selfish..Oh, please mothers out there, I know you understand me. Please do help me quiet my fears. God bless you all.
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6 responses
• Spain
2 Jun 08
Hi, i see in your countrie circumcision is the most for all boys.
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• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Yeah, it's really a cultural thing. It's like you are "out" when you haven't gone through it. I don't question it's hygienic or scientific basis. It's just that it's the thing to do here. Like a rite of passage or something.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jun 08
boys of that age are really very private and he would not even show his mom because they are.ofcoursesooner or later he is going to be leaving you and marrying but he will still be your son til his dying day. This is the normal progress of life and one day you will be a grandmom, thats something to look forward to. so let him grow up as youwill always be his mom. just do not sit on his wings.let him progress normally. he will oneday lift his wings and fly to a lady love and you will have a daughter in law, then grand kids. life is a lovely progression you see.
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• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Wow, very well said. Life is a lovely progression indeed! A beautiful cycle, if I may add. Thank you.
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@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
1 Jun 08
It isn't easy watching our children growup before our eyes. My daughters are now 26 and 27 and I still mourn sometimes because they are not around. I miss them and I am fortunate if they call once a month. They do not live that far away but they both have busy lives. Enjoy evry minute that you have with you son now. Time flies and then we regret the could-have beens.
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• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Thank you, im taking your advice. Im enjoying every bonding time with my children. I hope that somebody, when they have their own families already, they will just live near me and not go far away. Im sure you have raised your daughters well. Congratulations for being a good mother to them. I will always strive to be one for my kids. Thanks again.
• India
2 Jun 08
So many posts I read here daily and in all of them we mothers express our fear of our children growing up and leaving us. The outside world has become so violent and aggressive that it is but natural for us mothers to feel scared. Giving them good education, teaching them how to look after themselves, how to be cautious in lifeā€¦there is little else we can do to protect them. And yes, a firm belief in God.
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• United States
1 Jun 08
Hi inday don't feel bad that you couldn't be w/ your son while he had his circumcision done for you were scared and that's completely understandable. I decieded to have my son circumcised right after he was born for I was told the longer they wait in life the harder it will be for them so I chose to do it early. I wanted to be there w/ him but the nurses wouldn't allow me to for they said I needed to rest after a long delivery. My son is 9 now and the years are flying by when it seems not to long ago I had him. I to want to hold him under my wing and not let him go knowing that one day is going to come when he wants to get married and start a family of his own. Even though they grow up and move on you never lose them at heart. My son will always be a part of me no matter what he does and the choices he decied's to make in his life and I will always be there to support him in what ever he does the same goes for your son. I hope many of us mother's here at MyLot can help ease your fear and rest assure that all will be ok god bless you take care.
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• United States
1 Jun 08
I am not quite sure what you are talking about with the circumstance or the medicine your son is on.However I can feel for you about him moving on and possibly not needing you anymore.I have been a single mom with one daughter for 17 years,last year I set up and paid for her to go on a trip to disney world with her friends family.I was all right with all this until she called me from Florida and it hit me that she was able to get on a plane and travel all those miles without me.I was crushed,I couldn't believe she was growing away from like that,she always needed me and suddenly she didn't.I went through quite a depression for many months about this,I am coming out of it now realizing that although she is getting older and does not need me in the same way as before.She will always need me,and someday there will be grandchildren to focus on.For now I have to feel blessed that she still comes to me for advice and wants me home with her in the evening where as most teenagers want their moms out so they can have their private times.
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• Philippines
1 Jun 08
That's exactly what I am afraid of -when my son spreads his own wings. I'm sure that would be lonely. But I keep reminding myself it will inevitably happen, so I will cross the bridge when I get there. It's different here in our country. It is part of tradition that a boy goes through circumcision at a certain age. Although there is really no restrictions as to what age.
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