To circumcise or not, y not leave it to him?

maybe you should feed your baby until he is grown up and mature to decide for himself, you should send him to school untill he decides, before you bath him in the morning let him decides too.

I chose not to because I couldn't bare my son going through it even though his father wanted it done. If his father was with me at his birth, then I think we might have got it done, but I got very emotional and the thought of him being "cut" pained me so I said NO. Every boy child in Samoa gets circumsized and he didn't want his son to be teased by the other kids - I said we will deal with it when it happens. I just couldn't go through it - I bawled my eyes out and got really emotional about it. Only once in his life time (he is almost 6 years) has he had a slight infection and that was cleared up right away. He knows how to clean it everyday and I make sure he does. If he chooses to get circumsized later on in his life then that is his choice.

It would hurt my baby, pain and all the motherly affection to one side, but i say, let him have that choice too OMG! do you have ANY IDEA how painful it is for a child his age or older to get it done?!? My bf's boyfriends son just had it done (he's 4) and that poor little guy was in SO MUCH PAIN... IMO it should always be done when they are infants...waiting until they are older as far as I'm concerned is just cruel...

I agree with everything MooPile said! It is NOT a necessary procedure. I don't care if it's done to a newborn or adult, it going to hurt...at least the adult choosing to have it done will be able to understand that. The poor little newborn has known nothing but warmth and comfort and then is suddenly "taught" about pain in a very barbaric manner! I will admit that 3 of my 4 boys were circumsized. With my oldest, 10 years ago, it was unheard of here to not do it, it didn't seem like an option. Circumsision was talked about like a necessary procedure that "all boys" had to deal with. The other two are 5 and 3 and while I was very uncomfortable with it at the time, their dad is still "old school" and wanted it done so I went along...but only after trying to educate him that they aren't necessary. When my youngest son was born, I was prepared to go to battle over it. I did not want it done. The choice was taken out of my hands though. He has hypospadias (shorten urethra) along with a hooded foreskin. He can not be circumsized because his existing foreskin will be the best material to lengthen his urethra. If and when we do that surgery...which is a procedure far worse than circumsision but possibly medically necessary...he will look like a circumsized boy but at least I will know that it was done with good reason.

no dear in this matter i am against you don't mind but your husband is right.because as he will grow he will be pained more because at his birth his wound set early but now it will pain him more.

I have my boy and he is going to eight this month but not yet circumcise.I was still building his self confident for this things.Like me,I was circumcise at the age of 10,my father keep asking me yearly if I am ready for that until at the age of 10 with my colleagues, I have decided to be circumcise.So I want this to happen to my boy to have his own decision regarding when he wanted to be circumcise.I was personally dis-agree for the kids to be circumcise during birth for some reason.

Your the mom, you do what is right for you and your son. My son hqad his first 2 sons circumcised, the doc messed up. His 3rd. son he didn't let them do it. Its barbaric they way they do it. You can watch videos on the internet of it being done. Its horrible, those babies feel the pain, its bad. The poor little guys are born and hours later someone cuts on them. I was young when my son was born, if I had known I would not have had him cut.

Babies don't remember the pain & actually if done right, they don't feel anything. My son & nephews have all been circumcised & none of them had to go through all this pain that people seem to think the babies feel during circumcison. Now a days they do have medication that blocks all pain. I know this first hand, so if it's about not wanting your baby to feel pain, well find the right doctor & find out if they use stuff for blocking the pain. But with that said... your child isn't a baby anymore & I'm sure circumcising is now out of the subject & if not, I sure hope you don't plan on it now. It's best to have this done when they are newborns or not at all. I think most mothers make the choice for thier babies because I have always been told this is harder on an adult male to be circumcised & its best to do it as a baby. I also think most parents do this because its been proven to be healthier. It's an on going debate... some think it's not healthier, some do.

I do not know whether truly its medical fact. in our part, in our religion men are not done so? do all of them contract disease? i don't believe/ let discuss with him and then decide.

If we were born circumcised and with ears pierced then there is some logic to saying that it is healthy.. Otherwise, its rubbish - the person just has to be educated properly... Regarding personal issues, try not to make that public !

Have you asked your husband why it is so important to him? He is really the one who needs to answer that for you, since he is the one you are fighting with about it. I have two sons, the first was circd at birth, and when I found out they did it with no type of anesthetic I was p$$d! My son went through a lot of pain I figured. So when my second son was born I did not have it done. No problems with either son in the area of infections. My first born was a lot crankier than the second but I could not tell you if the circ had anything to do with it.

I know as a mother its vey hard for you take the decision to circumcise or nor. But if you take my advice do circumcise your son. Beacuse he may later in his life can consider but at that time circumcise will be more difficult than now.

You being a mother are afraid of the pain that it might cause him. But healthwise it is good to have the circumcision. It is medically proven that men who have had circumcision are in less danger of getting urinary infections and other related diseases. So my opinion is that for the good of your son you can have it done now itself as your son might become self conscious as he grows up and like you he may be afraid to do it. But it is upto you and your husband to decide.