Will you share your money with your lover? / myLot

Malaysia

June 2, 2008 7:06am CST

Just want to know what is your view on money issue when you are in a relationship or in a marriage. Is your money belongs to you only? Or both of you share your money?

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jewelenterprises

@jewelenterprises (1996)

• Australia

2 Jun 08

Money is shared in my household. I am the main financial contributor and I sometimes resent the fact that my partner wants me to account for every cent I spend (or it seems that way) That can be really difficult, especially knowing that I work to provide the money and all she does is find ways to spend it.

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

2 Jun 08

Hahaha. I know you're working hard to provide for the family. I'm sure they'll appreciate it. Well, the reason I started this discussion is I didn't see a good sharing money habit in my parents life. They just has a small fight just now, which make me wondering how many couples are sharing their money. If you think your lover is too over in this money issue, try talk to her and let her know as well, money doesn't come easy nowadays!

lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

3 Jun 08

Thanks for your comment. I agree that it's more worth to buy food especially for our kids and family. This is what I called sacrifices that most parents will do to care for their kids. Do take care for your high cholestrol too and keep go for the medication once you have enough finance to do so.

jewelenterprises

@jewelenterprises (1996)

• Australia

3 Jun 08

Oh, and thanks so much for best response.

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elitess

@elitess (5070)

• Ipswich, England

5 Jun 08

Yes we share most of our money - we keep it in a bank, but we do keep small amounts for ourself so that we can surprise each other from time to time.

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@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

5 Jun 08

That's great idea. Wow, it sure feel more love when receive a surprise from your lover.

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srmailtosr

@srmailtosr (426)

• India

3 Jun 08

if i say truly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! every thing can change upto money......... money can change attitudes,minds,situations and everything.every human in this world is seperate......... money cav break very tight relations within seconds!!!!!!!!!this is a caution!!!so the rigidness of relations is not a problem....the real danger is money!!!!!!! sharing of money issues can be done with your partners as well as others...but !!!!money matters should be handled with care.........

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

3 Jun 08

Thanks for your comment. I agree on it. As long as we manage the money well and ask before we spend those money. I think we can minimize the misunderstanding to the minimum. Have a nice day.

dhanny2008

@dhanny2008 (35)

• Indonesia

5 Jun 08

i think in married relationship, i have share anything with my couple, including share for money... it is about my responsibility to my family...

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

5 Jun 08

thanks for your comment here. I'm glad for your commitment for the family. But my mum sometimes just put the money as her focus than us! Sigh..

xiaojing1226

@xiaojing1226 (236)

• China

4 Jun 08

I share my money with my boyfriend,and i don't think there is any problem.If your lover with you have been together for several years,you will find it okey.But if you are together for a little time,maybe you are not necessory to worry about it.What you need is just the time.

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

4 Jun 08

Thanks for your comment. I agree with you that we can't simply trust our boyfriend/girlfriend in money when we just started off. But beware too if one day either of you might betray you or stop loving you. Hope this will not offend you.

Gingerbreadman

@Gingerbreadman (80)

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3 Jun 08

sharing money is not bad in a relationship but don't abuse or be abuse on the money of your love one (or your money).

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

3 Jun 08

Thanks for your comment. It's important that we trust each other in money and also use those money wisely! have a nice day.

chiyochan

@chiyosan (30184)

• Philippines

2 Jun 08

i dont think there is a problem with sharing money with your partner. i think when you trust the person, it is okay.. as long as he does not rip you off. hehe

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

2 Jun 08

Yup, if you found out your partner cheated on you in love and/or money, you should get rid of him asap!!!

jonesy123

@jonesy123 (3948)

• United States

2 Jun 08

Ours is shared, except for retirement savings, lol. We also have some pre-marital investments that are held separate (it's not much,lol). Everything else is shared.

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

2 Jun 08

That's great. At least you guys trusted each other to share both your money. Thanks for your comment.

senjacob

@senjacob (124)

•

2 Jun 08

yes.it is must we share our money with partner.. Not only money we ready to share everything as it may be good or bad things happened in our life.. Because life partner is the part of your life forever..

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

2 Jun 08

Wow, that's a big commitment and am delighted to see such a commitment still exist nowadays! Keep it up!

ycpgoldberg

@ycpgoldberg (807)

• Malaysia

2 Jun 08

Share. I will believe my lover and share with her anything, include money. Love is important than money.

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lieanat

@lieanat (1137)

• Malaysia

2 Jun 08

Wow, surely you are in love madly with your lover now. It's important to trust your partner when you are in a relationship!