What Shud Aunty Do...?
By nupats
@nupats (3564)
India
June 3, 2008 1:25am CST
my mom in laws close friend is a widow and is 58 years old...her children have grown up and well settled...a daughter and a son married off...aunty met someone on her morning walks they became friends and now the old man has proposed tht they marry after seeing each other for an year...i have seen a drastic change in her since she met him she is very happy and optimistic...but the problem is her children do not approve of this and threaten to disown her if she even thinks abt this and have even told her tht if she meets him again they will send her to an old age home in another state...is this fair? i feel very sorry for them? it may not b a sweet 16 year old love story but it is abt companionship. wt do u think she should do? will it b correct if she breaks all ties with her children for this man? wt wud u do in her condition? also if ur parents did this how wud u react? she is so sad tht she keeps crying to my mom in law? is there any age limit for love?
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6 responses
@nupats (3564)
• India
4 Jun 08
this is not coverd in our legal system bcoz the son is owner of the house and he just telling her to make her choice and our society is still conservative abt such things mostly ppl will support the son thts the bad part..i also belive like u tht there is no age limit for love..

@amrishkj (297)
• India
12 Jul 08
If the man is a gentleman and can support her then she should indeed marry him and not heed to what the children say. Coz she raised them, get them settled and now its her time to enjoy whatever life is left. Moreover what she can do is after moving in with this man she can sue the children for mental torture so that they can get a shock which they really need. She can later take back the case if she cares for the children, but she does need to give them a shock and show them where they belong and that they are still kids to her and not her parents.
@jesus777 (662)
• Bermuda
12 Jul 08
i think the children are out of order if there mom have found someone too make her happy and content then they should support her not threaten her after all she is grown they are grown and for them too say that they will disown her over a man that is bad blood is suppose too be thicker them water or anything else but for them too allow this too come between them i think it not good at all she is grown so allow her too live her life at she chooses too live it we all only have one life too live so we should live it too the fullest and if there mom is happy and content with this man i dont feel the kids should have any dispute over them they should allow her too live her life as she chooses and be happy!!!!!! if i was her i would tell the kids too butt out and mind there own business she seems like a wuzz she seems afraid of her own kids and that is not good at all i will pray for her and the situation in jesus name amen jesus is the answer to every problem!!!!!!
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
3 Jun 08
first what about the man? if he is nice and ok ( i mean he is not o psychopath or just want to misuse their relationship), than why not. she has right to be happy. you're right that it's about companionship. maybe she just want a friend in the rest of her life. i think not the woman but the children who are sick. they shouldn't do like that.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
3 Jun 08
i havnt met the man myself...i guess he must b fine that is why they wanna b together..in our part of the world it is not expected tht old ppl fall in love..they r expected to look after their grandchildren and pray to God...it is sad...wt wud u do in her place..wud u choose a partner or ur children...
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jun 08
She is not old at fifty six and her kids should butt
the heck out of things. She deserves to be happy and
'if marrying this old guy will bring that to her
then more power to herFor one thing the kids cannot send an
'intelligent woman of her age to any old age home as she
is not aged at all. what a lousy bunch of kids she has.
Let her break all ties, she will be better off for that.
there is no age limit for love and you are talking like
she is aged but she is not. she is in the prime of her
life. good for her.
@nupats (3564)
• India
5 Jun 08
tht is exactly wt i feel...instead of feeling happy for her they r just creating misery for her...even i feel she shud go ahead..in my part of the country such things r still very hard to accept we stay in metro cities so our view points have changed...all the same i strongly feel she has all right to think abt her happiness..thank u
@JudithP (295)
• Canada
4 Jun 08
Hi. I'm 54 and if my children stuck their noses where it didn't belong they might get it bit off. The woman is 58 not 98 and senile. How can they call themselves loving children if they don't want to see her happy. If it was me and the old gentleman made me happy, I would just go to the justice of the peace and it would be done. It's really none of their business.

@nupats (3564)
• India
5 Jun 08
hi judith i fully agree with wt u write...if i was her kid i wud have supported her fully bcoz all have a right to b happy in life...it is bad tht her kids do not support her..i too think she shud go ahead and marry the old guy..it will surely b more than companionship but believe me lonliness is the biggest problem as u grow older in life and a partner will never let u feel lonely...have a nice day





