Have you ever been guilty about your parenting?

@smilyn (2964)
United States
June 4, 2008 4:04am CST
Today my son was disturbing me a lot.He did not allow me to do any work.So I had to divert him with his toys and other games. But still he was totally dependent on me. Atlast he fell asleep now.Now I feel that I would have spent some more time with him..I feel guilty..Have you ever felt guilty in your parenting? have you ever felt that you are not a good mom/ dad?
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@kezabelle (2984)
4 Jun 08
Sometimes I feel guilty if I cant give them attention all day as I feel they are so little that said I dont feel that makes me a bad mother because I leave them to play alone sometimes I mean learning to play alone is a good skill to have. I do everything I can for them ok sometimes circumstances dictate what I do or how I do it and that can leave me feeling a little guilty but I know im a good mother to them.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
5 Jun 08
yes, sometimes circumstances makes us too busy that we can't spend quality time with the child..I agree with you that the child should be independant enough for their age.
4 Jun 08
Im the same too, when I see hm sleeping, his sweet Innocent face makes you cry inside but busy or not, we've never missed one cherish moment with them when they were growing up, we are still good parents after all xxxx
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
5 Jun 08
yah..that is right..Especially toddlers, they make you feel tired ..But they are so lovable when they sleep.At those times, I feel I might have spent some more time with him..But still we are good parents..
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
4 Jun 08
I guess it depends on their age & how much time you manage to spend with them. I do feel guilty & have the past few days because my daughter will be 2 in a couple of days so i have been busy organising her party, cleaning the house & things like that, instead of playing with her & bonding with her. I don't think she seems to mind too much as she is pretty independent & will play on her own more often than not but sometimes i do feel guilty for allowing her to do so much on her own rather than joining in with her activities & spending some decent 1 on 1 time with her. I have never thought of myself as a bad Mum or anything, i just feel that sometimes i could put in a little more effort with our quality time, i don't think it makes me a bad parent though - i'm sure there are plenty of other parents out there that spend a lot less time with their kids than i do which makes me feel a little better about my busy days.
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
5 Jun 08
That would be so nice if the baby is independant and extovert.My son is also quite independant..But the thing is that he knows when mom would be very busy and he would be cranky on those days only....By the way, my hearty birthday wishes to your cute little daughter..
@neildc (17251)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
4 Jun 08
I am. I have a little guilt feeling with my son. I cannot send him to college. But I cannot take all the blame. I can say that the present situation everywhere is very hard to handle. Prices of everything goes up, but the salary remains...
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
4 Jun 08
That is very sad to know..Don't worry..We are the ones to be affected much by these price hikes..But still we are unable to do anything..cheers..
• India
4 Jun 08
I just feel like that so many times, especially, if my son needs me to b with him, and i have to do something else at that moment. And all the more guilty, when he sleeps and i c him innocent face calmy sleeping....oh it really eats me up. I really think, now from next time, i gotta be with him, if he needs me, and thats it, but you know...not always i can keep on my word..But one thing 4 sure, this does not make us bad parents....
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I too feel the same way as you do..When I cannot spend time with him, and when I'm busy that does not hurt me..But later when he sleeps, I would be so guilty that I should have done the work when he sleeps..But few works cannot be avoided or postponed..Thanks for your response.It really made me feel high..