One Hand Washes The Other...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
June 4, 2008 12:29pm CST
I’ve always been taught that one hand washes the other. Ppl help you out, you help them out. Even if you really don’t feel like it, you do it b/c it’s the right thing to do. Some ppl aren’t like that…they expect ppl to help them out but then they gripe when it’s time to return the favor.
Yesterday, I got to see both sides of it. My oldest Brother will often go to the store and pick up things for me when I can’t get out. Yesterday he asked me to take his cable bill by and drop it off for him. I didn’t feel like it but I did. He helps me, I help him. I do the same thing with most of the ppl in my family…we help each other out. It’s just the way we were raised. I’ve also met ppl that wouldn’t lift a finger if you on fire…no matter how much you help them out.
Do you follow the one hand washes another idea? Is there a particular person that is always helping you out that you tend to help out in return?
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@meghna000 (34)
• India
5 Jun 08
ya...I believe in one hand washes the other. It is very important to keep relations working. But I always apply this thunbrule with a smiling face in an attempt to hide the fact that I am doing something unwillingly....just because he or she helps me out.....it just to make them feel good.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I always try to help out others if at all possible...I don't like to be used,but i will do for others..When i say i don't like to be used i am talking about certain people.I know a person that is to tight to call information,however they will come to me expecting me to do it and pay because they don't want to pay for information,in that case i feel used and will not do it...I never mind helping others....
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@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
4 Jun 08
I agree with this theory. However, I do not see a lot of people using it in this life. Maybe I am around **me** people, too much.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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4 Jun 08
Yes I have heard of this saying before,except I use you scratch my back and I will scratch yours. I am one of those who will do what I can to help others but I always have a moan about it first. It is part of the ritual for me and everyone expects it of me!
This morning for example, my sister in law phoned me and asked me if I could take my nephew to nursery for her, it was on my way but I was running late and so of course I had to just mention that I was running late and that one of my sons was ill. She knew that I would do it though!
In return she picked my son up from school in the afternoon because my other boy was not well to save me having to take him out.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
7 Jun 08
We use you scratch my back I'll scratch yours expression. Me and my mom are always helping each other out as much as possible and I help my sisblings out as much as I can but usually when it comes to my siblings and In-laws it is a take take take situation and I don't hear from them unless they want something or want me to do something or to borrow money. But when I am in need I only have my mom to turn to so I help her as much as I can.
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I do follow that rule and I teach my kids to follow that rule as well. The person that helps me the most is my mom and I can only hope to help her as much as she has helped me.
@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
4 Jun 08
My family has always helped each other when it was needed, and sometimes when it wasn't, but we did it because we were family, and we never knew when we might not be the ones who needed help.
When I became disabled it suddenly was me that needed the help, and I was very glad to get it, because it kept me from being homeless.
Now my wife and me help help each other out as there is not much I can do for other people anymore... and that will have to do.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
8 Jun 08
I only help out when I feel like doing it. I don't expect anything in return except a thank you.I only help out doing things I can do. I Never volunteer to do something I hate to do.And I would never ask people to something I know they hate to do. If I don't know but then find out they hate doing a task , I never ask them to do it again.
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I don't really expect those I've helped out to help me. I'm more of the "What goes around comes around." I'm generally generous and helpful to everyone with the perspective that whatever I put out into the universe comes back to me seven-fold. So the generosity and help come for others but not necessarily the ones I've helped.
I like the idea of "paying forward."
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
7 Jun 08
My Family Is the Most Imporant People In My life and Yes I would do Anything They Ask of Me and yes over the years we have washed each others hands quite often. I am a person that would not ask for help in anyway unless it was impossible for me to do it on my own but I do know that all my family would be there if need be.
You are very lucky as I am to have a brother that is able to help you,And you can help him when needed thats what family is all about. You have a great night.
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I babysit a lot for my daughter and she will stop off at the store for me sometimes (wish she'd do it more though, oh well)..
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes twoey, I am the same way as you are. I think it is very important to help each other, no matter its family or friend or other people. Life become easy and joyful for us if we follow this idea through out our life. My hubby is also the same way. But I have met lots of people who know to take the help only. Even you can not get any simple information from some people, its far way that they will help you going somewhere physically.
@meghna000 (34)
• India
5 Jun 08
ya....I strongly believe in "one hand washes the other". But I always apply this thumbrule with a smiling face in an attempt to hide the fact that I am doing the job unwillingly just because he or she helps me out. A small thing indeed to make someone feel good.
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I do try to help others out as much as possible. There are few times I have regretted it because of things getting stolen from me or whatever, but I refuse to let it sore me towards helping others. I think it works out to you own benefits as well as theirs. One day you made need help and it will be easier to find it if you have instilled the value of being there for others in some one else's heart. We each make a difference no matter how small and the small one's do add up.
