How to understand my one month old baby's behaviour???????

June 4, 2008 9:45pm CST
My baby is one month old.He use to cry most of the time?How do I understand what he needs? Plz help me,I am feeling very helpless........
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• Philippines
16 Jun 08
When i was new mom, I felt the same way. It was very hard when you're not used to it. My baby keeps on crying and waking at the middle of the night and I just don't know what he wants. But eventually, you will get into it. Maybe your baby wants to be cuddled, hugged or maybe he wants milk. One reason why babies keep crying without you knowing why is because of colic. This is very common to babies. You should consult your doctor regarding this issue. Don't worry to much. Maybe your stressed but I know you can surpass this! Just be patient..
@alcazar (761)
• India
6 Jun 08
Well...first get in touch with someone who has experience in taking care of new born babies..ya its that way with the new ones...they always seem to be either crying or sleeping ...but just see to it that someone is always near her....and get in touch with a doctor....
@smilyn (2967)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I guess you are a new mom..That is why you are helpless when you see your baby cry..cool..Babies cry a lot and there are quite a more number of reasons for that.This is because crying is the only means of communication for babies.Some of the reasons for which a baby cries may be hunger,wet nappy,colic, hot or cool weather or even uncomfortable clothing..If you observe closely, you can find that your baby's cry is different for every needs.At first it would be difficult for you to differentiate his cry..But soon you will find that you are a best mom for him.This is just from trial and error. Whatever the reason could be it is always better you pick your baby first and cuddle hime. This not only soothes him..but also makes him feel that you are there for him - ALWAYS..Then check out if his nappy is wet..Then the environment - if it is too hot/cold..Also check out his clothing.He is a little one. He can be uncomfortable too.At times, the baby can cry if he is colic. Though the reasons for colic is unknown, you can try to soothe him by rocking,massaging,changing the room etc..Also check out if the baby has nappy rash. That could also be one of the reasons.. Happy parenting..
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
5 Jun 08
This sounds like my first baby - now I have three (smile). There are many reasons your baby could be crying - I'll try to let you know some of the reasons why mine cried - I didn't know then, but later learned as time went on. 1. Your child could be hot - we always bundled my daughter up (we had her in summertime) but she ended up being really hot and that made her uncomfortable 2. Your child could not be getting enough to eat. I was nursing her, but ended up having to supplement because she was not eating enough and was still hungry! 3. Your child could have gas or colic - have you tried gas medicine - mylicon? It's the pediatrician's # 1 choice. My daughter had colic and it finally went away after about 3 weeks - but some go on for a little while longer. 4. Your child could be sleepy - could be that you haven't found that what makes your child comfortable and go to sleep yet - he could be sleepy and restless. 5. Your child could just want attention and comfort. Babies can feel tension and feel your emotions. Try to always be calm when dealing with your child - comfort him. Sing sweet songs softly to him and rock him or put him over your shoulder and just pat him softly on his back while swaying side to side. Try not to feel helpless or panicky in any way because he will sense that! You are doing a great job - don't worry! Also just make sure you are providing a good safe environment - clean air (no smoking), etc. Your baby just needs time to adjust - remember this is his first time in this world outside of your womb and it's a major change - let him adjust! It will get much easier as time passes! Hope this helps!
@anndocs (249)
5 Jun 08
are you a new mom? I'm a new mom also my daughter is now 9 month old. I used to experienced that. There is no way to avaoid it , it is their way to communicate.It can difficult at first, but parenting is a trial and error and you soon learn to anticipate the needs. Just find ways to soothe it Every baby cries in different reason,perhaps she's hungry , need a diaper changed, she's too hot or too cold, she wants to be held, doesn;t feel good or none of the above,sometimes you may not able to figure out what's wrong many newborns develop periods of fussiness when they are not easily to soothed.This fussy periods can range from a few minutes of crying to full blown COLIC. It's best also to consult your pedia if you can not handle it anymore.happy parenting!
• United States
5 Jun 08
Pay attention to his cries and get a good understanding of they all mean. For example, his pain cry, i'm wet cry, hungry cry..etc. Once you get to know what is wrong then you can determine if he has colic, an earache or something more severe. If you are unable to determine this for yourself you may want to call his pediatrician. His doctor will be able to assist you in this matter. Go to a website such as American Baby or Parenting to find out what your child's cries mean. This time when he cries for nothing will be over soon when he understands that he is taken care of. If you are feeling frustrated at all lay your baby down in his crib without any blankets or pillows and walk away for a minute until you calm down. Once you are calm you will be able to help him more. Good luck and take care.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I take it your a new mommy. It can be o scary being a new mom. I remember how I was. I assume that you keep him changed and fed, and burped. does he draw up his legs when he is crying? If he does it's sign of a tummy ache. You can take his right elbow and bring up his left knee until they touch. Then do the opposite with the left elbow and right knee. He might really cry hard, it won't hurt him, but this will help him to get rid of any gas that he may be having trouble getting rid of. Maybe he needs to be wrapped up really tight too for comfort. Not so tight that he can't wiggle. Then if he is a big baby he might not be getting enough to eat, I don't mean your not feeding him enough but he might need something more than just milk if he is a big baby. if you do decide to give him something make it rice for babies. it is the easiest thing that there is for babies little tummy, and go very easy with it. Talk to your Dr first. I hope these hints can be of some help.
• United States
5 Jun 08
It takes time. I had six and I still had to learn each ones likes and dislikes. The baby can tell when mommy is stress so just relax and let each day teach you something new. You will be a great mom.
@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Babies are people too...they get fussy and have their days like we adults. My baby is five months old but I treat his cryings just as if he was a new born. You've got to listen to not only the sound of the crying but how he's crying. Is he crying in low soft moans? Or is it high pitched? Or worse, is it desperate sounding? First thing I do when my baby cries is check his diaper. He hates having a messy and he'll simmer down even while I'm in the middle of cleaning him. Next, I'll burp him. Gas makes them so fussy. Speaking of gas, if it doesn't go out the mouth, I'll lay him across my knees and rub his back upwards. That way, he'll be able to pass gas from either end more comfortably. Then, I'll try and feed him. However, there have been times when I've done all those above and he's still fighting me that I know he's tired and can't fall asleep on his own. That's when the mother/child bonding comes in. I don't nurse him every time, but when he's extra cranky or at nights, I'll nurse him. There's something about being all snuggled up against the mama that makes him so peaceful. Good luck with the baby and remember...please remember...if you're in public and he cries, don't let other people's rude stares or comments get to you. Don't get frustrated with yourself or the baby. Perhaps he's too warm or too cold. But, there's nothing like a quiet room with just him and his favourite person on earth: his mommy.