I recently started noticing a weired behavior in my boyfriend...
By theinvention
@theinvention (4)
United States
June 5, 2008 1:34pm CST
So, I'm 21 and he's 22 and we've been dating each other for the last 8 months.
In the last couple of months we started to have a more active love life, but there is something I feel it's just not right.
I don't know how to explain it, but when we make love he doesn't go for my bra.
I've tried to encourage him many times without pushing but I had no success.
He's a sweet and he's not that shy at all, so I don't understand... it's not like it has a secret combination or anything like that!(Maybe he just doesn't think my breasts are attractive)
I still haven't mentioned this to him cause I expect to get some opinions from other mylotters.
At first I even thought "Well, maybe if I don't let him he will start to want to", but he just doesn't go for it in the first place.
What's wrong?
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16 responses
@kezabelle (2974)
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5 Jun 08
I think maybe you should ask him!!! No one can really know what is wrong, if anything is infact wrong. You have been together 8 months if you like him a lot then you should be upfront with him and talk to him see what he has to say, its the only way you will find out for sure.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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6 Jun 08
There could be several reasons for his behaviour but is it really that important? He obviously enjoys the other parts of love-making with you if you've been together and sexually active for eight months. Men have different preferences, but maybe if you tried not wearing a bra occasionally, he might just change his ways? Your reaction to him might be a problem too. None of us knows exactly what happens with either of you at these intimate times, so it's difficult to answer.
Brightest Blessings.
@16031981 (449)
• Jamaica
6 Jun 08
is he romantic enough? commnication is one of the ingredients to a healthy relationship. it seem as if he is getting all the pleasure and your being met half. jus talk to him tel im your likes an dislikes and you can find out his also. cheers have fun
@naaadh (217)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Well i think it is best if you ask him what is wrong. And i see this is your first discussion after you have joined myLot, so you are very worried about the situation. What others here might not mean anything, or wont unnecessarily be true. But you can find the real answer by talking with him. Relations are based on how much you both share with each other and how much you share. He is with you because he likes everything about you so dont feel bad thinking he dont like. Talk to him and give him time. Give him what he want, and you take from him what you want. Share as much as you can.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
6 Jun 08
Talk to himmmm.
Maybe he's scared he wont be able to do it as quickly as other men brag about. Or like he won't be able to do it at all.
The only way to really figure it out is just set him down and talk to him to find out why he doesn't go for it.
And if that doesn't work just stop wearing a bra when you plan on getting intimate.
Or do it yourself.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
5 Jun 08
CAn we trade men? LOL...just kidding! It's just that mine is the opposite and I'd really rather he left them alone! I'm still nursing the baby, only he's sleepin through the night more and falling asleep on his own so I'm really 'full' by the time I go to bed...anyway you didn't come here to discuss my issues!
Talk to him, it could be a lot of things. I haven't been in your bedroom so it's hard to say what the problem is...maybe he's just not a fan, maybe he wants you to take the lead and make him go up there, maybe he thinks you don't enjoy it. Talking can straighten things out and maybe even add more ideas and desires.
@vmadhavi31 (189)
• India
6 Jun 08
hey...
your boy friend must be loving your pussey more than your boooobs. definitely ur pussey must be fresh wet and juicy.
anyhow, if he is not pressing and sucking your boooobs make him to do it by asking him. you also indulge in so kinda oral by sucking his penes down to your throat. this will definitly push him to suck your boooobs and pussey. during seex it is very important that both the partners are happy. this will reduce the gap between male and female. one last thing i would like to tell is... go get him to do...
all the best
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jun 08
You are both young yet with more growing up to do, talk
to him, and ask him the things that are bothering you.
He is not a mind reader so you need to clarify your
'concerns with him.
@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Maybe he's afraid he won't be able to get it undone and it will embarass him?
@Timothy31 (649)
• United States
6 Jun 08
You should discuss this with him. IF there is something bothering you its always best to talk it out and find out why he is doing what he's doing. You should never hold things in and just ignore them. I hope you can find out why he's acting like this.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I heard my friend also complaining about his BF about this and she tried to ask her husband but she never got any answer, her partner will just change the topic and so she was thinking that maybe being adopted was the reason. Her husband didn't grew up and didn't know his mother..We also don't know if it has some connection.
ANyway, try to talk to your fiance , make it like a joke so he will not be offended whatever his reasons are!
@Iconoclast1 (389)
• United States
5 Jun 08
The next time you're in the moment, say to him, "Do you know what would turn me on, if you touched them?" Then if he doesn't go for your bra take it off yourself. It could be that he's embarrased to fumble around back there. Now, I can take off a bra with 2 fingers in about 2 seconds, but when I was younger it was a little mystifying, I can admit. If that doesn't work be upfront and ask him.
