Relationships and hurriedness
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
June 7, 2008 2:47am CST
My recent thought process has got me to thinking, and I hope that this topic has not been to overdone here. Have you ever been so wrapped up in your own thoughts and emotions, your own concerns that you read people wrong, or if you do not ask for clarification on a person's tone or actions?
I've found that I have done that recently , and after I make this discussion I will be fixing my mistake. I know that it is is hard for so many people, including myself, to sit back and relax for a moment and ask for clarification before feelings get hurt, or fights get started.
For all of my mylot friends that are aware of my fiance's presence on this site, and those that admire our love for one another, do not be concerned. We always fix our fights.
So for clarification sakes, and to also make this into a discussion : Have you ever been so busy doing other things that it's caused you to neglect your fiance, husband, wife, gf or bf? Has this started a fight between the two? Have you take their actions or words to heart when you knew that it was half your fault for not explaining what is on your mind?
I look forward to everyone's responses here. I hope everyone has a Great Day.
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2 responses
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
that happens a lot with me and my girlfriend. the last time we fought, I was thinking too hard about my own problems that I do not censure what I am saying to her.
I am not like that before. Before, I always think before I talk, I always am sensitive to her feelings. But that time I am so busy and I was thinking so hard that I think I don't know what I am telling her. Or I know what it is, but don't have the time to think about it. It is as if I am channelling my problems to her. She got angry because of it. She stopped talking to me. I felt so guilty. I apologized to her that night.
I try to be more sensitive from now on.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Sometimes it is hard not to be wrapped up in your own emotions and thoughts. I try to censor myself for my fiance if I feel that I am having a particular upset day. I know that he understands and he will make me talk to him if I am having this kind of day, just as I Will bid him the same.
I am glad that you are sensitive to your gf's feelings and I Am sure that she appreciates it just as much as I do when my fiance gets a bit moody.
Thank You For Your Reply, have a great day.
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@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
13 Jun 08
I try to be as sensitive as i can, to listen and understand her - sometimes i get angry on some of her points of view, because the are different then mine, but i try to relax before responding so that i don't upset her for nothing. Other times she overreacts and since i am mostly a calm person, if she insists with out reason i might ask her something that i know will make her relax and take it easy. Sometimes if her period is closing in and she's having strange mood, i actually tell her that i understand and i don't blame her for her moods in that period, and that i am just glad that she is a healthy woman.
P.S.: i know this is kind of a late response but i do hope you ended the fight by now. Congrats on your 1000th post as well, while were on off topic matters.
Take care !
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I understand where you are coming from with different points of view. Luckily my fiance agree on all of our views and the one's we don't we work out. Thanks for your congrats. Have a great day.
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