When you fail at something, do you get depressed or simply move on?

United States
June 8, 2008 1:27pm CST
Whenever I fail at something, I don't like to think of it as failure. Most times, I'll simply try something new. However, I take off a few days after my "failure" and then recoup my spirit before finding a new project. Sometimes, I don't think that I will be able to move on. But, the clock keeps moving forward and one day, I wake up and find a new inspiration. It just happens that way, for me. I'm not a master of all subjects. And, I've "failed" many times in my life at multiple things. But, I never stop. I just keep moving on. How do you deal with failure? Do you treat failure as a learning experience or do you take it as a sign that you're going in the wrong direction?
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@agihcam (1915)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
It is like doing good things and still having few bad things.For me,I take it as a challenge and was learn something from my failure.Lessons Learned is the best that we can refer to for our future improvements,it will give as the right direction in the future.So dont give up when failure comes into your life,but take it as a challenge for you to move on.
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
9 Jun 08
Whenever i fail at something, i will wanna get it over and donw with fast.. I will not give up, instead i will try even harder and prove that i can do it and i wun give without a fight even it means i have to struggle with it.. BUt once i've accomplished it, i will have a great sense of satisfaction ^_^
@mikeysmom (2091)
• United States
9 Jun 08
i always tell myself, "well at least i tried." i think true failure is in not even trying in the first place. if i am not good at something and it matters to me i will keep on trying, but if it is something i could care less about i will just chalk it up and move on.
@mymytri (2032)
• India
9 Jun 08
In my childhood i was very sensitive and easily depressed when I failed at something.Many people fail at least onetime in their life and i don't think i amn't one of them.Later on started taking it as an experience and correcting mistakes i have did. "Fialures are stepping stones to SUCCESS"
@jaymeeliz (505)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
i move on. I love life.
@Darkwing (21587)
9 Jun 08
Haven't we all failed from time to time, my friend? That's how we learn the lessons of life and gain our wisdom. Whenever I fail at something, I don't get depressed, but rather more determined, and will attempt it again and again, until I master it. Hence, I've learned several lessons in the wrong ways, and right way for me to succeed and move on. I can get upset, and I'll get over it in a very short while, before figuring out a new way to approach my project. I get there in the end, and the feeling of success is much sweeter than it would have been succeeding the first time around, believe me! Brightest Blessings.
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
Hi, when i fail at something, obcourse i do get depressed and i think everybody feel depressed but it depend on us how we gonna handle it, when we fail it just made us realized what we have done wrong, so the next time we try again we will really become careful.
@biggerb (2028)
• India
9 Jun 08
I have failed many times and it has made me feel depressed.But with time I've learnt to move on.I found this quote very interesting which I would like to share with you."Success and failure we think are opposites,but they are really not.They are companions-the hero and the side kick".They say failure is not about how you fall but how quickly you pick yourself up.I've learnt from my mistakes and with time I've learnt to take it in my stride.I never want to get bogged down and feel depressed.
@schummi (925)
• India
9 Jun 08
I do get depressed at first...i thinkl about it a lot..and doesnt just move on so easily..becouse in watever i do ,,,i put some real hard work thats failing hurts me a lot....but in the end after some time i just had to move...cant do anything else....
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
I was depressed at first and really feel disappointed also. But as I know that it wasn't good to feel that and wallow myself into self-pity, I'll move on. I will think of it as a challenge and learned from it. In that way I'll be much stronger next time and ready to encounter another challenge. And also I'll just add it to my experiences and know what I do next time I encounter it again.
@MGjhaud (22841)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
of couse, that's normal. especially when you gave your best or you've tried so hard to get something you really want but you fail in the end. I, too, would be depressed or feel sad. But everybody has to move on if living in this world matters the most. hehehe.. one example is applying for a job. if an employer didn't accpet you then you would really feel bad about it but we have to move on we have to live and look for the better.
9 Jun 08
well i really take as an experience...cause it would gave a me lesson that i should be able do better next time...if you were in my shoes i know you will not be comfy all the time...
@WATARIKENJI (1534)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
I also treat failures as learning experiences that can improve our perspective in life. Inspiration is one of the best ways to help us get up again and aim high once. Don't mind the torpedo, full speed ahead as Bruce Lee used to say.
• China
9 Jun 08
I seldom fail but when I do, I got really dissapointed and sort of question my decision and even my ability. It's horrible. I do learn from my failure and give myself a second chance(three at most), but if it's not working out, I quit. What's the point of wasting the energy and time doing something that I have failed twice or more?
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
depression,it will always be a part of failure.I do get depressed whenever I fail but that doesn't last long coz I always try to overcome it.I treat it positively.Literally the word is negative but its essence is very positive.Whenever I fail,I learn....
• Poland
9 Jun 08
For the last few years I'm failing so often that I'm starting to think that I can't do anything right... but I do another things or I'm continuing this failed ones trying to rebuild them. Although I don't know if I ever become successful in this cases. It's quite frustrating.
• Indonesia
9 Jun 08
I have failed many times, and I like to think that I moved on. If I get depressed for every single failure I have, then I think I wouldn't be here where I am today (wherever I am.. ) My dad taught me once with this phrase "Quitters Never Win, Winners Never Quit". I'm sure most people would've heard it already since I often see the phrase. And I always remember that in the back of my mind, I think it's a good phrase to remember.
• Hong Kong
9 Jun 08
Usually I get a little depressed and then after 2 minutes, I will move on or find another way to try again! I don't stay depressed for too long (because I would get bored with it). I think there is something to be learned at every "failure" and therefore I don't really regard them as failure.
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
It really depends on what I have failed on. Certain failures take a lot of recovery before being able to go on. Some failures as well are easy to get over. Yet, everything is a learning experience, be them little or big failures.
• United States
9 Jun 08
i get discouraged but it depends on what it is.. i usually take a few days off and decide if its worth trying again or not.. now a days i am forcing myself to continue no matter what its about just so later i can know i didnt just stop in the fear of failure or stop when i first failed since i tend to feel that i quit too easy