Big Girl Mentality
By taface412
@taface412 (3175)
United States
June 8, 2008 4:37pm CST
I just read a discussion talking about weight lose. Well, it made me think about something I have noticed with my weight battle over the years. Finally about two to three years ago I began to not only lose weight but keep it off. Which losing weight is one battle in itself, but maintaing that weight lose can appear to be even harder.
But one thing I have noticed is when you are heavier and a girl, as I am and I do not know if this applies to you men, but even when you lose the weight you still have that "big girl mentality". Sure you see those numbers go down and you can slide on those jeans you haven't worn in years, but when you look in the mirror you still see that face. And I am not talking about the face you show to the world...I am tlaking about the face you show yourself. You still see those chunky cheeks, and still are hesitant about what you can wear, even though you know you can get away with it.
NOw I am know there are big beautiful women out there who have great confidence in whatever they wear. And I do not lack self-confidence...in fact my past weight issues have only made me all the more intelligent and stronger as a person. But I did notice this after the first full year or so I lost the weight and every once in ahwile it creeps up in my mind. ANd that is the devil of weight loss I think. It's that part of you that holds you back. And once you face that ugly face you can tell it to shut up and be able to live your life the way you were meant to live it.
I know everything has psychological ties in our lives, weight, family issues, personal issues, etc. And someitmes I wonder it it's just me when it somes to this "big girl menality" or is it?
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4 responses
@OwenData (37)
• China
10 Jun 08
From this problem, we can find that the pessimistic thoughts is hard to dispose. Especially, the mind is popular in society. In the evolutionary, people must study from the negative experience, because it's very helpful for people to survive.So as the times goes, you won't worry about it.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I have found this to be true....in fact the only reason I had thought about it was because of another discussion I was reading about weight loss.
Needless to say I have become very comfortable with the skin I am in and know I still have some more weight to lose, but if I don't I know I am still happy. I am healthy and comfortable and during my "fat yrs" I was ablet o concentrate on what matters most....my mind and personality. Yea!
Thanks for the response to you and everyone.
@nenagirl (38)
• Belize
9 Jun 08
no its not just you...to be honest though,i know i am a bit over weight for my height and age,but its not that bad.and even so i have this "big girl mentality"like you call it.but with me i guess its a psychological thing(well at least thats what my sister tells me).and come to think of it,maybe it is true.it all has to do because all my family on my dads' side are small,petite people and me and my sister arent.but with her its not that bad because she is tall,but me on the other hand am not.i am not exaggeratedly short either...but what makes me feel that is cause i always feel big around them and all the girls(my age) in my neighborhood are small girls-just as in my family.
and even though i work out(i got downloaded some videos from sparkpeople too.you should try it) and i know that i lost some weight, i dont feel like i lost any.whats worse i feel as if i've gained more! so yeah in a way i know what u mean.(i still work out though-caz i feel worse when i dont.haha)
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
8 Jun 08
It sounds like a problem for all people with eating disorders! Have you checked out sparkpeople.com for support? There are a ton of people helping each other lose weight, maintain weight, and keep it off! I found this website to be very helpful, as it has free information and programs to help you know the best foods to eat!
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
8 Jun 08
huh!Sounds hard to lose weight taface,but you know most of my co-workers they're surprised why I'm so lil when I eat like a pig!lol!That's what I ask also for myself.I don't know why Im still lil even I eat a ton of food everyday.I eat rice in the morning,lunch rice and dinner rice...lol!I eat a lot of meat and vegs and fruits!bUT sad to say I don;t like junk foods that much.You think that's the reason why I did not get fat?I don't exercise also .So anywya maybe you try eat more vegs and eat fruits and maybe you try eat more rice too...:-)
At work we have lose weight contest and I know how hard for them to lose weight.Well goodluck for losing your weight taface.Its not gonna be easy but if you work hard for it you gonna have the body that you want it!:-)
