Too close or too far?
By vermillion
@vermillion (887)
Philippines
June 9, 2008 7:10am CST
What would you prefer?
A relationship with someone you see almost everyday, wherein you have all the time to see and be with each other, and you can monitor what each partner is up to, but there is a tendency for redundancy or doing things over and over again which may lead to the "too-much-of-each-other syndrome" and there might be a sort of feeling of "control" of every action one makes and sometimes there is lack of "personal-space"...
or
a relationship with someone you see almost every month or year , which each partner have time for themselves, time to miss each other, not much control over a partner, but there is a tendency to be cheated upon or may be lack of time to be with one another...
--What do you prefer?--(^^,)
6 responses
@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
None of the above. I want to be with my boyfriend not most of the time. Just 2 a week is good enough. I experienced these both situation before and I never been happy though I tried to save the relationship. So much space can lead too misunderstanding and so much time will lead to over exposure.
Sometimes it depends on the situation, sometimes it depends to the people involve. It really depends on the perception of the two people that are in love with each other.
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Yes. exactly what i was looking for. it really depends on the persons involved on how they want to run their relationship. Thanks for your opinion!(^^,)
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
9 Jun 08
Definitely too close! My boyfriend and I are pretty independent people. So even when we are together, we're usually each doing our own thing... just in the same room! It works out very well. So yah, we can be around each other all the time and really not get sick of each other. We give each other a lot of personal space and we have separate interests, so spending too much time together really doesn't bother us. But I go crazy if I don't see him for long periods of time! I miss him so much!
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Wow. You have a very good relationship with your bf. Good luck to both of you! Thanks for responding!(^^,)
@ayrin03 (318)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
its up to them if they will allowed a person to control tehmselves..but relationship is a give and take thing..whatever the relationship they prefer its the trust that they have to build. Not that close or far.. Its the trust and how they love each other.
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Yes it is basically depending on how much trust is being founded on the relationship. Thanks for responding!(^^,)
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
9 Jun 08
Why would you want to monitor what your partner is doing. Anyway I like when there is distance because you get to understand each other better. There is a saying that say, Distance makes the heart goes fonder.
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
Distance indeed is a factor for the relationship to work. Thanks for responding!(^^,)
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
That is good because you were able to differentiate and know what it feels like to have a close relationship and a distant one, and you much prefer the close one. Thanks for sharing your experience!(^^,)
@zhoushuzhen (284)
• China
9 Jun 08
i don't know how to choice, sometimes i think the couple should be keep a short distance.keeping a private space for each other.to be with each other every day it's easy to get boring. but i felt my heart empty when my husband went to other place.
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
It is best if you experience it at first hand and so you will be able to differentiate what you prefer most. Thanks for responding!(^^,)
