Husband / Wife or Significant Other's Ex Comes to Visit......
By mehale
@mehale (2200)
United States
June 10, 2008 2:54pm CST
How do you deal with your husband, wife, or significant other's ex coming to visit? I am not at all sure how to deal with it. In fact, it makes me down right uncomfortable, and this angers and upsets him because he thinks I should not care or be bothered by it. We just lost his Mother - a week ago today, in fact - and she is in town to visit with his Daughter (not her daughter) and apparently my Husband as well. Now for a bit of background info - we have been married for 8 years now, but it does still bother me for her to call him or come to visit him. How would you deal with this situation? Would you feel uncomfortable?
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@stephm85 (7)
• United States
10 Jun 08
wow I dont think iw ould deal with it too well, but then again it all depends on a persons personality. There are many people as crazy at is that are not jealous. Maybe you should have one of your ex's come visit. I would not allow it thats just me i guess
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Why does she feel the need to visit with your husband and his daughter? You know that she knows it makes you uncomfortable. She is a woman.
And why is he defending her? I'd put a stop to it if it were my husband. If he wants to hang out with her then he should have stayed married to her. Now he needs to focus his attention on you and let her go. I'd tell him how I feel and lay down the law. But that's just me.
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@mehale (2200)
• United States
10 Jun 08
When I try to tell him, he seems to get really upset. He says that if he wanted to be with her, he would have stayed married to her and I need to be there while she is here. My stepdaughter is grown and married, and his ex is actually staying at their house right now. Boy, what a mess! LOL
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Maybe he gets upset because he knows you are right.
If he doesn't want to be married to her and does want to stay married to you then he should respect your feelings.
How would he feel if you decided to start visiting with an ex-boyfriend? Why don't you ask him?
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@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
10 Jun 08
Do not be dishearted. The ex coming back to town has nothing to make your heart leap ten places. Just be discreet. See if your husband will be entertaining her without you around. If this happen then let him know that you are not happy with it. Sometime exes tends to forget that the man/woman is married and want a one night stand. Well it is eight years ago and I know that you are his love now so don't worry. Accept her with a smile, she will get the message.
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