my boyfriend was arrested last night for domestic assualt

Canada
June 10, 2008 10:58pm CST
My boyfriend was drunk and strangled me, I have bruises all over my neck and its very sore. Our neighbors called the police and I ended up telling the police what happened. They took him away and told me he would be kept in jail until a judge decides what to do(probably today they said a judge would hear the case). In Canada what do you think the outcome of this will be? Anyone know? I am confused I dont know if he is still in jail, for how long etc. The police said the would give me a call to check on me in a few days but Im so confused now I want answers. What are the chances he going to be there when I get home? Im at an internet cafe right now he smashed my computer so now I have no internet:(
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Well You are very lucky that the neighbors called the police, he could have hurt you a lot worse. Physical abuse is a terriable thing, if he did this to you once he will do it again, I know because I lived with an abusive man for over 8 years, he always said he was sorry and would not do it again, but he always got worse.I do not live in Canada, so I do not know what the laws are like up there. I got a restraing order against my partner, so he could not come near me, when I finally did leave him, you should do the same thing.He may kill you the next time, you really need to get away from him. No mam should ever put his hans on a woman..God Bless.
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• Canada
11 Jun 08
Ya I was thinking that too that I am lucky they called the police. I dont think he would have let me, he has done this before and when I said I was calling the police he broke all the phones! Thankyou for the comments its a good reminder for me right now, I appreciate it.
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@smallT (376)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Please let us know how you are doing.
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• United States
11 Jun 08
I'm happy that you're ok, and upset that all of this happened to you. Thankfully the police were called by your neighbors. I have no idea what the outcome would be in Canada. I hope you stay safe.
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@tintinn (277)
11 Jun 08
That was terrible. I could not believe that someone could be that violent...like smashed a computer. You were so lucky that your neighbours have called the police for you....otherwise....who knows what might have happened to you. Hopefully, you do not forgive him when he craw back to beg you to forgive him. Good luck and take good care of yourself.
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@ersmommy1 (12595)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I don't know a thing about Canadian law. But thank goodness for decent neighbors. I'd call the police for an update.Then ask for someone to meet you at your place. Pack up what you need and disappear. It is the safest thing for you to do.
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• United States
11 Jun 08
Take a step back and realize something. This is physical abuse at its worst. You are lucky that your neighbors called the police and he was taken away. I would take someone with me to go home, get my things and stay with a friend for a few days until you find out what is happening with him. Do not take any chances, protect yourself at all costs. I wish I could help with the law in Canada, but I do not live there and am unfamiliar with their laws. However, you should be able to call before going home to find out if his case was heard, if he was released or is in jail. Please please take the steps to protect yourself. Do not go back to that situation!
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Absolutely do not return alone. Be sure someone is with you. Pack you things and go to a shelter or a friends or someplace. If you absolutely have to stay there, have the locks changed immediately. He will return and the next time you may not survive.
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
11 Jun 08
i think u should check to see if he is still in jail. its a big mistake to sit and wonder about things. u need to get up, go check it out. also u should have a second place to call home instead of staying there where u are. u are putting yourself in danger of getting killed. u should seek a shelter for battered women, for help in getting out of the situation. i am sure they have resources that will help you. i am not sure how the laws are regard domestic assault in canada.
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11 Jun 08
Sorry to hear that , has not, please get yourself to safety!
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@nupats (3564)
• India
11 Jun 08
tht is really sad...why didnt u hit him back u shud have picked something and hit him in ur self defense...good he is where he deserves to be..i m sure they will not let hi out so easily ..u must register a full fledged case against him and can also file at the police station tht u feel threatened by him..and maybe u can lodge a case for compensation for the things he has broken...or just pick his computer and let him have the broken one..this guy is really bad..did he ever manhandle u before this?..take care dear..dont let him get away get him punished
@nupats (3564)
• India
11 Jun 08
dont tell me after all this u still love him..i would not even think of a guy who treats me like this..it may b difficult for u but must get out of this soon enough before u have more damages and assaults..good luck dear
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@smallT (376)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I understand completely. Half the time you are scared of him and the other half you are in love with him. It is a crazy situation living with an abusive mate. I hope you never go back to him, but if you do, make an escape plan. He is not going to change. He will hit you again if you stay with him. He can't help it. You have to change. Get counseling, read books on domestic violence. He may also be verbally abusive, so you must get mentally stronger. Otherwise, he will make you believe that he is the only man who will ever love you and that is not true. Travel safely young sister.
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@smallT (376)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Sorry, I commented in the wrong place. I got too emotional.
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@sid556 (30986)
• United States
12 Jun 08
i'm in t he states so your laws are probably different. here the first thing y ou should do in that situation would be to seek a restraining order. did your boyfriend live with you? does he have a history of violence?
@bonbon664 (3469)
• Canada
12 Jun 08
I would call the women's assault helpline. Here are the numbers if you're in Ontario. If not, I'm sure they'll be able to give you the information you need. You need help and support from women who have been through the same thing. I wish you all the luck in the world. GTA (416) 863-0511 TOLL FREE (Ontario) 1-866-863-0511 #SAFE #7233 on your mobile phone Here's a website too, that has phone numbers and info about what to expect now. http://www.owjn.org/resource/shelter.htm
• United States
12 Jun 08
I am not sure of the laws in Canada. I do know that I have been in your situation and know how hard it is to get away from the situation,but no matter how much you love him,you need to leave. It will not get better,only worse. No matter how sorry they tell you they are afterwards, it will continue. Take what you have and leave, please don't live in this situation anymore. Who knows how far he will take it next time. Please be careful.
@Hatley (164092)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Jun 08
hasnotbeen taken do yourself a huge faovr and get to a battered womens shelter at once, the next time you might not be that lucky and I would hate to think you had been killed by your boyfriend.anyone who would strangle his girlfriend is just short of'killing her and needs to have some serious jail time, and you need to be away from him.Why do you even care what they do to him, get away now while you can or the next time it will be too damned late. please for all of usmylotters, get help at once.
@alienstar (5143)
• India
11 Jun 08
People who doesn't go wl when tehy get drunk should not go for that as it will really craete so many problems in their life and inthe otehr hand if they don't behave badly as it is in some people, then getting drunk will not be of that much trouble anyways
@jczvrse (169)
• United States
11 Jun 08
In Canada I dont know but here in Nevada where I live Domestic is treated very seriously, there is a mandatory 12 hour hold on offenders they cant be released before hand the bail is usually set at $3000.00 and a restraining order issued keeping the offender away from the victim. Also it depends on the violence as in your case you have marks he would have been charged here with domestic assalt which is a felony in nevada and does carry a jail term.
@miryam (6507)
• Italy
11 Jun 08
i'm sorry but are a big problrm.......think yiurself, be happy......lose he..are a better.sorry myryam
• Sweden
11 Jun 08
Sorry to hear that
• China
11 Jun 08
i'm sorry for you, do you think your boyfriend care for you? he must do this again and again and get used to do.you should think about yourself a lot.
• India
11 Jun 08
Im so sorry about what happend, ppl like that need to be taught a lesson and thats a very good start. Well, im not from canada, im sorry i cant help, but just wondering...what r u confused about? r u confused and worried about his safety or you r in threat of whathe will do when he comes bk? Please if ur caring for him, stop doing that and care for urself, plaese u deserve more than just that. And if thats not the case, and ur just frightned about the later consequences, resort to th epolice for safty again, stay at a frendz place or momz place 4 a while. Above all be brave...