What should I do???

propose - a person proposing to her love
India
June 10, 2008 11:47pm CST
last week I proposed to a girl who is my school-mate.... she did take time to respond and finally she broke her silence and said that she considered me only as a friend... she said there should be nothing beyond friendship.... initially I was a bit dissapointed..but then I thought instead of she gettin angery she atleast offered me to be her friend..... well we were not that close...but still. we used to be classmates... now tell me what should i do??? i really love her...
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@ryozen (92)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
be the best friend you can be to her. support her in every her not only because you're in love with her but because you're a true friend. never let your feelings for her be the first reason why you'll always be there for her. show her how much you love her in subtle ways but make it something that will really touch her heart. in this way, she will feel that you really love her even if she doesn't love you back. who knows that she might have a change of heart and eventually love you the same as you do for her. just be patient. love not because you want to be loved in return. love is love, there's no need for a reason. and show to her how much you love her. if all else fails, then accept her decision and move on. easier said than done but it's the only thing you can do. no matter what happens you must keep moving forward because she doesn't hold your life but you. there might be another girl waiting for you to hold your heart so dearly.
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• India
11 Jun 08
thanx for your advice....this will be of great help
@msfreeze (89)
• United States
11 Jun 08
the best relationships start off as friendships just be there for her and maybe she will realize what she has been looking for has been under her nose all along
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• India
11 Jun 08
thanx my friend for you advice!!i will be there for her...but will she like......i will be there.
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@snel27 (48)
• United States
12 Jun 08
You should never propose to someone if your not dating them. The first step is to have a romantic relationship. Try asking her out to dinner or to a movie. The more you hang out the more she'll get to know you and possibly fall for you. But if nothing changes after spending time with her than you should accept her friendship.
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• Philippines
11 Jun 08
you can't do anything else other than being a good friend to her, since she just treats you as one. Just face it, you can't force her to love you back. But if you really love her, simply being there for her is a big thing. As I've said, a good friend. Maybe now she won't notice your perseverance, but someday, she'll appreciate what you are doing and eventually gets close to you.
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• India
11 Jun 08
Let ur love decide future of ur love.Its really gud that she even accepted u as a gud friend.Be with her enjoy the company . I hope u may get her in future.
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@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Hello Antony, I think you should move on(at least for now). If she offered her frindship, at least she's not pushing you completely away. It sounds like right now she's not interested in that type of a relationship. That doesnt mean it wont change in the future. Hugs, Tianna
• India
11 Jun 08
well i'm not sure of that but yes i can expect a chang....she is by the way a very gud friend of mine now
• Malaysia
11 Jun 08
i agree with Tianna2.. i think i've faced a similar situation before.. in my case, after she rejected me, we continue to be friends.. and after about a year she replied my love.. time will tell.. good luck Anthony..
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
17 Jun 08
Hi there. You are still young so there's no real hurry to settle down. Give her and the friendship some time. Be a good friend to her now. Always be there when she needs you. Over time, she might accept you. Actions speak louder than words. Show her the tender loving care and she might be touched one day.
@maquisa (316)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
the best love comes from a friend...and the most important thing is you should not give up on her...maybe she just don't apreciate you now but maybe time will tell...you should focus first in studying and you can't tell you may bump on her in the street in future,sometimes the feelings accidentally blooms
• United States
17 Jun 08
Just be her friend. Perhaps if you be her friend at first she may grow to love you. Many people usually want to get to know a person before marring them. It is all about patience. Do nice things for her but not to get her to fall in love with you but to just show how much you appreciate her. Even if she doesn't love you by then just be glad you have her friendship.
• India
17 Jun 08
Hi antony2best, You have not done anything wrong you have expressed your feeling about her proudly so you will get her but if she also likes you and she is not engaged with someone esle. If she is not comitted then there is a hope that she may come back to you. but for that you will have to realise her that you are the one who is very responsible to take care of her.Once she realise that she will love you too. But till that time you will have to wait and watch and try to be her best friend help her in any situation.Make her feel that you can do everything for her just to make her happy. Good Luck my friend let me know in future when she accepts your proposal!!
@momz2gd (295)
• United States
17 Jun 08
tell her what you think or find someone else
@Abby123 (261)
17 Jun 08
Just hang on ere a mo Anthony ,and maybe wait till ure a bit older till you get married,theres plenty of time ahead of you.
• India
16 Jun 08
ya she atleast told that she can be a friend with u...be happy for that because with my expernce i also were a good friend to him and we could share anything..so sfter friendship only he thought of proposing me and v are now lovers..so best of luck to u yaar...be a good friend of hers and vl see wht happens..like wise u can be little more closer to her and if u like her that much and u think thta she also likes not now after becoming little more closer..i think u understood buddy u can propose her again..there is no fault in that..
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
hello! as a girl this my point of view. respect her decision. maybe she's just confuse. or if ever she doesn't really like you, just take the moment of being her friend. show her how you really care. but of course make sure to give her space at times. in time if she still doesn't accept your proposal, then maybe you have to move on.. that's the reality about love. at times we get hurt and at times we're blessed and we are happy...
@ayrin03 (318)
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
hi anthony2best! sounds your really in love with the girl.. Maybe you have to respect what he decided because she thought about it for many times. She balanced it if she likes you more than a friend or not. You can't force someone who can love you in return. You've done your part and she decided what will be and that's it.
@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
the first thing you have to do is to show to her that you are qualify for her, be samart to your studies, stay close to her and dont ingore her when she needed you at school or other things but you have to show her that you have ambition in life.
• Pakistan
12 Jun 08
I understand your situation. this is also happed with me. May be she is thinking that you are just joking. Keep it up until she did not realize that you really love her.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
12 Jun 08
I would move on if I were you. There are lots of women out there. Just be the best man you can be. Women will appreciate that.
@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Jun 08
ohhh..thats was sad but neverthless its good that she's frank about her feelings.. one thing though is she your gf? if yes then you really dont want to get married to a girl who had no feelings for you?and in the end a divorce?
• United States
12 Jun 08
Just be her friend for now. Don't change the way you act around her(if you can help it). MOST IMPORTANTLY don't just focus on her, I bet you have a lot to offer and there might be someone else out there for you.