Should I leave my son and go to work????
By keep_onwatch
@keep_onwatch (2680)
India
June 11, 2008 4:25am CST
My situation demands me to,but not my heart. Well, i have been a stay at home mom, and now my son is 3yrs, and for a better financial stability, i have to work. But i just dont feel like to leave my son at a day care, or with a baby sitter or else where. I just cant imagine not to spend time with him, not to feed him, play with him, just not to be with him. I have visited many day care centers and im scared to join him in any...the care takers dont care if the kids had food or if they r out in the sun or if they fall down. I think the better option option would be to have a night shift job, where my husband can take care at night, and in the day, i could appoint a baby sitter at home and i can constantly monitor. But my husband is against it...a complete NO-NO- for a night job. I dont know what to do..i will miss him terribly....and also im scared of how others might take care of him....have any suggestions please..
3 responses
@ultipost (63)
• Grenada
11 Jun 08
Your husband may be right about the night job; it would kill your matrimonial life. And transport and day care centers eat up part of your earnings.
You may consider on-line earning. Mylot is an example but there are more. There are sites that pay money for writing reviews. You can also make money by referrals.
My hotel (www/paradisebayresort.net) pays 5% commissions for all referral based bookings. And those who come here with the mission to write (extensive) reviews or articles only pay for meals and services, not for the room.
So there are some options out there. Let me know if you want more details.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
11 Jun 08
I didnt exactly get what ur saying, online money is very difficult to find and earn, mylot is just too little money with so much of time intake...and all others have failed me...and im very bad a t referals. If u have something else and a genuine offer to earn online please do send me the details..thanx....
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
11 Jun 08
Wow r u sure its available for every1? im not from ur country, can i still count in? can i make it? if yes that would be absolutely great help if you did find one...thanx a lot
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Is there anyway you could have waited another year until he started pre-k?
As a mom who raised two children and when back to work when they were four, and then worked steady during and after the birth of my third.
I think if it's at all possible, even if it's hard. If you could stay home another year it would make all the difference in the world.
Maybe you could baby-sit a little for someone else to help supplement your husband's check and still be home.
I can imagine how torn you are.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
11 Jun 08
Yeah i get the baby sitting idea..thanx a lot, i guess i have to wait another year, till hez at least 4 and yeah its just so hard to go n work after spending time with him so much....
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
12 Jun 08
Fair enough, and yeah thats the best thing we could do thanx 4 the advice...even i want to, but the very thought of leaving my son and going out scares me...so i guess im happy being with him...thanx...
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I do not in anyway begrudge any woman who has to work.
It's hard if not impossible trying to make it off one check these days.
But if a woman can, she needs to stay home and be there for these people she carried and brought into the world. It doesn't matter how bored we get, how much money we don't have to spend on the things we want. Our formost job is to see too, and the taking care of these little human beings.
It's hard enough when we are home all day. But to work eight to ten hour day and then come home and do everything that we need a whole day to do it in, on top of that give our kids all the attention they need is impossible.
My oldest son was 15 when he told me he just didn't like coming home from school and me not being there. I had no idea it affected him at all.
I hope you can find something that will allow you to be there with your little boy. And don't you dare let anyone make you feel guilty for wanting to be a stay at home mom.
Our job is sorting socks, getting streaks out of drawers, cleaning the toothpaste off the mirror and sopping up pee from around the tolite. It isn't very rewarding, but it's what we chose when we popped those babies out.
@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Is there any possiblitly of starting your own daycare center for children? Then you could make money watching other's children while still watching your own.
@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
11 Jun 08
There you go! Work at home, own your own business. Good luck.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
11 Jun 08
Thats a pretty good idea..thanx, i guess ill start it small litle first with baby sitting and then mayb gradually make it big...hopefully.
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