Do you ever regret making someone your friend?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
June 11, 2008 3:23pm CST
Once I met a woman online who seemed like the perfect friend. She was a mom, just like me and
loved to talk about her child. We had so much in common, or at least it seemed that way. She was
hiding many secrets as I found out later. Fortunately, she broke off our friendship, but not before saying some very nasty things about me.
I couldn't understand why she was so angry at me. But, I guess people have their own reasons. The friendship break-up hurt for a long time. This happened two or three years back, so I'm over it now. Sometimes I wonder what she is doing. That's not the only time I've made some bad judgements about people claiming to be my friends.
I'm not giving up on friendship, yet. Friendship makes the world a nicer place to live. So, I'm not done with it!
Have you ever met someone online that seemed to be the perfect friend and then the friendship turned bad overnight? What did you do? Did you stop emailing them or chatting with them online? Why did the friendship end?
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14 responses
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Jun 08
I had somebody on Yuwie delete and block me after I supposedly 'disrespected' her. The thing is that it was a misunderstanding and she never gave me the chance to clear it up. Also she knew she was going to delete me but she kept on acting like my friend for a week before she did it. I call that dishonest and two faced. She blocked me because once before she had deleted somebody and they came over to her profile and rated her down over and over again. I'd say the person has trust issues. Anyway I was hurt but after some of the nasty, insulting things she wrote in her blog, I just decided that I didn't want to be friends with a person who treats people that way.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Good for you! Noone deserves to be treated like she treated you. I hope she knows what a good friend she lost!
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@Xdrowninghavocx (3117)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I've had a lot of regrets concerning partial friendships. And they've only happened in real life. I've yet to encounter someone online who was being evil or aggressive. One of the lucky ones, I guess. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Too bad the internet can't control the mean individuals and place them on a page where they can talk with each other, lol. Causing someone grief in real life is tough. Doing it online is childish. All of the possibilities and fun to be had waiting for them online and they choose to start trouble.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Thank you for saying so. You're so right about that. Some people feel super invincible when cloaked by the anonymity of the Internet.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
11 Jun 08
I have met quite a few friends online. I also met my old best friend at one time in myspace. At first everything went well. We talked through emails for awhile. I emailed her a couple of weeks ago she replied I replied back but she hasn't said anything else or replied back to me. I haven't seen her in over 12 years. She is the one that found me on myspace. I sort of got tired of her always wanting me to take her places with out paying me gas money the last time I saw her. Anyhow I am getting to old to play childish games like this. It bothers me some but I have other friends besides her.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Yeah, I've had friends like that too. They only call when they need something.
@mummymo (23706)
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13 Jun 08
I have never experienced this online beauty thankfully although I have in real life and that hurt me a LOT for a long time but like you I refuse to give up on friendship! I have too many good friends online and in the real world to think that all people are like that false friend who only wanted what she could get out of me! xxx
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
12 Jun 08
I met a woman on IRC that i regreted making friends with. It was a case of her being someone who would mold her personality online to the likes of the person she was talking to...then when she tired of that person she would reveal her true personality. She ended up dating a friend of mine and by that point she was VERY nasty and I wasnt allowed to talk to him, email him or anything. Three years later I found out she got him arrested and thrown out of his apartment and is no longer with him.
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@jojuana (311)
• Jamaica
11 Jun 08
Once met this guy on the net and we got along very well until one day out of the blues he told me that he didn't want to have anything to do with me. I was confused and i tried to reconcile but he did not respond but i did not give up, for six months i kept sending emails until he finally asked what i wanted from him and told him i was sorry despite the fact that i did not know why he was upset.we became friends again and i gave him some time to gain enough confidence to tell me what the problem was. Today we are still friends, and we do have our little ups and downs but we still remain focus on the gift called friendship.
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@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
12 Jun 08
i hardly make friends from online... if i did, i usually only treat them as ordinary friends and not someone specials... it is hard for me to be friends with someone who i never met before or does not know really well.. so until now, i haven't manage to make a really close online friend yet... take care and have a nice day...
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
12 Jun 08
This is an interesting discussion. I am starting to realize that I don't really form good friendships online. Only recently have I begun to realize that it is because I am a very interactive person. I need the little nuances of face-to-face contact before I really feel like I have begun to get to know someone. Body language and tonal inflections of a voice mean a lot to me. Eye contact is another thing with me. When I don't have these things I think it feels like I am communicating with a character in a novel as opposed to a real person.
So, no I have never had a friendship online go bad, because I think I don't let people into too far.
@goldeneagle (6743)
• United States
12 Jun 08
yes I have actually. his name is Nick Abbatte. He lives in Pensacola. He is a deadbeat that likes to live in a place rent-free until right before he is about to get evicted, then he moves out and on to another poor sucker who lets him rent an apartment or something. He is also no good at paying his other bills. His truck payment is almost always behind, until his daddy bails him out of financial trouble. He also owes me almost $1,100 that I helped him out with before I knew all this about him. I regret the day I met him.
@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 08
Yes, I met a girl and be her friend, but this girl made me feel regret to be her friend.
I knew this girl when I was studying in university, she is active in badminton, she is an intelligent girl, but she is also a selfish girl.
I help her a lot during study time, but now me and other friends had quarrrel with her during grouping in a subject. She judged that we are the guilty persons. She is the person always change mind, she wan to take that subject, then suddenly said don't want, then take again. the grouping run out of time, so we grouped by ourselves, at last she told everyone that we left her out. She is too bad. I'm so angry with her, so as other friends.
Until now, even meet her, but she just pretend don't know me, so boring. Even say hi to her, she also don't reply.
I still remember I helped her a lot when studying in university. I really feel bad and regret to have a friend like her.
But luckily I still have a lot of great friend in my life.
@ynigz1 (472)
• China
12 Jun 08
No, I will not be regret for making friend with anyone. Maybe someone is not good for you, and may cheat you. But I think no matter the experience with he/she is happy or sad, it will add to your life experience. If the person is not so good, then you can avoid to make this kind of friend in the future.
@nupats (3564)
• India
12 Jun 08
hi there i experienced this abt three weeks back at mylot but u know we shud not let such things trouble us..u shud b clear in ur intentions and motives if the other person misunderstands it is there problem...she deleted me frm her friends list not tht it bothered me and i am atleast grateful tht she deleted so i dont have to feel guilty abt having deleted her frm my friend list..as it is we were no grt friends as there was no contact between us..i value my friends but if they care a damn abt my feelings and if our thinking does not match then no point continuing...dont worry this is a part of life ..we learn and move on...take care..have a nice day..
@Timothy31 (649)
• United States
12 Jun 08
There have been a few that i met that turned out to bed really bad in the end. For the most part though i have had good experiences with making friends online.
