Comfortable or Happy???

Your right! Thanks so much for the response.

Well said and thanks so much for the very true response.

Gurl that is a new discussion all of its own. Long story short, I no longer have that job. But I will start that discussion as soon as I get through the backlog of stuff I got from you guys.

Hey girl! How's the new job going??? Nice to see you it has been awhile. :) I feel that same way you do, it's all about being happy even though being comfortable is easier financially. It just was making me miserable. I had to get out and I'm glad I did. Thanks so much for the response.

So have you married Mr. Wonderful yet? Damn girl I miss you!! :) I hope you are doing well. Happiness is important and I'm thankful that you have it. Now when are you getting your knot tied?

29 days and counting! Check out my myspace and see what he got me for my birthday. lol God I love him!

Hi, babygirl, wonderful to see you! I love that you're happy. That's what's important. And having a bit of money to go along with it ain't half bad either. You deserve the best. It seems you've got it. Yay! Mama loves you.

I hope the same for you. It sounds like you have a great peaceful life. Do you live somewhere out of the way?? I need to find somewhere out of the way, I think. Quiet small town maybe. But not for awhile, I have way too much to do here yet. Your right too- happy- hands down and not down someone's pants either! LOL I'm really bad today! Have a great one!

Cherubs, Kokopelli, and Pink flamingo's...all things I love. Your house sounds perfect and something that I would love. Seriously, we have so much in common that it's scary. Your home sounds like somewhere I would just love to vacation at. It just sounds really great. :)

We DO have a great and peaceful life, Skinny, but we're right in the heart of St. Louis City. We live in a very old neighborhood, on a private tree-lined street, only a block long, and every house on it is a mansion. We live in a carriage house behind one of the mansions. What a carriage house is is this: In the horse and buggy days, when these homes were built, they used to store the carriages in it, with offices upstairs for the workers. Now, it's a garage for the cars, a three car garage, and our apartment is above it. We have a sun porch, one bedroom, kitchen, computer room, and I have a dressing room! My favorite room in the house, my dressing room, I just love it. It's also the largest room in the place, lol, lucky me! It's where I make up, dress, etc, and I have a biggggg chair, my cable tv, with all my premium channels, and me and the cats hang out in there together. Hubby doesn't spend much time in there, which is how I like it. It's MY room! So there! Next to the 'garage' is my little yard, separate from the "big yard", with my rosebushes and the rest of my garden, and I have pink flamingoes, a musketeer-type metal soldier, a kokopelli, an indian with a big, spread-out headdress, a turtle, a bunny, a cherub, another cherub, and my outdoor slate-rock speakers too, all at the back of the yard, within the ivy, and it's just so charming and sweet, I just love it. If I had a house, it would definitely be of the gingerbread type, with a picket fence, yes, a picket fence. I love them. As it is, I have a little wrought-iron-looking fence around my rosebushes. The street is very, very quiet, with a gate-house at the start of it, which has been turned into a police sub-station, so we have a lot of police presence here, and that's a pretty good thing. I feel completely safe here, which is the most amazing thing to feel. Hubby grills outside on the stair-landing all the time, and we're never bothered by anyone or anything. It's truly idyllic. It's my own brand of heaven and I'll have to be pried out of here with a crowbar, trust me, if we ever have to leave. I love talking about where I live, I guess it's because I'm so happy here. Thanks for the opportunity. Love ya, baby. XXXX

Sounds amazing. It's nice that you knew yourself well enough to know exactly what you wanted. Thanks so much for the response. Congrats on the novel as well.

We weren't married and he wasn't abusive at all. We fell out of love and basically were just going through the motions. I don't mind not having the house and the comfortable life. I like to work, I like to be with my kids, and I like the fact that I go to school to better myself. I was being held back in many aspects and that was something I wasn't happy about. I was also very bored. I wasn't getting out to take breaks and do adult things. We never spent any time together. I had to get out to make myself happy and that is what I did. I didn't necessarily mean being poorer means being happier. I was losing who I was in that situation and becoming something I wasn't. Now that I'm back to being me, I'm very happy. I had to use the money thing because people were telling me before I left, what the he11 is wrong with you, you have everything. But you see, I didn't have genuine self. That was much more important than my credit cards or the man. Thanks for the response.

I agree with you totally. Well said and thanks for the response.

Thanks so much for the wishes. :) I really appreciate that.

I know that feeling and I wouldn't have it any other way either. Thanks for the response.

That would be nice in my case too. Thanks for the response.

I'm so sorry for your loss my dear. But at least you are still happy. That is what matters. I know that took a tremendous amount of strength to walk away from and I applaud you for going with your heart. You seem like a wonderful person. Thanks for the response.

Grad school, eh? That's awesome! Good luck with everything. It's nice to know that others have been in my position. I was second guessing myself in some ways when I set out on this journey. Mylot and this discussion is my own positive re-enforcement. Thanks so much for being a part of it.

Sounds very similar in some ways to my situation. I wish I could tell you what would help you keep your sanity in that situation. I couldn't in mine which is why I left. Maybe you could try to bury your mind in your school work until this hard part passes and you graduate?? Just a thought...Thanks so much for the response.

I agree! Thanks for the response.

It's like a huge load lifted off your shoulders. Funny how life works sometimes. Thanks for the response.

LOL...I'm with you Tee- the "American Dream" is very boring. At least for me. Your situation really sounds scary. I'm so glad you got out of it. I know for a fact you have the best life for you right now!! :) I like being a DOER too. It gives us character and personality. We aren't just waiting to die, we make the most of it while we can. That can and does bring tremendous happiness. We should both burn our shackles together! :) XOXOXOXOXXO Thanks so much for coming by!

Well said. It's only bad that it took me 35 years to realize it. LOL Thanks for the response.

It does sound great from the outside looking in. Frankly, I thought it would be. I have been a worker bee my entire life and thought I could put it behind me. That is until it actually happened. Then it was nothing that I thought it would be. On the other hand, I'm very lucky as far as babysitters go. I have a lot of family who are there for me and the kids as well as their dad so I don't have to pay day care. I don't think I could make it if I did have to pay it. My whole change has also made my time with my kids much more fun. It's actual quality time instead of just floating through. If that makes any sense. I miss them when I'm gone at work but in the end, we are all happier. Thanks for the response.