A sneaky mother-in-law..

@cream97 (29163)
United States
June 12, 2008 8:15am CST
What do you make of this? Whenever my mother-in-law will do anything mean to me, she always does it, when no one is around. Either they will be out of ear shot or gone. My husband has never seen her do anything mean to me. Because he is not around at all. And so are others. Don't you think that if she really wanted to be nasty to me, shouldn't she do it when she is around other people? Why is she doing mean things when no on is around? It is like a coincidence that she always does things when no one is around. It is like she is doing it on purpose.
6 responses
• United States
13 Jun 08
I have read a bunch of your post about your husbands family treating you badly and in your opinion trying to wreck your marriage and I have a question for you...Why do you still go around them? Why don't you just stay away from people you feel are trying to sabotage your marriage and your happiness?
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Well, actually I don't. From now till this day, when his parents will come around, I will go into another room in my house. I won't even open the door for them when they come over. I will let my husband do this. I have caught on to their game. I know that they notice me not coming around anymore.. I want them to give them the silent treatment, that way they can start to feel me not wanting them around anymore.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
13 Jun 08
But see the thing about this is, I never know if they are saying anything about me. My husband is a stubborn man. I would not be so surprised if they are scared to mention anything about me to his face.. His actions toward this, is that they don't be saying anything about me to him. My sil is the one that will come to me to talk trash about her brother. To this day, I have no clue if his family are saying mean things about me to him. My husband is the type of man whom does not let anything bother him.. He has major confidence. I would like to know if they have ever said anything negative about me to my husband. If they did, I would never know, because my husband will never tell me.
• United States
13 Jun 08
If you can't let it go you are going to have to learn to deal with the fall out. Sorry I couldn't help.
@sweetdesign (5151)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Sounds like you have some serious issues with your inlaws. She does it cause she can get away with it. You have no proof or witnesses to back you up so it is like she has never done it at all. She wins you lose. It is a bad situaion.
• United States
13 Jun 08
Oh meant to say also that your inlaws are out of control. It seems like they do not want you in the family and are trying to pull your husband and you apart.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Yes, their evil intentions are overbearing..
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Because she wants to get under your skin and bring out the worst in you. it is great that you caught on to her act and just ignore it. because if you nag and whine and complain she will win. Your husband will think you are being a baby since you mother in law as not done it and he would say "that is odd, my mom never does things like that" that would only cause a fight between the two fo you. I wish you luck and it is difficult with in laws. remembr you husband loves you so hang in there. Your mother in law will stop will she realized nothing she does will bother you.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Yes, it is very difficult with in laws. I could not imagine myself being the way that she has been to me..
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
13 Jun 08
you know what they say. when you marry the person, you marry their family too.! I hope you find peace this weekend to talk to your husband how you feel.
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Hello cream, I am sure that is not coincidence. She really do that intentionally so that maybe people will never had an idea that she is really mean to you, especially your husband. So that maybe when you will tell others, no one would believe you since what they saw and witnessed is her good attitude for you. I'm sorry to hear about that, have you confronted her why is she acting like that?
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Yes, to many times. And she says that she loves me, and wouldn't do anything to hurt me. Those are her words..
• United States
12 Jun 08
You know her better than we do, I have a feeling that she just want to ruin your relationship, just avoid her I guess!
@shooie (4985)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Because if she did it when others were around people would think less of her. If it is you and her it would be your word against hers. I wish I could help ya figure away out but me and my mother in-law get along great. If she wants to argue walk away. If it is on the phone hang up.
@cream97 (29163)
• United States
13 Jun 08
As far as the phone, she does not have my home telephone number, nor my cell number.. She abused this priviledge a year ago, by calling back to back. If she was to have my number, I would hardly ever answer my phone when she calls.
• United States
16 Jun 08
Of course she is, just tell her that's she's funny, she'll get sick of not being taken seriously. Play the game to win!