Does your boyfriend or husband bring you gifts? Do you think that's romantic?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
June 12, 2008 2:55pm CST
Before the baby came along, my honey would bring me gifts and flowers daily. Sometimes he would show up with a handful of gladiolas, (my favorites). And, he would buy little stuffed teddy bears because I collect them. I still have all the cards and trinkets that he has bought for me over the years.
Since the baby came along, he doesn't buy anything for me anymore. Well, he did buy an antique looking watch for me two years ago and a brand new computer as a belated birthday gift this year. I'm more into my computers now, than jewelry, so it's OK if he doesn't show up with the little things anymore.
For me, I'd give up a whole years worth of flowers and trinkets just to have one really good computer or a roomful of toys for my little girl. Those are my two priorities right now. Needless to say, all our extra money is now going into toys and food for her. That's where it should be!
What about you? Do you like it when your signifigant other brings you jewelry or flowers? Would you rather save the money and spend it on more important things? Do you feel cheated if he doesn't give you gifts or flowers? Did all the romantic gifts and flowers stop after the children were born?
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Jun 08
It is funny how all the romantic little gifts do go out of the window when marriage and children come along. Finances become intertwined or lower with only one income coming in if one partner stays at home with the children.
I used to be one for seeing something in a shop and if I knew someone I thought would like it I would buy it and the joy of doing that is a great feeling. But now, every penny has to be counted and double counted. Everything has to have a budget and everything that may be spare after all that has to be saved for "emergencies, holidays, etc etc".
The fun and impulse seems to go out of doing things like that.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Yes, we've been counting every penny and dime since she was born! I could tell you some stories. Even when money is good, we have to be smart and save it. Cause there will always be a tomorrow when money is tight again.
@kezabelle (2974)
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12 Jun 08
Before we had the children yes he would but then we had them and there were obviously more important things to spend our money on. Our children come first for both of us and im happy to never have a present from him again he gave me two beautiful precious presents my little girls I could live a lifetime without gifts as long as I have him and them
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
13 Jun 08
That is too sweet! I just got a sugar rush from that one. I'm not kidding. I did the "awwww" thing and my cheeks locked up, it was so cute, I giggled. I've never heard it described better!
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
12 Jun 08
My huband and I surprise eachother with little tings that mean something to us, all the time. It's not just one of us that does the giving and the other one does the receiving, it's both of us, for eachother.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
13 Jun 08
That's special! We still give each other the gift of our time and conversation, sometimes that is all we can afford. But, it's very meaningful.
@kristineclaireiida (211)
• Philippines
13 Jun 08
My husband dont usually bring me gifts or flowers and i hate him for it. i dont know! for me, its very romantic to give your loved ones gifts or flowers. Gifts dont need to be expensive! a small card or a small chocolate will do.. its one way of making a person special so im very much looking forward to receiving gifts which unfortunately doesnt come around..
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Don't get me wrong. Something small would be nice. But
I've learned to live without. And that's sad!
I should tell mine about the ninety nine cent cards
at the Walmart. He will love those.
Both me and him are kind of frugal. Sometimes it's
hard to know where to draw the line at being cheap!
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
2 Jul 08
My husband really has nver ever brought me gifts unless if was my birthday or christmas.. I haven't gotten anything from him since valentines day and all i got was flowers thats it.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
3 Jul 08
Mine used to bring me gifts and all,but not
so much now. Guess it doesn't bother me too much.
He's here more, so we are sharing time that we didn't have
before.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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13 Jun 08
Every now and again my lovely guy surprises me with a little gift. Last time it was a miniature bottle of Jack Daniels - lol. Money is tight these days so little gifts are especially special to me now.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
3 Jul 08
Hello dear beauty queen. Well, it seems to be very common for a man to buy lots of some nice gifts to their loved before marriage, which can be seen as a way to show his sincere love to his girl friend except his true love to her mentally. Something material is also needed to add to more of the love between them. But after marriage, it is a different thing because what is focused on is the family construction, which is put in the first place. Of course, small gifts are always welcome as substitute to make life more colorful. Thanks and be well.
