Anyone else going through a lot right now?

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Ok, so this is personal about me. What I want to know is if anyone is going through something similar, if so what, and how do you deal? First thing, I am about to be 21. On Tuesday June 17th I will turn 21, which I am very excited about of course, except for the fact that it's a reminder that I'm an adult now, which isn't no fun. I am also going to be starting college on July 7th which is going to be hard and stressful. I'm going to Devry University, which everyone should know is an awesome school. I am also engaged to a great guy that I love very much. I also have a seven year old step son who is a handful. My fiance goes to school at Devry as well, which is great. Well, he's been out of work for a while now, so have I. He just started a new job this week. We are not living together which is very hard. He is living with his grandmother while I am staying with my father just till we get on our feet. He now has full custody of his son which just happened very quickly because the kids mom is an idiot. We literally going from barely getting by just taking care of ourselves and paying child support, bills, etc... To being full time parents not making in it one day. literally. So we are about to get into a new apartment, me him and his son. He's going into his second semester of college, I'm going into my first. We are both young and very poor. I'm scared. Not just about finances but about having a kid full time. I love kids, I have a niece and nephew and a godson who I love very much and take care of on a regular basis. I am my sister's number one back up plan if anything goes wrong so I get called out there a lot to watch the kids. Anyways, my niece and nephew are kids that I have helped raise since the day they were born and they behave for me. My step son is a completely different story. He misbehaves all the time because his mother didn't teach him any better. He talks back, he is disrespectful to the point that he has embarressed me in public. He has been in trouble at school multiple times through the last school year. He put his hands on at least two different kids in school. Headbutting on and punching the other. He has almost been suspended from the first grade, he was one write up away from being suspended off the bus. He breaks things, he doesn't listen, and quite frankly the kid drives me nuts most the time. I feel bad for how I feel, but honestly I wish we could just give him back. I don't know what to do. I am so worried about when I am actually a full time parent to him, because I'm not right now. I take him to church and spend time with him but I don't even see him everyday right now. Let alone living with a disobedient child. I'm worried how this will effect the relationship with my fiance. My step son has already been the subject in many disagreements. Plus, my fiance is young as well. He is only 23, his son was born when he was just 15. He's never had his son full time before now and, well, a lot of the time he isn't really sure what to do about his behavior. There have been a couple times that my fiance has had to spank his son, which used to be the first thing he'd do but I believe that spanking should only be used as a last resort and am making him raise his son that way. We have a lot of different views on how to raise kids but we usually just don't talk about it because we don't have to deal with it yet. We avoid it because we know it'll end up being a fight, because I know I'm right..lol... I just have more experience than him with kids. He didn't know his son was his son till the kid was 2 years old, and he has pretty much been a weekend dad. He never really got him on a regular basis either, he was a half assed dad before he met me, but I made that change as well. I've wrote a lot and I know it, but I don't want to lose my fiance and I don't know how to deal with what's coming. I'm scared, I've actually joked with him and said, why don't we just keep him at your gma's and we'll get a place, or cant we just give him back to his mom... Problem is, im kind of not joking. I feel bad but hey, im only 20. I am still going to stick it out I just wonder if any other step parents out there had these feelings.