Blacksheep in the family...

@kissie34 (2295)
Philippines
June 13, 2008 1:24am CST
Hey guyz, how do you define the these, "BLACK SHEEP IN THE FAMILY"?? I don't know if this story that I will share will be categorize as the black sheep in the family... I have a brother, actually he is my older brother. When we were a kids, we are very close to each other. He is always there at my side, he is always there to protect me. But as years pass by, when he is in his high school days he is now different... He is not anymore my brother, he is a stranger to me now. He don't share his problems to me, he don't even share his experiences. Until, we never talk like before, until we never see each other like before. When he was in College, I only see him once a week even though we were staying in one house. He goes home very late, he don't sometimes going home. He will just sleep in his friend house. Until the time that I don't know him anymore... When he graduated college, my parents give him a small business to start since they trust my brother so much... One day, we just find out that he was gone. He run away from us. We don't even know where did he go, and what was his problem why he ran away. I tried to contact him in many ways like calling and texting him now and then, chatting him, emailing him but he would never responce to any of my calls, texts, emails... Our mother was so much worried about him, and my father was so mad at him of what he did... Until we find out the real reason why he ran away.. It is because he was fooled by someone and all of our money was gone. Maybe because of so much scared, that is the only things that he think that he can escape from us, especially from my father... After 2 months, he contact us and asks us help because he really need money... Since, he is my brother, I tried my best to send him money and I tried to help him... After a month, we find out that he has already a baby. We were shocked, so because of his baby he came back home... My parents accept him and give him another chance... We open another business for him which he really like... But the same thing happen, he ran away and nothing left us... All of our money are gone... We were trying to contact him but same as before, he never answered... Now, since he left us with so much problems because we had find out that he has plenty of debt from other people that cost more a half of million pesos... We do not know where can we get that kind of big money to pay all of his debt and to save our business... My parents don't know anymore on what to do, on how to solve this problem.. Even I, I really don't know what should I do in order for me to help my parents... Do you think that my brother is the black sheep of our family??? Does your family have some problem like this??
3 responses
• Singapore
13 Jun 08
i'm sorry to hear that your family has been through so much.. well.... i don't know much about having black sheeps in the family just maybe having troublesome ones... there are so many people in the world that you don't know who are the nice ones and those who are not.. even your own family members.. my family has it's problems at time.. we feel angry with each other at times and shout.. but in the end, we go back to loving each other all over again.. i feel that your brother takes advantage of his family cause he know you guys will always be there for him.. make him know that know that you will be there for him but since a family also nutures... make him learn his lesson this time round and pay his own debts.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
I think no matter what he'll do we are still there for him because he is still my brother and he is always be part of our family.. So, matter what he did I think we are still going to help him... As what we always do since before...
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I think your brother had some sort of mismanagement but that doesn't mean that he's a blacksheep. Well in our case, i thought i was the blacksheep coz most of my siblings are really obedient to my parents unlike me. But now I realized that it's my sister who is not really black sheep but the most apathetic amongst us which really sucks.
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
13 Jun 08
i dont think your brother is a black sheep of the family... i think he just does not value family and i dont think he ever will. i think that since he is like that, approaching you only when he needs help, you should just not communicate ith him... so what if he is your brother? he obviously does not feel the same towards you...