What would you prefer? To Love or be loved?
By iskayz
@iskayz (5420)
Philippines
June 14, 2008 6:39am CST
Hi to all!!
In courtship, who would you choose to have a relationship with?
The person who loves you most... or the person you love most? Justify..
11 responses
@jeiyah_12 (1041)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I'd prefer to be with the person who loves me most. I'll frankly say that I'm afraid to love somebody because I am afraid he'll not love me the way I do love him. On my last relationship, I realized that I'm just the only one who give and give until he cheated on me. I don't want to experience that thing anymore so I'd prefer to be with the guy who will love me. A guy that can accept me for who I am, a guy who can laugh at my jokes, a best friend-boyfriend and a guy who never want to see me cry. I bet all girls want to be loved by somebody. But I think it is hard if We don't love the person who is loving us. That hurts. It is always much better to be with someone who loves you and you love too.
@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
I prefer to be loved. It's hard to love someone that doesn't love you or cannot love you back. And It's easy to love somebody who loves you. I guess, this is some what weird. But during courtship some male really prefers to look for a girl they like and If the female doesn't want them, they still strive just win the girl. Maybe this is the perfect guy I am referring too. Be loved by someone is very rare than loving someone without loving you back. I hope you get my point, thanks for the post.
@Allie_xoxo (1063)
• Canada
14 Jun 08
Oh wow... this is hitting home. I've been in a relationship with both.
Guy #1 is a mysterious Pician with an air of slight bad a*s and ooh he gives me butterflies. When he'd kiss me the world would melt away and so would I. He didn't always say the right things and sometimes he made me cry, but one smile and I just couldnt help myself. When you love somebody that love is so very blind.
Guy #2 a Virgo, is one of my very best friends. He's full of life and laughter and has a big heart. With him I'm comfortable and myself, but I'm not head over heels.
the truth is loving and being loved are equally confusing.
@sherylljoan (23)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I would prefer both.. I think its better to have those both because its kinda unfair in both sides if one of which is not present, right? I will not waste my time loving a person if he will not love me back....
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
Dear Iskayz, logically and rationally I'd choose to have a relationship with the person who loves me most. Well, it means he will cater to my needs, take care of me, give me what I want (sounds very selfish, right?) Moreover, I will not need to commit myself so much emotionally, that is, I can remain detached. On the other hand, when you are madly in love, rationale flies out of the window. So in that situation, if I have to choose between two men, one who loves me, and another I love - I'd most likely want to be with the one I love.
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
Hi lazeebee!
Like you, if I'm going to think about security in a relationship, I would choose the one who really loves me most. Even though I don't love the person that much. Yes, it may sound selfish but no, its just a matter of being practical in life. I can also learn to love the person back in return.
Sometimes in relationships its not just all about love. You must also use your ability of reasoning and thinking. That's why God puts the brain above our hearts so we can reason out and think fairly, cause sometimes its the heart's decision that causes us grief. But who knows. I'm not in that situation yet so I wouldn't really know who would I choose. But if ever I'd be in that situation (I hope I wouldn't be)I'd probably choose the one who really loves me and pray to God to help me decide what would be best for me.
@vermillion (887)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I want to be loved because i'm the type of person who can learn to love someone no matter who they are(^^,)
@lanyoublue2008 (882)
• China
14 Jun 08
Maybe both, you could choose which make you more happy!
If you love someone,when you could help her or him ,you also get happiness!
@andyel2023 (218)
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
i wont choose from it.. because if i wanted to be in a relationship i want that i love the person and same as that person to me...so that it will be equal and mutual..
