I don't feel anything good to celebrate this Father's Day

father's day - happy father's day
@djmarion (4898)
Philippines
June 14, 2008 10:45am CST
I don't have special moments to share here involving my father, you may think i am a bad daughter for telling that but no, my father is not a good father in my point of view, he did nothing to raise us and my mother is the only person who did everything for a living, i grew up not remembering anything special that he did, infact i grew up without him, he is with his other woman, while my mother slave herself to feed us and give us good future, my father i guess is taking the time of his life impregnating his mistress. He came back when i was in elementary and if you think he made up for the lost years, you are wrong...he made our life a living hell, he is a drunkard and rude, he has a lot of vices, he beats us when we don't give him money. I will not forget One time when he targets my mother and me with a knife that almost killed us. I don't hate my father, afterall those bad memories i still care for him, he's old now and sick (i guess its his Karma) but if you think he now change, you are wrong again, he's still the same: rude, cold and heartless. I don't understand why my mother cannot leave him. He's with us, making our life miserable everyday. I don't know when it will end but to tell you the truth as much as i want to feel cold and insensitive, i can't, it still hurt me everytime i see him..old and a bit weak but still drinking and continually showing his unlikely attitude. I am not close to him, infact none of his children are. We are all aloof and distant and he cannot blame us for that. That's what he made us into. It's what he sowed in us that he now reaps.
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@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Perhaps you could begin celebrating it as "Sperm Donor Day"! Just be grateful you exist at all and celebrate that. The people in your present life are grateful for that.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jun 08
djmarion I feel your pain and know in some ways where you are coming from. my father appeared to othersas a kind compassionate doctor, country doctor, but this same supposedly wonderful man molested me at age eight, betrayed my innocence and my love for him, only once, but that was once too often, a selfish thougthless repulsive act 'that sickened me for him the rest of my life,my hatred for him was making me ill so my husband insisted that I do forgive him, and when I did a ton of worrry rolled off my 'shoulders. but I can never forget. I owe him nothing, hes been' gone a long time now. but on fathers day I do feel bitter again.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I am sorry about this story djmarion, it's very touching. I wonder what made him feel or act that way, maybe he has too much pride that even if he want you all to feel his love, he doesn't want to show it! I understand what you feel. Have you tried writing him a letter? like expressing their all what you feel towards him and your care and love at the same time? Maybe if one of his kids will do that, he will see a light and be more open to what he really feels for you! I am sure he has that love for the family but he just don't want I guess to fail, rejected because he is guilty for everything that he offers to you all, a miserable life!
@jasonG (4)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I really feel for you. I mean I can totally relate with you. I lived with my father until the time I was 8 years old. He also was a drunk,abusive both physically and mentally. He would come home and beat me and my sister for no reason alot of the time. One time I got a D on my report card and he beat me with a belt until all the blood vessels in my but were broken. I couldnt sit for a week. There I was 6 years old thinking of ways that I could run away. Funny thing is I still love my father too. Its natural cause they're blood. I know you have a crummy father as many people do but just do your best to try and forgive him and think of all the possitive things you have going on in life. If you need a friend or someone to talk to Ill be here.