When your wife dresses for an outing.....

@muscare (3069)
Australia
June 15, 2008 2:33am CST
do you have the right answer when she asks whether her outfit is right? Or, if you are the wife or partner, do you ask whether your attire is good, and do you get the answer you want? I have to say that I'm lousy with fashion, and when my wife asks, I usually mumble something like 'looks good'. Then she'll show me a different top and ask which one goes better with her pants. I like the one she likes, I'll tell her, which is obviously non helpful, and she tells me as much in similar words, LOL! So how about the rest of you, do you say what you want them to hear, or do you honestly know, and give them a good review on their fashion.
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@eagle_f15 (2052)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
I am the wife and I do ask my husband's opinion and it is an honest answer cos my husband is one person who will tell you straight to the face. He's not the smooth lip type who will tell you what you want to hear. He will tell you what you are suppose to and must hear.!!!! LOL
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@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
I have to say that I can tell my wife if I like something, but if I don't I more indecisive, saying things like 'I'm not really sure that goes with that' or something along those lines. That's usually enough though, and my wife will change.
@zweeb82 (5713)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 08
Am I that bad or am I just that blunt? Hahaha
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
15 Jun 08
hello muscare, i have to smile when i read the whole discussion as i can imagine you mumbling and wondering if your words is right or not - poor wife LOL. to answer your question, i do picked my hubby's clothes 98% of the time. he gets up in the morning and take a shower and all is ready for him even his toothbrush LOL i enjoy dressing him up but most of the time i picked his clothes based on what he likes and just adding what i want to see in that very day haha. i do wear clothes mostly based on my choice but sometimes he will tell me to change it as i look younger than my real age specially if we will go meet some friends in a nice place. i dont think he dont like what he sees at all coz most of my clothes is picked by him coz he shopped for me and give that as his surprised gifts (for no reason at all haha) he knows my sizes and what i like in a clothes so i dont get worried about it BUT sometimes he picks some design that i feel is too old for me and so i tell him that i dont like it. it is easy for us to tell what we like and what we dont like as we feel it is much better in our relationship to be honest. i tell him what i think and he do the same, and so far that is working hehe btw, i like to ask him anyway if he likes what i am wearing or if i look good coz i like to see his reaction or to get a reaction (i guess you know what i mean LOL) have fun. takecare
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
Grum..gurg.snurl..mumbl..ign...did you follow that jairgirl, or wasn't I speaking clearly enough, LOL! It's nice to know you both obviously know what each other likes, and I can see that he doesn't want you looking younger, and you don't want to be looking older. My wife will pick clothes for me when shopping, which is probably good, as I would probably always wears jeans and a black t-shirt. At least it's easy and I don't need to think about it. I hate clothes shopping, so I don't do it for myself, and I definitely couldn't do it for my wife. Yes, I know what you mean about getting a reaction, I think that is the only reason my wife asks me anymore!
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
16 Jun 08
believe me i can understand it clearly even if you are talking in tongue LOL... my hubby dont really care about my look as a teenager coz he always end up having the giggle when a 14 year old kid flirt with me and thinks i am his age or some other teenager that we crosses outside. BUT yes, sometimes he asked me to dress older coz some places asked for ID's and i dont like to bring one so he always have to get his wallet and show my ID or tell them i am his wife. with regards to me looking older, i love to look older or at least my age for that matter BUT i dont like to wear a clothes that is some what like my granny will waer. i love vintage clothes and i have a thing for clothes from the 50's to 70's but that doesnt mean i have to wear something like will make me feel TOO old, i guess you know what i mean. hahaha, so you are like "simon cowell" a jeans a black shirt ei? im sure your wife would love to see some color there. im glad my hubby dont settle for one color only, tell your wife to start picking your clothes LOL hmmmmm REACTION.... love that reaction it always leads to some other reaction LOL btw, my hubby loves to shop and mind you most of the shopping area we go they know him well and will always tease me that he shops greatly for me. takecare
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
LOL, that must've been real flattering, having a 14 year old flirt with you. I bet your hubby was real worried, LOL! That is funny though, as my wife always says the younger girls always flirt with me....no, actually she thinks all women flirt with me. I don't see it, though, although she does like to show me off, though I think she's delusional to think that I'm anything special, LOL! I don't know jairgirl, won't be too much longer before you can make grannies clothes look good, LOL. Sorry, couldn't resist. I am starting to wear more colour, though nothing too outrageously bright, and I need to take it slowly. It must be nice to have your hubby liking shopping, as neither my wife or I like it.
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
16 Jun 08
I will tell my partner honestly about what I think about that outfit that he wears because I alway wanted him to tell me the truth instead of "quite good", "looks good" etc..
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
Yes, that is a good point, you treat someone the way you want to be treated, and the same goes with the clothes you are wearing. Honesty is always the best policy.
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Jun 08
I think most guys are the same, mine always said what he thought I wanted to hear but one day I put on an old dress I really disliked and wow I asked him how it looked and he said, thats the uglyiest dress I have ever seen. I had to laugh as that was the correct answer lol loland lol
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
I think that is funny, and you obviously wanted to see if he was paying attention all those times, LOL! My wife also has one or two dresses that would get the same reaction, if she put them on.
@cncoke (439)
• China
16 Jun 08
Oh, I care about it a little. I nver mind my wife is wearing any colourful dresses.I always talk baout and care about the food. How can we cook for our health. As the clothes she wear on I care little, I seldem bought her clothes,She bought the dresses for herself by herself. But the clothes she bought are more fashion. I like all the dresses she bought.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
Her dresses are obviously good if you like them, I'm sure you'd notice more if she wore something you were unaccustomed to.
@Adelida2233 (1008)
• United States
16 Jun 08
I don't generally ask my boyfriend, mainly because I don't want to know. That sounds awful, but true. I work in fashion, so I know how to match outfits and colors accordingly. Generally if I'm leery of something, I won't wear it. My boyfriend is honest to a fault. Asking "Do I look fat in this?" is not something that will ever come out of my mouth. He will tell you though, good or bad.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
Working in fashion, I don't think you really need any input on how you look, as I'm sure you always have the right look. It's good that you are never left wondering what your boybriend thinks of anything, whether you wanted to hear it or not.
@Darkwing (21588)
16 Jun 08
I'm a woman who never asks this question, because I dress for myself, in a way that makes me feel comfortable and which is of no consequence to anybody else. They either accept me as I am, or forget it! However, I think that if I were a man whose wife or partner kept asking how she looked in a certain attire, I would probably tell her she looks beautiful in anything. That would shock her into silence, I feel! She'd probably never ask again, unless she felt very insecure about your response and I doubt that would happen. Brightest Blessings.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
That is a good way to be, dress as you want to because you are comfy with it. I know as a guy, that is what I do, I guess I expect too much that my wife would be the same in that respect. As for your idea, I'm not sure anything could shock my wife into silence, LOL!
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
15 Jun 08
Let's see...hmmmm..Okay, when I used to ask, "How do I look?" The answer was, "You look fine." I would say, "Fine, just fine?" What do you mean by "fine?" Of course he would say, "Fine, then you look Good, how's that?" I was hoping for Fabulous, or Gorgeous.....But "fine" and "good" was all I got...LOL Well, at least I went up a letter in the alphabet, from "f" to "g", so I shouldn't be complaining, right? I have a habit of asking the, "How do I look question way to much." Now he doesn't even look and just answers.....LOL
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
Oh, Feona, I'd tell you that you looked fabulous or gorgeous, or both.....Ok, who am I kidding, I'd answer the same way as hubby, LOL! Sorry, I really am lousy with fashion. As for the 'how do I look' question, my wife used to ask it too much, now I think she just thinks better of it, and I always get caught if I answer without looking.
• India
15 Jun 08
I absolutely love fashion, so i dont have a problem in choosing over my clothes or my sonz clothes, and my husband is not bad himself. So we dont face that problem, but if i dont like his attire regarding something, i just say it out and yeah, he quickly changes it.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
Loving fashion has to be a big bonus in knowing what looks good. I really feel I can only answer what I think, but I do worry that my wife might 'dress down' because I don't like something fashionable.
@ruby222 (4848)
15 Jun 08
I think as you say its maybe better to be kind and just say that she looks lovely rather than to offend her and say otherwise lol..its a very difficult situation really..its a no win situation too....but just tell her she looks wonderful and you wont go too far wrong!!!
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
15 Jun 08
Yes, I know exactly what you mean about being a difficult situation, LOL! I tend to try and agree with her choice, as I'm not really up on the changing fashions, and just because I'm not keen on an outfit, doesn't mean it won't look good.