The erased numbers out of the cell phone...
By cream97
@cream97 (29085)
United States
June 15, 2008 7:31am CST
Well some of you know the story about my husband being accused of cheating by his own sister.. Which is not yet factual... Well, he asked me if I was using his old cell phone, and I told him that I was really not using it, because it had no minutes on it. So, I let him have it. He said that he was going to use this cell phone to store numbers in, that he does not use or call, that is in his main cell phone. So basically, he took phone numbers out of his main cell phone, and he transferred these numbers to his old cell phone, the one that I gave to him. Well as I was sitting here thinking about this, I decided to check his cell phone just to see what numbers that he took out. I don't really remember off hand the phone numbers by heart. But what I do know is that, most of the numbers that he has were girls names, with no last name beside it. So I checked his main cell phone and the numbers that are missing is no longer in his phone. All I see is regular businesses and family members, or people that I may be familiar with. The names of the girls that had no last names by it, were gone out of his phone.. I remembered a few names in his main cell phone, that had no last names by it of a bunch of female names, now these names are gone from his phone. Now you tell me what should I believe? Is he hiding something? How come the phone numbers of all of the girls, with no last names are erased, and no longer in his cell phone? I am wondering why did he take them out.. I don't know if his sister told him that I looked through his cell phone or not. I know that I told her that I do. And isn't it a bit weird for a married man to have many names of females in his business cell phone, that has no last names beside it..? What does myLot think?
Also, in his main business cell phone, there are only a few names that are missing.. I saw that Nya, and Paige are no longer in there, as so many others. I did wrote down the suspicious female names with no last names beside it.. But then I threw it away, because I did not ever want him to find out that I secretly looked in his cell phone.. The names mentioned, are just the ones that I have remembered. The other ones, I can't recall. But I know there were more names than these two, I just can't remember what the names and phone number were..
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11 responses
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I think there's something fishy going on here and you'd better have a talk with him. Don't accuse or get mad, just confront him about all this little stuff you've noticed and tell him that you and others are suspicious. If he's cheating and admits it, offer him a chance to go to marriage counseling. But men rarely admit it, they don't like confrontation and they have it so good that they want it to continue as it is.
You two really need to talk.
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@cream97 (29085)
• United States
15 Jun 08
Yes, I know.. Everyone says that my sister-in-law is just jealous of our marriage. And she warns me of his infidelity. But I don't know what to think anymore.. How come he just all of a suddens takes numbers out of his main business cell phone just to put them in his old cell phone, that does not have any minutes... And the thing is this, I don't even see this cell phone around the house.. He has his main cell phone visible out in the open, but the other one cannot be found.. I don't see it laying around..
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I'm sorry, Cream, but that's a big red flag. Moving those numbers to another phone that has now vanished looks like he's using it to talk to those girls. I agree with dragon54u, the two of you need to talk and you need to get some answers about this phone game he seems to be playing.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jun 08
cream you are going to have to confront your husband with
what you have told us, as this is otherwise going to
corrode your marriage anyway. so he gets upset, you still
have the right to know what the heck he is doing and
why the sneakiness with the cell phones. if he is indeed
playing around you need to know now and get the two
'of you into marriage counseling. Also I would not confide
anymore in his sister either. do not trust her she could'well
have told him about you and the cell phone. talk to him.
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@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
15 Jun 08
wow! Sorry to say but maybe he is hiding something.For me, maybe you will asked him about the numbers stored in the other phone as if you didn't know it, then ask him why you need to move it there and who are they..like that and if he will not open, I would say, that is a problem now. I hope someone who have the same experience will enlighten you about this case..
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@jonesy123 (3948)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I hate to say this, but it is definitely a bit suspicious. If you want to figure it out, let the old phone used to store those girls' names get 'lost'. Let it fall behind the couch or somewhere where it could have happened to end up by accident based on where he keeps it but it is not easily accessible without things being moved to reach for it. Then wait and observe. If he still keeps calling those numbers he will start looking for the phone. Take your cue from what you see.
Also, if his own sister makes allegations like that even if done hatefully and as revenge, there is usually some truth to it. But before you jump to any conclusions you need to thoroughly investigate and weight your options as to what you want to do when he indeed would be cheating on you.
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@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I would have called those numbers and names. too late now. chances are if he is cheating he is not going to tell you. I would try talking to him about it and keep a good eye on him. no one deserves to be cheated on and hurt like that. I think cheating is one of the worst things you could do to a person emotionally.
@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Before this discussion I was in agreement that the SIL had some issues but now red flags are going up everywhere. Believe me it is never a good thing or an innocent thing when your husband starts hiding things. The fact that the phone has now "disappeared" leads me to think he is using it to contact those girls that were in his other phone. This is not good. I put up with a cheater for 5 years and it nearly drove me crazy cause he would play mind games with me to hide what he was doing. Like for instance I found a letter in the glove compartment of the car (wasn't snooping had to find stuff for our insurance guy) and in the letter the woman said "when we make love it is not like with me and bear" ok so this fool tries to tell me she didn't mean "make love" in a physical sense but just talking to each other (oh and bear was her husband). this woman was 15 years older than my ex husband and he had also had an affair with her daughter who was 5 years younger than him (he was 23 at the time).It was always like that. You need to get to the truth of the matter and that is no easy task.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
16 Jun 08
i think its not so easy. may be between your sister in law and husband, there are something that they know only. may be you do not have clear idea in this regard. just you can have a clear talk with your husband. don't get furious,. maintain the cool.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
16 Jun 08
It sounds like trust has all but left your marriage. I'm not giving you advice but if you take the SIM card out of his phone(s) and put it in yours you may be able to write down all the names and numbers. You can also call your cell company and find out the phone records.
