Does absence truly make the heart grow fonder?
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
June 16, 2008 3:22am CST
My bf and I have been spending quite a bit less time with one another in the last 30 days. 1st I went to Las Vegas overnight to meet a client, then I came home and it was time to start getting ready to go on a cruise to Jamaica and other points south with another client for a week. Well the cruise was 1 week but we stayed in Miami the day previous to our sail date and the day following our cruise so it was a total of 9 days. It seems that everyone missed me terribly while I was gone. Especially my old man. However a week and a half following my daughter was graduating High School in Las Vegas the 12th and so it was travel cheaper and lighter alone or take him with me? I chose to take him with me, because I wanted to share the experience and I wanted to to stop leaving him home alone.
This morning I dropped him off at the airport so that he could go back to Boston, MA for 13 days. Whew! luckily this is almost the last of the traveling that we need to do in this whirlwind of traveling. I have to go back to Vegas next month and after the way he acted this past week (he's been stressed out, and money is extremely tight for our household right now.) I really do not wanna take him, though when I arranged this trip I did invite him, because at the time I did want to take him with me.
Everyone always says that absence makes the heart grow fonder for your loved one. I tend to believe that extended absences from your loved one, tend to remind them of how easy it is to get used to living without you. I do not like all this traveling that we are doing lately but that is jsut it, it is neccessary. It is also cheaper to transport one person than it is to take two. Or taking the other is just not financially or logistically possible. Soon we will be the homebodies that I like being again. My question is, do you think that taking extended breaks (1 - 2 wks) if a strengthening factor or do you think that it weakens the bond between you?
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5 responses
@mjsintos (17)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
plan and adopt. plan for times to be together and learn to adopt to those times when you need to be apart. what happens along the way is a thing way out of our hand. not all the time absensce strengthens a relationship that is why we are given this new technology to communicate for better relationship.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Unfortunately the bf is not a subscriber to all of the new technology so what we have is the telephone and that is it. Even if he was computer literate there is no computer at his 89 year old mother's house so the end result would still be telephone or nothing.
@andyel2023 (218)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
well...me and my boyfriend are not seeing each other lately...and it made me miss him so much...even him...he always calls me...wishing he can go here in my house so he could see me...but unfortunately, my parents doesn't want...we just cope up with communicating always so that both of us will feel good and not doubt or feel upset...because of the distance..
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
20 Jun 08
If it is your family's desire to seperate the two of you what makes you believe that they will ever allow him in your life at some later date If they are what seperates you now they will be what keeps you seperated. But having removed him they almost certainly have promised your hand to another by now or at the least they intend to.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
17 Jun 08
Being away from my American husband (he's in AZ, I'm in Canada!!) is hard. We are working on ways to be together and saving money for travel. We miss the crap out of eachother.
@prashanth_vv (848)
• India
20 Jun 08
well me and my girlfriend were separated recently for abt a month!!we just talked occasionally in between but then it wasn't proper talking..both of us missed each other terribly and after we came back from our vacations we got back together properly!
